What are your thoughts on a man and woman who are in a serious commited relationship bringing another trusted female friend into the relationship for sexual purposes only? It would be to "spice up" the sex life of the commited couple, but where the man is the only one with the sexual relationship with the friend?
2006-11-17 21:59:31 · 11 answers · asked by belyndabeth 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
As long as everyone is unanimous in their understanding of the relationship, it doesn't seem as though there is anything wrong.
2006-11-17 22:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by Satan Lord of Flames 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been the "trusted female friend", as you put it, and so I know how exciting this kind of sexual relationship can be. But, on the other hand, I am also too familiar with the negative outcomes.
The first 2 or 3 times that we had sex was wonderful. The sex was great and we were able to just stay friends afterward as if nothing was going on in the bedroom. Soon, Wife and I formed a bond and were more interested in each other than in Husband- that's where it all began...
Her and I continued to have sex with each other without Husband knowing and soon, we were sneaking off and doing things together like a couple should. He never suspected. FIVE years later, we broke it off and the three of us still remain close friends- just no more sex. Her and I flirt, but nothing else.
So, if you are serious about doing this, consider all of the repercussions. ANYTHING can happen. Be sure that you all are on the same page as far as what this sexual relationship will consist of.
2006-11-18 00:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by iluvmynotebook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A trusted female friend who is there solely to be used sexually? That doesn't sound like a way I'd treat a friend. If he wants non-committed sex why not use a prostitute, no emotional ties at all? If she is willing to have sex with him, are you sure there is nothing more to it on her part? That's quite a favor to do just for a friend. I would also suggest you ask yourself, how is sharing him sexually with another woman going to spice up your own sex life, you'll be getting half as much attention as you do now. I've known people in successful three way relationships, but the two women were bi and were lovers as well. What you describe strikes me as a recipe for heartache, not enrichment of a relationship. Ask him how he would feel about you finding another man to sleep with while he's with his other women, if he doesn't agree, then he probably just wants permission to cheat on you.
2006-11-18 11:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
funny you ask, because my boyfriend and I have played around with that idea for a while. But I don't think we'll do it. The reason I'm with my boyfriend now, is because he was part of a "three some" a while ago, and once I became physical with a third person, I couldn't detach my emotions from the physical and I fell for him. Now we're together. We've been together for 3 years now. Now we're careful not to do anything like that again, altough, I"ll admit, it's so tempting. We have to say it's just going to stay a fantasy, since we learned fantasies aren't nearly as fun once they become real.
My bf had a military friend who was deployed, and convinced his wife to seduce his friend. Not only did his wife seduce her husband's friend while he was away, but she and him fell in love with him. This turned the husband on for a while, until he found out the seriousness of their relationship and that love was involved. Now they're divorced, and guess which two are married?
I would just be careful. I know it's tempting and once you've tried it, you'll probably be able to decide better for yourself - earlier rather than later - whether to continue to pursue it.
2006-11-17 22:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mary Jane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now because you are asking for my thoughts on the matter, I'd say he should only need you to "spice" up both of your sex lives. I personally would never bring another person into the relationship, even if only sexually, because neither my man or I would feel comfortable with it. We are both over the moon with each other and don't want or need anyone else. That is how you and your man should feel about each other.
2006-11-17 22:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For one thing, why does sex need to be spruced up a little? Are you saying it is boring and a yawn fest? There is many ways to make sex interesting, it is called having a imagination. If your imagination involves a bringing in a another chick, than do it. I can think of many ways to keep sex interesting, like positions, role playing, different places (like in public some where, which is always hot knowing you could get caught at any moment.) If you think this is the only way to spice it up, than go for it.
2006-11-17 22:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by Just a broke college student 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One girl will be left out, the other will be pampered. There will be jealousy, lies and tears. Trust will be broken, feelings hurt, bonds will be torn a part.
One girl will get high hopes and unrealistic expectations. The other will feel dejected.The guy will not understand what the fuss is about and dismiss both girls as being hysterical.
There will be no going back if you do this....can you handle that?
2006-11-17 22:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by Flashy Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad choice. It is no longer intimate- believe me there are no such things as trusted females. You´ll be sorry- I am sorry to say.
2006-11-17 23:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by nv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone's being very selfish in the relationship....and it doesn't sound like the lady.
2006-11-18 02:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by Jake 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man there are kids here.BEHAVE.Is there no other aim left in life like help the poor and stuff.
2006-11-17 22:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by zabist 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋