I am so lonely, so sad, depressed. How could a woman ever want me?

Question

i am actually pretty good looking ( not conceited )

I just think du to my problems as mentioned aboe i will spend the rest of my life alone. im 31 and im not getting younger. oh well not every person will be with someone. im just one of the unlucky few. Thanks god for your loser plan you gave me and im supposed to be grateful?

Answer 1

Stop looking for a woman, do other things find a Hobie (one that takes you outside)
Start trying to enjoy life or at least some of the things that you do in life.
Then believe it or not you will more likely find a woman

Answer 2

Dear lonely,

We all have sad times and feel that we are not loved!!!! There is a path that we all walk together but separately. Life is not easy and you are younger than I am and l you ive in a beautiful country!!!! Now what is your job, have you ever travelled outside the US, what are you looking for????? Is there something that you might need to change in your personality ????? Don't feel like you will be alone for the rest of you life. It is just a period of you life and I am sure that you will meet the right woman for you. I understand that today it is difficult to find the right partner. Everybody is just focused on the sexual part of the relationship and I find it quite dissappointing. Have faith you will find a wonderful person. Being part of this virtual familly I answer questions and don't participate in asking questions because I think that there are too many people that are unhappy and have lost the real reason for why we are living and what we should be looking for!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Of course, I answer questions that I can give courage and some advice.
I suggest that you use common sense and if this year you are able to take some time off take a trip outside the US and visit Europe. It realy helps to see new people and to see a total different view of life that people live in different countries.
Don't feel depressed there are so many that have serious health problems and also mental difficulties to adapt into this crazy world. if you want to chat with me when you feel that to need to speak with someone just send me an email. a big hug

Answer 3

I had the same problem for a great deal of time.the answers I can give sound kind of hoky however I do believe these ideals to be true.I believe you get what you put out.don,t dwell on the negative.31 is not that old there is still time.believe in yourself,and this will help you with confidence.And there is nothing more alluring than a confident man.I to have depression problems.However I choose to be in control of it.Instead of it controlling me.Even thogh I wake up depressed every day due to mental illness.I choose to find something else to occupy my mind.Stay optomistic,and don't give up.try to convince yourself you are happy regardless if you are or not.As silly as it sounds self affirmation is a great tool.your brain makes nueral links the more often you think of a subject.The more often you think the same thing.Concrete memories are born,or in this example concrete beliefs.what I'm getting at with this who ha is that you can brainwash yourself in the right direction.What you truley belive is what makes it reality.You mentioned God and him given you a loser plan.If you do believe in god than maybe you should look at the plan he gave as a test.If you can overcome this rutt your in you can probably accomblish anything you choose to.I know your man enough to accomplish this task.You had the courage to ask this question.Thats saying alot right there.
Anywho keep your chin up,I spent my entire 20's alone and depressed then one day out of the blue,with little effort on my part,I met and married a beautyfull woman and have four kids.i am very happy.god definitly has it out for me too.but I never gave up hope and I was very generously rewarded for it.
reiki master Michael Duerkes

Answer 4

First look on the bright side...You're lonely, but at least you're not with a loser. And trust me, it's better being lonely than with some crazy fruit cake. Ditch your depression too, you could be walking by your love every day.

Second: what are you looking for in a woman? With all the people on this planet, you're able to find someone just right for you. Anywhere from a big city to a small town. Maybe it's just a matter of knowing who you are and finding someone that compliments your character.

3rd: After you find out who you are, and what you're looking for....I always see people find their perfect love when they stop looking for it.

Answer 5

Okay you have some serious issues that you need to deal with and quickly. I mean you are 31 and you have set your own destiny already. When I say that I mean you live your life feeling sorry for yourself, I mean why are you so unhappy? I think that you need to get some serious help, counseling and medication. I don't understand why anyone can be so negative about themselves, I have learned that if you think in a positive manner that positive things will start to happen to you, when you walk outside and it is a gloomy day, don't think of it as that a gloomy day, but a nice brisk day to enjoy or when it is raining don't think of it as a rainy day, stop and just listen to the rain and the soft noises it makes. Just start to be positive and enjoy things around you. and don't forget to start to get some help so that you can go forward with your life

Answer 6

Don't go blaming a life-bummer on God.

Maybe you need to get out more... build a little self-confidence.

Check with your doctor about the depression. If it's more than just once in a while, you might have chronic depression. That's treatable these days. "Better living through chemistry!" A brain can do weird things when there's not enough serotonin to go around

Answer 7

honestly... thats only your impression of yourself. ... you give off whatever impression you have of yourself to others. if you think youre bound to be alone then you are not being yourself and getting out there to meet anyone. you are def. not conceited and you need to have some more confidence! 31 is NOT old and you have plenty of time to meet the woman of your dreams - just get over the fact that "itll never happen" and wait to meet someone that you actually want to be with. you do not need to settle for anyone ... you need to stop being lonely though ... be happy with yourself and someone else will be able to be happy with you

Answer 8

Keep it up Eeyore! Women flock to the mopey depressed guys.
Everyone has down days, you have to push and fight and keep going. Take good care of yourself, be active and find interesting hobbies. Make yourself as interesting and attractive as possible. Success attracts success, be a successful person and successful women will be drawn to you. Or continue down the road to bachelorville and a lifetime of what ifs.

Answer 9

I know at this moment in time the chances look slim and you are probably getting frusterated..but hang in there...there is hope for everyone and your time will come. I promise. Don't be afraid to assert yourself to women introduce yourself to somoene you think you may interested in...see if you can pick up there vibe and if you think they are interested continue the conversation! hang int here good things come to those who wait...and those who wait often get to avoid all of the garbage and when they finally get something its the real thing!

Answer 10

didnt you know that this is the best time in your life to start dating..alot of women know what they want at this age ...and dont go for second best, so get out there and shake your grove thing....my friend is the nicest guy on earth ...but not bright when it comes to women,and he has so many after him its crazy ,even my wife cant imagine why ...exept that hes a hell of a nice guy....be nice and you will see...