When is love, love?

Question

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Answer 1

When it is unconditional. That means that the person continues loving never mind what the other party does.

Most people "love" only if, or only until, but that is attachment, not love.

Does this make sense?

Answer 2

When seeing someone across the room makes your day. When it doesnt matter how they look you think they're wonderful. When they dont care how you look, and still tell you your beautiful. When they know instinctivly when something's wrong. When they feel the same way about you and have no embarresment about telling people. When it can turn a normally unromantic, business like person into a person who writes sappy love letters. When you have to leave them, move away or such, you cry so hard you cant see straight and have no appitite and they beg you to eat and feel better. When they are your closest friend and more. When they accept your friends,even if they don't like them. When you can fight bitterly, and all it takes is a simple sorry or a sad look to end it. When you fight about one of you putting thierselves down. When they tell you they love you every chance they get. When they will do anything for you, and you are willing to do anything for them, if it is in thier best interests. When a simple touch on the hand send shivers down your spine. And finally, when there is no one else you want more then them, even if you think they are more attractive, you love the person you love because they are that person. You love thier laughter, you love thier sadness, you love thier joy, you love thier moodness, you love to make them laugh. You love their soul, and even enjoy little arguements with them.(because no paradise is perfect). when thier quirks dont tick you off, but make you love them more. When you can love everything about them, thats love. Need I say more?

Answer 3

When you're with them & there's nowhere else you'd rather be.
When you look into their eyes & feel like you're finally home.
When they are the most beautiful thing you've ever seen or felt.
When you realize that you would do anything for them, even give your life if it came to that (run into a burning building to save them).
When you can't imagine life without them.
When they make you want to be a better person & actually help you to grow.
When you know each other inside out, accept each other, laugh at the same jokes, know each others deepest darkest secrets.
When you could talk for hours or days about anything.
When they're your best friend & best lover ever.
When you want to spend the rest of your life with them...

That's when love is love! Very rare though. Usually it's not love, but something else people just call love (infatuation, lust, affection, friendship etc).

Thanks for your time. :)

Answer 4

So many have made great attempts at answering this one perfectly. Some hit, some miss. But the best way I have ever heard this defined, by a writer, (R. A. Heinlein, in A Stranger In A Strange Land). He said, and I quote: "Love is the condition in which another person's happiness is essential to your own."

Concise, to the point, and true, yet I think one needs to personalize that, for each affair must be unique. Love is all you need, as the Beatles sang. All you need is Love, sang John Lennon, too. Honesty, sharing, caring, nurturing, growing, doing all these as a couple add to the equation. Trust is paramount, too, for without trust, all is lost.

Love is, I believe, what you make it, and what you bring to the relationship to see it work, and to make it through the tough times.

Have an awesome day!

Answer 5

It depends on what you are defining as love.

Romance, in general, is a hormonally induced automatic enticement to procreate, and ensure the continuance of the human race. I think, also, that karma chooses who this will occur with, so that we can learn our lessons, and overcome our illusions.

Once the romance has settled down, one chooses to love. One chooses to be kind, to put the other's needs on a level of one's own, or in some cases above. It is not a feeling, as feelings can be deceptive.

It is more a decision. If both parties make the same decision, to love in all circumstances, then the way is paved for a permanent and satisfying relationship. Your partner can be your best friend and companion, as you both navigate the Earthly journey.

Obviously, some people are incapable in their current evolutionary state to make this sort of decsion and commitment. If you are wise, you will steer clear of relationships with them.

Answer 6

"It doesn't much signify whom one marries, for one is sure to find out the next morning that it was someone else."

Despite our passion for romantic love, relationships are not the easiest way to find love and peace. They are, however, one of the most effective for finding our blocks.

Relationships naturally bring out into full view our desires, attachments and unconscious programs – our likes, dislikes, belief systems, judgments, compulsions, conformities, etc. Relationships challenge us because they take us deep into thoughts, feelings and experiences we have suppressed for a lifetime. That’s why they provide the very best arena for personal growth!

Human relationships are the perfect tool for sanding away our rough edges and getting at the core of divinity within us. It's surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you're not comfortable within yourself, you can't be comfortable with others.
We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that ideal. There is no freedom like seeing myself as I am and not losing heart. If we could learn to like ourselves, even a little, maybe our cruelties and angers might melt away.

Answer 7

When you find yourself doing things for the person you love without expecting anything in return and they do the same to you.Love grows with time and accepting the things you love about the person and forgiving the things you do not like.As long as it is not hurting you or them.

Answer 8

Love is always past present and future.. But the action is only done in the Now, as tomorrow can never repeat itself, and tomorrow will never come... Only Now is the time we have..

Answer 9

when you feel that a second far from him/her is like a year,when you have butterflies in your stomach before going out with him/her although you go out with him/her for some time, when you fight so hard and a simple true smile erase every bad thing ...

Answer 10

When it is love.