my grandaughter who is nine, has been excluded from school for her bad behaviour. This morning her friends came round and i told them she is not playing out, one told the social worker he smoked week and nicked, and another spat at the window when i was in the car. I do not like her going round with them, the thing is she wants to, she has had alot of other friends she can play with, What on eath does she want to play with them for, one boy had a go at me cos i had hold of her arm and told me to let go of it, only cos i did not want her to run off. i am keeping her in now because i do not want her playing with them, but she is giving me so much hassle. Even the social worker said she is just a pawn in the game to them and the minute their is trouble they will blame it onto her, she is doing my head in.
2006-11-18 00:24:23 · 12 answers · asked by guysmithdenise 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if you keep her in they might get bored and leave her alone
2006-11-18 00:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you haven't told her how you feel you should. I think that she might be wanting attention; or she just wants to be cool and be excepted by them. You should tell that is she keeps hanging around with them something might happen at school and she could get really severe consequences. I used to hang out with people who were a bad influence and I would skip school and when I got into trouble I begin saying no. You just need to show her the way.
2006-11-18 00:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by kelsey c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't let them hang out with her. one day they could do something bad and and blame her or just run away and she will get caught. I would just take her to a good friends house and not let her wonder around the street because she could be with the bad kids. You should also invite the good friends to your house so they could play without the bad girls. If they go to the same school then try to punish her when shes with them or tell the teacher to not let her be with them. As they get older the problems could get worse so try to make her avoid them.
2006-11-18 00:32:48 · answer #3 · answered by spikehead 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try arranging for lots of other little girls to come round for a sleepover, arrange things to do, ice cream, magazines, films, food, etc and hopefully she will decide what is good for her. She may react badly and not want to join in, but if you get some good ideas for activities (maybe a dance mat) and get the little girls to play, then she will soon, hopefully, decide it looks like some fun!
Choose little girls that either live close to you, or that are in her classes in school. Get the teacher to help you out.
Maybe take them all for a day out? Theme park, normal park, shopping, etc.
2006-11-18 00:30:48 · answer #4 · answered by jade t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a herd one, because us young ones do not always see what is good for us. i would suggest may be introducing her to new friends or even introducing her to a new hobby. i think she needs all the guidence she can get at this moment, and she needs your advice, but try not to accuse her of any thing as this would just create the opposite effect.
you could also spend alittle more time with her. ask her to take her to the cinema, or out to pizza. and create a bonding session. hope i helped. and if you would like some more advice email me on kakvol@yahoo.com
2006-11-18 00:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sexy-Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, kids with low self esteem will want to befriend tough kids, that will make them look tougher. My advise to you would be to take your grand-daughter to a phycologyst. There, she might be able to get her thoughts out. Suppport her and make sure she knows that you are always there for her. This is just a phase that she will soon grow out of. All kids go through this.
2006-11-18 00:40:20 · answer #6 · answered by fluffysheep12345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her to make her own mistakes, one day she will eventually realise. Do not say "you can't play with them" this will make her want to more. Just subtle hint that they are bad people whenever she gets into trouble because of them, she needs to think it was her a to break friends with them.
2006-11-18 00:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by taxi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are three conflicting ideas here, your ideas, your grandaughters ideas, and her friends ideas.
Although you are trying to accomodate all three its impossible, the key to this are the freinds, who l assume have parents, most likely just as fed up...any chance of a chat with the parents including your grandaughters parents...after all you are the adults..time to show that is the case.
2006-11-18 00:35:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
where are the parents in all this, you need to start explaining the rules of your house to her,, you need to tell her those kids are no good and if they get in trouble while she is with them then she will get in trouble also, she thinks they are cool because they are rebellious, take her to church, get her involved in other things rather than hanging out in the hood
2006-11-18 00:59:31 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rather the perfect difficulty is to think of earlier you act. And in the event that they do no longer look to be your variety of crowd i comprehend its no longer worry-free yet you will desire to locate new acquaintances. think of approximately it this way in the event that they have been rather your friends would they rigidity you into doing property you do no longer prefer to do and experience sorry approximately later?? Theres lots of fish in the sea pass discover a sparkling college to entice close w/.
2016-10-15 17:07:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns grandma! Bravo! By the way, while she's stuck in the house anyway, put her butt to work!
2006-11-18 00:28:26 · answer #11 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋