I too am very bored, lonely, and sick of life in many ways. What should I do?
2006-11-17 18:37:46 · 12 answers · asked by bacchus_blue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let it go. Divorce is very traumatic. Actually, life is good. I've been divorced before......there is life after divorce. You'll meet other women and I promise you'll be happy again. Don't let divorce get you down. Trust me on this.
2006-11-17 18:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with the decision not to get serious with anyone. You might just not be ready yet . You could go out on dates for fun. Maybe you could meet a great female friend that way. If you are looking to meet new people, take a class or join a group. There are often divorce groups out there for people like you. You may meet some male friends that way too. One class I've heard that is very popular is kickboxing. Good luck!
2006-11-17 18:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lawgirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what your heart tells you to do. If you do meet any women, don't string them along, but you don't have to get serious if you don't want to. If you feel like just sitting around the house watching football and reading, do that. If you feel like going out and getting laid (sorry, it had to be said) then do that. Without lying. These days there are plenty of women out there that can live with one-night-stands. Often they are divorced women that have no desire to get serious with a man since thier divorce! Sound familiar?
Just be honest with any women you might want to see casually or as a friend. Yep, it is possible (and FUN!) to be "just friiends" with a woman. And if you are lucky, you find a woman who is OK with being a friend "with benefits". That is WAY cool!
You need to take care of you...first and foremost. The rest will come. Take some time to go out and do some stuff that you have always wanted to do. Travel. Go to Vegas. Go to the show by yourself. Go to dinner by yourself.
Just take care of you, and if the time ever comes when you want to get serious again, there won't be anything you can do to stop it anyway ;)
2006-11-17 18:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by tallcowboy0614 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like post traumatic stress. Which is normal after you've had your heart crushed like a soft drink can...
The only real solution is time and a concerted effort to get out of the rut. I'm not saying you go out and get tattoos, an assortment of piercings, and a red sports car (though some ink on your shoulder, and a pierced ear might perk you up). Take up a hobby or interest that doesn't leave you at home, or - better yet - something that you run a fair chance of seeing women doing in a social setting. Martial arts, (ballroom) dance classes, a gym membership, a 'regular' night out - anything that isn't sitting at home alone letting depression get to you...
You're not going out to pick up, though that might happen if you let it. Your just not staying the hell at home...
2006-11-17 18:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by keltarr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. People who just got out of relationships usually feel lonely (especially if they find themselves alone again after several years of having a partner), but at the same time, they find it difficult to take risks and trust again.
I suggest you heal on your own first. It is not a good idea to take on another relationship if you can't be serious. You do not use the other person to fill a void in your life.
2006-11-17 18:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try something new
Travel with friends
Try things that you have never did before such as find a new interest learn how to play the guitar try to listen to new type of music or go to the gym there are a lot of things Fun things you can do .
Do not surrender to the past what is done is done .
Enjoy life =) Good luck
2006-11-17 18:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by Eng.F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a new interest group and make friends!
Answer questions on yahoo answers!
Help the poor with community work.
Perhaps a yeast allergy is making you lose libido and interest in life.
Thats what happened when I had the yeast infection from eating bread & drinking beer, I had to stop and take Olive Leaf to kill the yeast fungus.
Get your hair analysed or get a stress formula from the Herbalist or Homeopath.
2006-11-17 19:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how long has it been? there is a general rule; it should take half the time of the length of the relationship to get over it. Sometimes you just have to give it time. It'll come back naturally. I said I would never get married again but you know what? I'm ready to get married again my heart has healed.
2006-11-17 18:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understandable...perhaps you have a hobby you could persue or join some sort of club or group that has regular outings for companionship.
2006-11-17 18:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek a hobby or interest and engage your time and resources...
2006-11-17 18:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by lonely_searching_preet(i) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋