im 13 and pregnant can you give me some advice
2006-11-17 19:08:55 · 21 answers · asked by nikky m 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You need to find someone that you can trust that is responsible and who will help to guide you through this. Maybe a parent? Don't try to keep it to yourself. You need medical and emotional support. The upset that you may be worried about from telling your parents will only last a short time, I'm sure. They will become more worried about you than angry and right now you need people who are worried about you and who will take care of you. Good luck.
P.S. Please don't listen to people who are telling you to go and have an abortion. This is something that you need to discuss with your parents and not something that you should hide from them. The worst thing that you could do right now is make a rash decision based on fear. You need time and support to get through this.
2006-11-17 19:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by hiyaandpeaceout 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to give advice with very few details about your situation...
first of all, do you want a baby? are you able to cope will a baby? if you have a good family support network and want to keep the baby then your age is not the best, but as long as you have support to give the best life possible for your baby then no-one should stop you.. my advice here would be to talk to your family about it.
If you are not far along and don't want the child then there are still options available to you. Abortion is an option but again you must talk it over with at least one responsible adult before you do anything..or it may be a decision you will regret for the rest of your life.
However if you want the baby and are just after advice about pregnancy that is a different matter which isn't clear from your question.. this i can't help with as I haven't been there I'm afraid
Overall I guess the best thing for you to do is go and talk with your doctor. Or perhaps a school counsellor can help? They can give you all your options and advice you need and should keep your situation confidential.
It may also be extremely beneficial to talk with your family. This will give a you a much clearer idea of the support they are willing to give you. At your age, their support is crucial to the upbringing of any child you may have.
No matter what you think you are still very young and people will most likely try and tell you what is best for you rather than letting you decide for youself. Do not get pushed into anything. Think over everything that people tell you. If you don't agree with what your family say, you must tell them. Make sure you make your own feelings perfectly clear and don't get pushed into something you will regret later on in life.
I hope that helps.
good luck.
2006-11-18 03:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by wintersnowflake 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being only 13 and pregnant is a very hard situation. I was just barely 15 years old when I got pregnant with my son, and did not really know what to do. Is the father around, or does he know yet? I told my son's dad (who was 16 at the time) and from that night on for almost 3 years he did not speak to me. He's now 20, a Marine in Japan, and after realizing what he's done he wants to see his son. I kept in very close touch with his family reguardless, but anyways. People are too soon to jump to adoption and abortion. They are options, which one I have experienced myself, but they are not the only options. In my high school, we had a Teen Parenting Program. There were approx. 350 girls in the program, with still other girls who were pregnant or parenting outside the program. The program covered ELEMENTARY, middle and high school, so you are not alone. Many of my friends had their children in middle school. I am NOT suggesting it, but there are people out there who want to help us and know that we need them. Whatever decision you make, I pray for you and hope for you the best.
2006-11-18 03:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Have you told anyone? You need to.....talk to your parents. They will be able to help you make the best decision........I would start looking into adoption agencies, because at your age, there is no way you can support a child....and it will be better off with a family who can......and there are so many people out there who are really loving, and cannot have their own children...so to give someone that gift would be good for you and best for that child....Just remember, you can opt for an open adoption and then you will be able to be in the childs life as much as you want to be....Good Luck Sweetie. Also, I am against abortion....go to http://www.abortionno.com/Resources/pictures.html and look.....ithe fetus has a heartbeat, it can move....it just...is alive...............it has a soul.......just go to this website......but I warn you, it is a little disturbing.....so be prepared, but maybe it keep you from making a wrong decision...(that decision).
2006-11-18 03:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy of 2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, You should have been onhere asking for some advice on how not to feel lonely before you even got pregnant.
How old is the father? Does He know?
Don't think you will be able to go through this alone.
Don't think that just because you got pregnant means that you're an adult. You are still just a little girl.
You need to inform your parents. Don't have an abortion, you will regret it later. If you feel like you can't tell your parents yhen tell a responsible adult who can get you help.
You need to see a gyno pronto! Alot of young girls lose their babies early on. If so, You should take it as a lesson learned.
All I can Say is PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!!!! The only way to get through this is with God, otherwise you will only make your situation worse. Please, Please, Please, Don't have an abortion. If you really feel like you are not ready to raise a child, then give it up for adoption. There are so many People who can't have children & they want to love & care for a baby. There is the possibility of an open adoption, so that you're child will know who you are & you will get to see him or her grow up.
I will pray for you & you're growing baby. My Younger sister had a baby at 15, she had an abortion before that & still regrets it. She is 19 now.
2006-11-18 03:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by PeanutsMama 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell your parents, have the baby, stop having sex, collect child support from the father, let the father be a part of the baby's life, stay in school, tell your child to wait until marriage before having sex, do not give the baby up for adoption.
2006-11-18 08:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by thegreatone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with telling your parents,I was 15 when I got pregnant and let me tell you,your parents will be upset at first but hopefully they will be supportive with whatever decision u make. Being pregnant at such a young age is very hard Take it from me I have been there.
2006-11-18 03:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by Erica 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you will be fine. i got pregnant and had the baby at age 17. that may be older then you are now but trust me you will be fine. if you want the baby or babies then you should keep them(it). just take care of youself , listen to your doctor and every thing will be fine, wants you have the baby(ies) you cant see life with out them
. that baby is a part of you will not be able to help but love it.
2006-11-18 03:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by Dungonecrazy11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww babe. that's not good! have you decided what to do with the child. ex. adoption,abortion,keep him/her? do you parents know? if they don't i really think they should! they will be able to give you so much advise and it will be easier if they know what you are going through. i hope you found my advice helpful. if you need anymore help contact me by Yahoo!messenger
2006-11-18 03:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by i<3ryan 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
since yur indian get prepared to get kicked out of your house--pack your bags so your mom wont throw your clothes out onto the street..i have a question--do u know what a con--dom is?
2006-11-18 15:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by =] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋