I am 3/4 Asian, and all of my boyfriends--including my current one--have been Caucasian. This is probably because I was raised in a primarily Caucasian area in the West (not California.)
Two years ago I moved to California to attend university. My university has a high percentage of Asians, which is new to me. I've learned that many Asian guys perceive Asian women who date outside their race as "ugly" etc, and that only the "ugly" ones date outside their race. Additionally, they spout that the Caucasian guys they do date are "nerdy" and geeky, and Asian women are merely submissive.
It's a bit annoying as none of the above is true in my case. My very long term ex was from the Netherlands, and was a complete stoner who had never dated Asian girls prior to me. I have also been asked to model, etc. so I don't think I'm that hideous in that I'm forced to date outside my race.
I guess I'm posting this because I'm a bit peeved after speaking with an Asian guy at university...
2006-11-17 19:36:05 · 10 answers · asked by Noelina 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
As an Asian guy, I don't make such judgments. I honestly don't care about race, but who they are as a person. My cousin is married to a white man so I don't have a problem with it.
However, I can't help but be peeved by Asian women who purposely avoid Asian men because of some prejudices they hold against males of their own race. They are no better than Asian guys who look down on Asian women who choose to date outside their race.
2006-11-19 13:50:27 · answer #1 · answered by Pesto 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Still trying to get your Asian girl? My children are part Asian mixed....I have more than 5 daughters, take your pick! lol Why do you say another race like it should matter. I understand you're not attracted to black girls, etc, etc. I was not attracted to my race for various reasons, part of that was I did not agree with many things in my culture, but as I got older, I learned to appreciate my own race. I married my hubby for love and it was just an added bonus that he was a good mix, but I was not looking into that at the time. The next time you want to hook up with an Asian, try not to stress the "I'm a black male who is not attracted to my own race" sort of thing! That is disrespectful to your race, and we don't need to know all of that until you get to know us a little better. That could be scaring girls off!
2016-05-22 00:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't people find reasons to judge everyone for everything? I can understand why you are frustrated in the situation you're in. School environments seem to breed "group think".
I guess offices have that problem a lot too, if there are enough people.
Don't let it get to you. It's one of the small minded things about humans. We don't have to be that way, but it's easy or comfortable to fall into group thinking and agreement.
There's always a certain amount of risk taking in being an individual and stepping away from the status quo.
2006-11-17 19:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by Susan M 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's possible that they have been taught their whole life that asians should stick together, not date outside of their race, and when a girl passes them over for a white guy it may sting the ego a little bit.
i'm 1/4 asian and when in college dated a guy who was tai and he was very concerned with the size of his "you know" and would always ask me if i thought it was big. there is a perception that asian guys are smaller in that area. i don't know, but maybe they feel threatened??? good luck!
2006-11-18 06:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's not just Asian men who do it; black white brown you name it. There will always be some narrow minded men with the ownership mentality. I guarentee you if you can watch their upbringing you'll see chauvanism at home from both parents. Ignore them, that's all you can do...for they'll never cease to exist. (as much as we'd like them to)
2006-11-17 23:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by Craiova 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of men who are different races see love as a color. They don't believe that falling in love with someone outside of their race is "normal". But it is, so don't worry about what others say. We're finally getting out of our old ignorant racist ways. Just ignore them and move on, and maybe one day they'll stop.
2006-11-17 19:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Who cares?
2014-12-25 12:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Narrow mindedness.
2006-11-17 19:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by Sanmigsean 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sinple-Brainwashed by there parents who in turn was told the same junk too!
2006-11-17 19:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i have lots of asian friends. i think its a lot easier for a asian girl to date anglos than it is for asian guys to date anglos. part of this is because asian guys get these crazy ideas about blonde girls w big boobs, and well you can guess how many of them are just waiting for an asian guy that is 6 inches shorter than she is to come knocking on the door. so in my guess it would be a little bitterness on their part cause they can't get an anglo but you can.
one of the things that makes it hard for me to get along really well with asians (i get along with pacific islanders better) is the way they think in textbook form almost -- everything is sweeping generalization. one of the funniest but also telling was i was in a store and an asian couple were looking at ties. it was a dept store with lots of ties. the guy was looking at a sean john -- it was a nice tie -- but she said sean john was "ghetto" and he shouldn't wear it to interviews -- like the interviewer would check his tie label. which i guess reminds me of another asian i know that likes to take the jackets of his clients so he can check the labels and feel better about himself because he has a prada and they just have burberry. kinda dumb but thats the way a lot of my asian friends think. its kind of sad they think of people the same way they think of ties too.
jeez -- this sounds like i hate asians and i really don't -- just some of their behaviors are odd to me.
be glad you are you -- there is nothing wrong with having an open mind while theirs are still shut.
2006-11-17 19:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋