It's a damn ugly world out there..?

Question

Just a lil' question/dilemma/or whatever..I am in my early 20's and an asian female..Just want to know your thoughts on this..Its not that I hate being asian..in fact I do sometimes wish i was non asian..I hate hanging out in places where there's a congregation of asians..And I hate when asian people approach me thinking that because I'm asian, that we're all gonna be friends...I had heaps of asian friends at high school, in fact just about all my high school friends were asians..but now since i've lost touch with all of them I don't know any. I feel like as an asian, i have to prove myself more..'cos theres all these sterotypes and crap..ugghh..I just get pissed off. I strongly believe that the world is kinder to whites. Its like when I meet people or whatever and when they hear me speak, they're like "WOW..your english is so good"..Its like what the hell, because i'm asian i have to speak like retard..Am i making sense? maybe i'm sounding a lil' irate right now..

Answer 1

I totally understand what your saying. Those people who talk to you are IGNORANT and you must live in a town that's pretty small and close minded place. I know its hard...but try to ignore them the best you can. They have no idea what there talking about...and again there ignorant!! You don't have to prove yourself for any reason, esp because you are Asian. You are who you are and if people don't like it...tell them to kiss it. My suggestion is to seriously move to Hawaii. I'm from Hawaii...and here whites are the minorities and I've been teased all my life because of it. Hawaii is super mixed and theres none of that ignorant crap going on....hey just a suggestion. Start standing up for yourself...god bless you sweetie

Answer 2

I know where you're coming from. My father is asian and my mother white. I have been brought up to be proud of both my heritages and to try my best to bridge the gap! However the reality is it doesn't work that way in the real world. I am lucky in the sense there has never been any pressure to conform, but I still feel torn at things like family gatherings and so on. However at the end of the day I've had to learn to be my own person, whatever that means and come out of it all with a positive attitude. Sometimes it can feel like a lonely thing being independent and finding your own way to feel good about yourself and comfortable with your environment. However it is really worth doing and believe me you'll be a much better person for it!

Answer 3

My half sister is Asian, she looks Asian. She has friends, who are both white and asian. I love Asia, and love to travel there. They such nice people. I live in a Latin country and I am white. And people treat me differently all the time because I am white in a latin country. Sometimes I wish they wouldnt. They always say hey you speak Spanish so well, and yes it frustrates me too. But its the way you think reallly, if you think your the odd ball, you will be, you creat your life, your thought and attitudes make things seem how they are. Maybe you should not think too much about been Asian, and be proud that you are different and unique.

Answer 4

Sweetheart dont deny yourself the privalge of being asian .I have had many asian friends in my life I have only one type I dont like and that starts with V they see to cause more problems and supply drugs than any other asians.I am still nice to them but prefer others.Telling you you speak good english is a compliment so accept it that way .I had a lot of friends talking mandarin and found my own way to speak a little and they were so happy that I made the effort we became instant friends .I am sure there has to be more people like me and frankly I never thought of you as being colored just basicaly black long hair .I fell in love with one but she thought I was too fat and old so that went nowhere but that was her free will choice and I had to accept the rejection..I am old now not quite so fat but if I had my way I would marry an asian woman they have better personalities than our Australian women .So be happy with who you are make the most of life and I wish you the best of luck ...john.SMILE have a nice day.

Answer 5

hey you could have been black girl with those comments.we all feel out of place in a world where everything whit is alright and white seems to be the thing to ascribe to being.Please don't sway from your Asian roots,always keep some of your own inside your circle.If you are ashamed of them then you are ashamed of self. Please don't be because as a black in America we have no culture for our kids,no holidays to pass on,no customs or language or foods even that can be passed on to show our pride for our home land which we really don't know where that is.we only know what the whites have taught us .we weren't allowed to practice our traditions or discuss our home land wit our kids with out being whipped or sold,so be very proud of your Asian heritage and especially those cute little slanted eyes that America has made many of you feel bad about.don't change a thing,at least you can talk about them in their faces and they not know what you mean,we can't even do that because we've been given their language.

Answer 6

The world isn't good to people of all nationalities if they let it be. It's not kinder to whites. I work with people of many different nationalities where I work. Each brings the best of themselves no matter if they are black, Mexican, Filipino or Asian.
I know sometimes things get rough. But keep thinking to yourself you are a good PERSON, not an Asian.

Answer 7

it's cool...don't worry about it ! The U.S. is made up of so many people, and so many languages and accents. You're not the only one. Spanish people say "How you say" ? Love it.....it just goes to show you, humans are so much alike. We need to be more compassionate to each other. Even those of us born here, have accents and "slang" that sound like another language !

Answer 8

Try and ignore the stupid a holes you are obviously an intelligent articulate person, I wish there were more people like you round here .

Answer 9

The next time someone compliiments you on your good English, say Thank You and walk away! Be proud of who you are.

Answer 10

Be proud of your heritage & intelligence, which obviously some rude people lack.