I mean-- is there really such a handsome prince charming for me? Or finding my true love, i guess? My Gorgeous savior? My knight in shining armor - - my SOULMATE? All my life, i've been seeing handsome guys as i walk on the busy street, asking my self: can it be that one of them might be able to love me? To treat me nice and kind indeed, to ignore my ugliness and finally see my inner beauty? Can one of these guys be able to love me and show me that I, too, have the rights to be happy? To loved and to be loved? That i, too, was a human, who had emotions and feelings, who can be hurt ? Or am i just waiting for nothing? That the guy i've been expecting to come, that the man i've been waiting for so long doesnt truly exist in reality? Only in my dreams, my illussions and fantasies... Cause handsome man are made only for beautiful woman? That the line 'happily ever after' are meant for gays? LOVE ME, PLS.
2006-11-17 22:31:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
doesn't sound like you have a very high opinion of yourself so that's going to be your first problem in finding true love.
beyond that, i don't think very many handsome guys are looking for ugly guys but i am sure there are some...keeping hoping
2006-11-17 22:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by Spyder 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard on yourself. You seem to be putting so much emphasis on what you consider to be faults. Everybody has weaknesses. Try to look beyond those things and appreciate the inner beauty that you have. If Prince Charming doesn't come along, don't beat yourself up over it. There are plenty of people who never meet that "special one", and that includes those who are rich, gorgeous, famous and spectacular in other ways.
As others have suggested, it might be worth it for you to get some counselling, so that someone can help you to focus on other things. It's like the old saying about the glass being half empty or half full. If you dwell on the sad things in life, then chances are that you will feel defeated in many ways. A counsellor can help you to look beyond these things and to have other goals that are just as fulfilling.
But the bottom line is that you should love yourself first, and don't be upset with yourself. And please stop referring to yourself as being ugly. That is a negative image. If you tell yourself negative things, then you will believe them. Think positive, open your mind and be good to yourself. Good luck, I hope things work out for you.
2006-11-17 23:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by LaRue 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I find it somewhat ironic that you consider yourself "ugly," yet you are holding onto the hope that a "gorgeous savior" will come your way, fall in love with you, and make all your fantasies come true. If you're not even willing to be with someone who's anything less than a "handsome prince charming," how on earth could you expect him to be interested in you?
The truth is that most people have partners whose attractiveness approximates their own. In other words, if you're a "C," you might be causing yourself a lot of unnecessary heartache by waiting for an "A."
Still, anything can happen, I suppose; you might just get lucky and find a wonderful, beautiful man who is not as superficial and demanding in his physical standards as you are.
2006-11-17 23:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'll admit i am a bit shallow. Looks are looks, but the reason why i have stopped that, is because of my past relationships. I won't go for looks anymore (except when its purely a one night stand).
What i seek now is a person who: a) has a good sense of humor b) has a great personality and c) has GOOD self confidence!
You have a low self esteem (obviously), but instead of letting people stand over you, stand up to them. You obviously get the 'i'm quasimodo' line from people who let you down. Why do you allow that. Instead of saying (and repeating) i'm ugly on the outside, repeat the line 'i am beautiful on the inside'. In the end that's all that counts.
And to answer your question, you will live happily ever after. Just look for someone whose personality is great, and not looks.
Wish you all my luck!
2006-11-18 04:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by human_hormone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
handsome guys are in the eye of the beholder. There are many great looking guys out there, not just the straight ones. You never know when you will find your prince charming. Happily Ever After doesn't really exist, whether staight or gay. Life is sometimes what you make of it. Life may not be perfect, but you can enjoy it to your fullest. BTW I am still looking for my own prince charming. So don't be afraid to kiss a few frogs, to get your Frog Prince. There are as many great guys out there as there are types of princes. There is a right one for your story as well.
2006-11-18 02:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by David Y 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey...it sounds like you are setting yourself up for disappointment. There are no truly perfect people. Even the ones you think might be attractive right now, tommorow might look completely different, and definatley in 40 years will look entirely different.
Plus....its not all about the looks. Once those fade away (and they do....just take a walk through an old folks home) you still need someone whos a friend and kind and a good match for you.
2006-11-18 12:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of your effeminacy, so you won't become target practice for turds (the bad, evil guys -- straight guys), and then we'll talk about how ugly you are at that point. Also, engage in intercourse with an overabundance of women, so you can know what the turds are talking about! And don't use the term "gay" as a noun. The word "gay" is an adjective. Use "gayperson", "gaypeople", or "gp" next time when you want to apply a noun to refer to homosexuals. Being gay is not all that we are, you know. Don't let it heterosexually monopolize your whole life like you are doing now!
2006-11-17 23:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by fieldscharlie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WHen people talk to you and get to know you that's when they realize the inner beauty within. As far as the outside, that's where makeovers would help. Always remember that beauty is in the eye of the BEHOLDER. WHat you think is ugley someone else will think is beautiful. Do a search and see where you can get a makeover analysis in your area.
2006-11-18 09:49:17 · answer #8 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The term 'soulmate' is a marketing technique and trademark copywright term of the Hallmark Greeting Card Company, like Santa Clause is a trademark owned by Coca-Cola Amatil.
2006-11-17 22:37:25 · answer #9 · answered by Flashy Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder...
My X was butt-*** ugly, but I loved him beyond all things...his beauty came from the inside....
Yes men who are not "pretty boys" can and do find love, and live their fairy tale
2006-11-18 01:00:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋