what if you are married and you get infatuated with an office collegue?

Question

happily married and children but you find someone in office very irresistable and you almost love him. he too is happily married. you donot want to end your marriage, you love your husband n kids you are happy. but you want this one too. you donot want to ruin his life and family too? Do you tell him your feelings? yes or no.

Answer 1

BE CAREFUL

Answer 2

Yeah you're so happy you just have to go mess it up. Well since you are so delightfully happy now you really should end all that and be permanently miserable by pursuing an office affair. Then you can share all that misery with your kids, your spouse, his kids and his spouse. And add a little office drama for everyone else in the work place to enjoy.
Why don't you smarten up and snap out of your self imposed dream? Not only do you NOT tell him your feelings but you avoid him at all possible. Even if you have to get transferred. The way your emotional state is in right now you really need to start using your head. If you think you "want this too" then think of what you risk losing if you pursue this. You will pay dearly for this for the rest of your life. So get this foolishness out of your system and get over it-pronto!

Answer 3

If you are even looking at someone else and considering him to be "very irresistble", then you are not happily married. There is nothing wrong with "window shopping", but you've gone into the store with the intention of trying something on. You can't afford it. If you do truly love your husband and kids, turn your energies towards them instead of browsing at someone else. If you are having fantasies of this other person, act them out with your husband instead. Remember why you married him in the first place, and then rekindle those thoughts and feelings for your husband. Remember, marriage takes thought and effort to make it work, but it's worth it, especially when you have children together. Enjoy your family and everything they represent to you, especially around this time of the year with the holidays coming up, family is what's important, not some passing fancy.

Answer 4

Its a normal you get infatuated to some one else whether in office or else were. But the question is the limit of such infatuation??? Is it purely the looks or personality of such a person or sexual attraction..??? Many people start loving movie stars that does not mean they are or will get to do sex with the movie star and even so will they succeed in this....???First decide this what are your limits for your colleague if it is just non sexual tell him you like him just because of is personality. If you have sexual attraction observer him regarding this issue. If he is also having such feeling for you then do a frank talk with him keeping in mind your and his family and effect your relation on your both families. Both of you tell your family if you think you cannot live without sex.If you decide you don't want to indulge in it just forget this issue once forever. Just don't cheat your families for the sake of your sexual curiosity.

Answer 5

while i became youthful I dated a older guy that became married . the subject became i became youthful and he became married. Now i think terrible for the movements that I did. For a million I placed myself able to injury human beings and myself, 2 if he did leave his spouse what appropriate to the subsequent youthful difficulty that got here alongside, and 3 greater suitable than possibly he became only having his cake and eating it to. i'm specific what your feeling isn't mild yet with the condition handy and being in the comparable problem earlier i'd attempt to stroll away. the sentiments I even have now approximately being with a married guy I choose I had usually happening then what i comprehend now. stable success

Answer 6

Does this office love share your feelings? If he does then go get a motel room together and enjoy. Yes, I know, it's wrong by moral standards but what I think or any of these Yahoo misfits think doesn't matter does it? Spouses have been cheating on each other for eons. Be careful and secretive and nobody gets hurt. Just use your head!!!! Unless you are prepared to ruin everybody's life........

Answer 7

It's like you wan swallow and breath at the same time, which is not possible. Before you try it and get troubled, mature and lead a happy life. (Respect the person who is irresistible and his family, you understand the true relationship).

Answer 8

marriage is bond of trust between two people. infactuation doesn't last 4 long. wats going to b wit u is ur husband n ur reltion wit him. strong liking towardsa person may make u go towards him but u must never forget about ur that relation which u have committed to survive 4 long

Answer 9

Marrige is a very sacred thing. You should honor your vows and leave the other guy alone. You say you are happy with your marrige, how would you feel if your husband done that to you? I think you should concentrate on your marrige and leave the rest alone.

Answer 10

Forget about it. It's not even an option.
DO NOT tell him your feelings, don't ruin what great things you already have in your life. How dumb would you feel if you lost your family and then got dumped later by the other guy?

Answer 11

Look, this feeling is common (people who act like "holier-than-thou" are hyprocrites). I go through these kinds of feelings all the time.

BUT, learn to conquer it. Be respectful of your husband and children. They deserve it. Care for them, love them. But feel comfort in that these feelings are common and other have them. But your sense of love and responsibility should be strong enough to keep these feelings at arms length.