see...... iv got this problem im in the 9th grade and well...im sorry if i sound dumb but im popular as in everyone in the school knows me im famouse and........stuff like that but the problem is i do not like my freinds ithey are only concerned about themselves and since im into sports and co~curriculur everytime i do something well or i win something they go and try 2 ruin my 'repution' behind my back they r jeolus rather then happy !! and i woul realyy like to leave them but i dont know how if i just change my seat and stop talking to them they will say im concieted and spread rumures about me if i tell them on their face theyl get angry and do the same !! im stuck i have NO idia what to do !!!
2006-11-17 18:24:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
yah and my best freind who i sit with is also a part of them and shes not thst bad but she is just not what she used to be !!! i would rather sit with someone less intrested in their makeup and hair during maths class !!!! i was the same but suddenly my grades are going down and i dont want 2 ruin my life because of them !!!
2006-11-17 18:26:45 · update #1
one thing you can do is ask to teacher to seperate you from them or ask her to split up the whole group so it does not look like you had anything to do with it.im 25 years old and high school seemed like it would make me or break me in life and so you do things you dont want to and hang out with people you dont like but let me tell you this none of my "friends"from high school are even around anymore so its like whatever but if these girls are really your friends they would be happy for you but more than likely they probably dont like you they are jealous and probably hang out with you because you are so popular and as soon as they get as popular they will most likely drop you as a friend not to mention the rumors they spread about you will be old news in no time so start focusing more on your education and less on your reputation because your education will be the thing that gets you further in life good luck i know first hand how hard highschool appears to be
2006-11-17 18:37:49 · answer #1 · answered by tina h 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if that's what your friends say about you, then they're not really friends.
If you're unhappy like this, with being the center of so much attention, then maybe you should try to make some other friends, and not care what people say about you. I know it's hard, but it's worth it. You'll find good people who won't backstab you and you'll find that you worry about a lot less crap in your life.
Perhaps you should come out directly to them and say, "You're treating me unfairly and not being a very good friend, and I really don't want anything to do with you anymore." And then leave them alone. For all popularity is worth, few people like you for you, they just want reflected glamor and fame. So find nice people - random people, from different cliques and classes and colors. Because if you ditch those craptalking hussies and make friends everywhere else in the school, nobody will believe them! They'll all go, "Oh, no way, she's too cool." As it is, the most popular girl is often disliked by the not so popular people, and if the normal people talk to you and realize you're not so bad, nobody will get hurt but your so-called friends. ^___^
Good luck!
2006-11-18 02:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by Asuza 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If there's one thing I've learned since graduating from high school it's that absolutely everything in highschool is a f*cking joke. Seriously, it will take about a year after you graduate and then it'll hit you that you just spent 4 years of your life worrying about what could be the most laughable experience all folks have to endure. Listen carefully: It IS a joke.
Your popularity? A joke.
The rumors that get spread? A joke.
'Popular' friendships? A joke.
Cliques? A joke.
Your reputation? A joke.
And most importantly...
People's opinions of you in highschool? A freaking laugh riot.
It seems like the center of the universe right now, I know. But the only way you're going to look back at yourself in highschool and not be embarrassed (at the least) is if you're true to yourself and only yourself.
Find people that make you happy. Find people that will support you and stand up for you when nasty rumors get spread. And listen to your parents and your teachers when they say things like, "It doesn't matter who you were in highschool." The only time it matters who you were in highschool is if you were yourself.
Its the only way to be at any point in your life. Be proud of who you are. And f*ck 'popular.'
2006-11-19 03:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by GV B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These articles have Excellent suggestions:
How to Make REAL Friends :
- We All Need Friends
- Satisfying Our Hunger for Friendship
- Good Friends--Bad Friends
- A Note to Parents
http://watchtower.org/e/20041208/article_01.htm
How Can I Avoid Getting [Staying] Involved With the Wrong People?
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2005/8/22/article_01.htm
Why Am I Drawn to the Wrong People?
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2005/7/22a/article_01.htm
(NOTE : The last 2 Web addresses will likely be modified soon. After that, each title can be entered in the Advanced Search engine at : http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm , which will give you a link with the new URL/s.)
2006-11-19 04:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you have to ask yourself a question first. Does your popularity mean more to you than a true friendship? Popular girls stay close together and act like your best friend, but talk bad about you behind your back. So if you're willing to lose your popularity status, I'd suggest talking to the nice girls at lunch and in class, get to know them, and try hanging out with them. It's us quiet girls who make the best friends....I'm not saying you have to talk to the nerd in the cornor with the pop bottle glasses and the bad acne, but if you want a good friend who won't talk bad about you and will only support you, you have to go outside your circle of friends.
2006-11-18 02:35:35 · answer #5 · answered by TaureanAngel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you seem to have the right idea: if they are not your friends, don't treat them as such! slowly distance yourself from them. Be polite, and slowly, start doing what you care about. Find people who actually care about the same thing that you do or think.
And don't feel dumb! you're mind is on the right track!!
GOOD LUCK
2006-11-18 02:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by toubab 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard that song "stupid girls" by pink?
Have a long hard listen to it sweety.
I think you are a legend in your own mind....you may be well known at your school but it doesn't make you POPULAR.
If you were really that great and smart, you would also know how to punctuate and spell properly.
2006-11-18 03:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by He moonwalked on my <3 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about what other people think? I've embarassed myself loads of times before. I've sort of gotten used to it. Just go with the flow and dump them. If people say "you're so conceited" say "ha ha that's so funny whatever" and tell them to shut up!!!!!!
2006-11-18 09:47:48 · answer #8 · answered by Emilie W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They way they treat you,they arnt friends. So if you do what you want by leaving them you will be better off for it.
Goodluck sweety
2006-11-18 06:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by ca4btts 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask them what you are doing wrong maybe it's something else just try to be nice to them and be the bigger person
2006-11-18 10:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by ashleigh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋