One of my goals in life is to have a child, because I believe that giving life and love is the most wonderful thing in the world andthe time is right for me, as I am with a partner, who loves me and I love him and we are at a very good point in our lives.
However, he first didn't want a child and then after talks he decided to go for it, but now keeps doing coitus interuptus.
Is he lying, just to keep me? Should I leave him? I love him, but if I can't have a child, I will regret it all my life. Please only honest answers.
2006-11-17 20:39:28 · 24 answers · asked by Wednesday 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yeah having children is really the only reason we are here
there is nothing more full filling than looking at your of spring and thinking I made this
Children make your life complete
2006-11-17 20:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well, if you do have a child, get used to coitus interruptus, as it will happen A LOT!
Don't know if he's lying or not, but if he's not on the same page as you on the subject, dump him. It's too big an issue for compromise. This is how kids get screwed up.
On the upside, you can tell him that a father of four answered your question and he can't imagine his life without his kids. I'm very lucky.
Parenthood is a huge commitment and should not be entered into lightly. I think it's the greatest thing I've ever done. The sacrifices are many to be sure, but the rewards are unimaginable, and well worth it.
2006-11-17 20:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by rtanys 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do you love him? Or are you just looking for a father for the child you want? If you love him then you wouldn't want to leave him just because he doesn't want a child right now. But if you love the idea of a baby more than him then why are you with him?
If you are in the right relationship then there will be lots of chances in the future for you to have children. Why the rush now?
My father-in-law has just fathered a child with his girlfriend. He's 51 and she's 44. It's not the way I'd choose to do it but it is still possible.
2006-11-18 02:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you truely love him then the thought of leaving him would not enter your mind. You need to discuss this properly between the two of you so that you both kno how you feel. You dont mention your age, but if you are young you have plenty of time to have a child. If you are older then this is one of the things you need to point out to your partner, but having a child is an important and life changing decision and should not be forced on anyone.
2006-11-17 20:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by Julie S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would say the best thing is to maybe drop the subject of a child for a while and work on the love in the relationship, some people just feel they are not ready to be a parent as they still feel a child themselves, it is hard having children it puts a big strain on any relationship regardless of how strong it is, its a big dicision and a life time commitment maybe it worries him, u say you want a child, ask yourself do you want his child or just any child cos the best things in life are worth that extra wait!!
2006-11-17 23:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by eyoremum2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and try and have a true Heart to Heart with him letting him know of your feelings. See how he feels about the situation as well without getting upset at each other. Listen to each of your thoughts and comments on the whole situation and take it from there. It could just be a case where he's not ready at the moment for the child, or is just scared of the thought of being a daddy.
2006-11-17 20:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by Shawn 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i dont think hes lying 2 u hun, from a blokes point of veiw having a child is daunting, as for women aswell, is he worried hes going 2 be a bad father? i dont know him or his upbringing, but is that part of the problem, i think he just doesnt know if its "time" yet. lol, i had my 24th suprise party last night, and my dad turned up, ive not seen / heared from him in 5 years, for this reason im very unsure about having them,
2006-11-17 20:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by maddogboy 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you really want to have a child and he doesn't, there is going to be a problem. You would be better leaving him and finding someone who wants a child as much as you do.
2006-11-17 20:43:48 · answer #8 · answered by Spinach 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
in dis case, u've gotta compromise well.. losing someone u luv for ur only want is selfish.. he muz haf a reason for nt wanting a child.. know d reasons well n work out solutions from there.. as d questions if u should leave him, can u love somebody else as much to give u a child wen u r still lovin dis man of urs.. d answer only lies wthin urself...
2006-11-17 20:47:08 · answer #9 · answered by baby devil 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
talk to him ... in open.. and tell him that you are very serious about having a child ... tell him to be honest...tell him taht you love him but you want a child....
maybe at this point he is not ready.. but you have to talk to him ... before making any decision of leaving him.. maybe he is insecure of the feeling that you will care for the baby more than him or that he is scared of the responsibilities....
so best is to talk to him...
2006-11-17 20:46:18 · answer #10 · answered by hi 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you know the answer in your heart. He is not the one for you. Dont waste time. Leave him now so you can find someone who really wants kids with you. DOnt miss out on something that is one of your fundamental goals in your life.
2006-11-17 20:42:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋