Why do some people find it necessary to do everything for everyone and get into everyones business?

Question

This is to the point where people are really not liking this person. If someone says "I'm going to make something", no matter what it is, she does it for them. Basically she is treating adults like they are children.I'm bordering on the mental disorder. The replies here are right on with how she is.Thanks!!

Answer 1

when people are obsessed with "helping other people" to a level that is annoying and "in their face" it is usually due to emotional issues of their own. a need for approval, acceptance, being right, wanting to appear "in charge" or helpful. by being overinvolved with other people and their issues, it prevents the person from focusing on their own issues and problems.

Answer 2

Some people feel the need to help others even if someone does not ask for help. The intentions are good if the person is trying to help the other, but if they are agitating the situation by their actions then it is best to talk to them.

The easy answer would be that some people are just like that. Either they were brought up that way or that have a complex.

Answer 3

Some people need to feel important and crave being the center of attention even if for only a moment. The dogooder often lacks personal self esteem and is looking to feel better about his/herself by praise from others. The dogooder is not capable of complimenting his/herself and thrives on being thought of as good by the people who surround their lives. The person who gets into your business may have a false sense that they are taking care of you. They are acting in your best interest. But the key here is wanting to be in the center of someone's attention.

Answer 4

It's called the 'Florence Nightingale Syndrome', an ILLNESS in it self (to me anyway). Some people as u say have the uncanny sensation to feel needed. They feel needed by taking care of someone else in worse shape than themselves, never once realizing that that person may no longer need their help if in fact they ever did. These people are compel to protect and become overprotective of their charge. They will make themselves self appointed representatives of the person they claim to be taking care of. It's sad because often times they don't realize that they themselves are in dire need of professional help and don't recognize it or ever want to hear that they are afflicted themselves.

Answer 5

Annoying, isn't it? One of my co-workers will add to every conversation out there, which means everyone has to stop and catch her up on it. It's been going on for years. The best I can do is ignore it, but that only works for so long. And then she gets offended and bent out of shape, but this conversation didn't have anything to do with her in the first place! Hmmm. Guess I needed to rant about it, even though I didn't answer your question. Sorry.

Answer 6

The feel inadequate and unwanted and have to insinuate themselves into other people's lives. Poor social skills have ensured they are lonely. They think they are superior to others and so can judge others and try to make them do their bidding. They are powertrippers, sociopaths, dysfunctional, and pathetic.

Answer 7

because they have nothing better to do with there time but to act like a child.Tell the person to grow up n get a life and stop destroying everyone elses.

Answer 8

Reminds me of Marie Barone, from the show "Everybody Loves Raymond". She gets on my nerves.

Answer 9

sometimes we see things better from the outside of situations.
and sometimes we find life more barable when we do not focus on ourselves.
some people are however just noisy.

Answer 10

In opinion, i'd say the lack in social skills and the main one missing would be understanding the word "respect" in whole. Thanks for asking.