I have a friend who has been living with a guy for almost a year, he has a son. They broke up last month, she still lives there and intends to stay there. She has decided to go back to school for a different degree -- even though I feel the real reason she fails to get a good job is because she's a job hopper and her resume is two pages long of such evidence. I think she needs to move too and be on her own (for once in her life). Yet, I don't tell her any of this....
2006-11-17 21:58:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
try and be subtle and not hurt her feelings when you talk to her about it, the last thing you want to do is ruin your friendship with her.
if she is a true friend she might listen to you, but i really do feel that all you can do is tell her gently how you feel, and if she choses to do nothing about it, then all you can do is sit back and wait until she comes to you for help.
good luck with it
2006-11-17 22:14:22 · answer #1 · answered by He moonwalked on my <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't hurt to tell a friend your ideas, explained properly with real reasons why she should do something or stay in the present situation. Ask her if you can discuss these things with her, could be she likes you as a friend because you do not pass judgement on her and let her make up her own mind, yet you remain a friend anyways. It never hurts to tell the truth unless you know that the truth may hurt more than it may help.
2006-11-18 06:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. PDQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mean they have broke up she is still living in his house? and that you disagree with her decision to go back to school for various reasons but haven't said anything.? are you realy friends?. im not trying to insult you just to understand. are you close. if not so much tell her what you think cause thats the right thing to do. if yes do more than just tell her. help her. do what you must. if she cant understand then make her understand. offer your home for a Little while. make a Little sacrifice. if you care..
2006-11-18 06:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by Alex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to tell her this. she knows where she stands that's why she's staying in a home w/ an ex-boyfriend. If you want to open a dialogue that involves the future and maybe you can slowly bring it around to her situation. don't get jugemental just offer suggestions.
2006-11-18 06:01:39 · answer #4 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you tell her? I tell my best friend what I think even if it is mean, that's why are are friends. If she has a problem with me she tells me how it is too. If she is truly your friend then you should be able to tell her how you feel.
2006-11-18 07:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Loca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. There can be no substitute for honesty. Sometimes a wake-up call is not always what we want but definitely what we need.
2006-11-18 06:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by maryamalizmarie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definetly should tell her what you think and help her if you can. This is what freindship is all about. We care about each other a lot and help eachother too.
2006-11-18 06:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by green eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her learn on her own or be ready to loose her as a friend.
2006-11-18 06:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by porkchophaynes0206 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse u can tell her for ur thought.
2006-11-18 06:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by Roja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is your friend you should tell her wat you think.
2006-11-18 06:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by jojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋