How would you feel if...?

Question

- you never did a thing to anyone else your entire life, but were mercilessly picked on, put down, insulted, threatened, physically & emotionally abused, and shunned by others your entire life?

- you played by the rules, studied hard, graduated from college with good grades, invested tens of thousands of dollars in higher education, interned for no pay, and applied to HUNDREDS of companies after graduation -- AND HAVEN'T EVEN RECEIVED ONE INTERVIEW because employers don't want to give you a chance? And then they ask why there is such a large employment gap on your resume!

- girls don't give you the time of day (and even go out of their way to make you feel like sh!t), but you always watch them chasing after players, losers, lowlifes, and cheaters?

- everyone loves to see you suffer, laughs at every little mistake you make, and are never there when you are down because they cannot relate to all the sh!t you have endured in your life?

db: But do you know how many of my contemporaries -- who have worked HALF as hard as I -- have it better in life than I due to luck, looks or connections? You're "someone has it worse" argument won't fly with me because, with billions of people in this world, there's bound to be someone who has it worse off. But not the people who partied, goofed off, never studied or worked hard, and treated me like crap day in and day out -- they have been given UNLIMITED opportunity while I have been given NONE.

Answer 1

stop complaining!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

I would feel like all the sudden I care more about what other people think of me - than what I think of me. Change my mind set and start over realizing that I am too serious for my own comfort - and it's become transparent - I'd think about cutting down on the sugar and caffeine - maybe find some expensive pot "kind budds" - get my full eight hours of sleep - take one day at a time. And explain I've been searching for the best never ready to settle for anything, but now I realize that in the end success isn't found in green paper - it's all about "did I smile enough" and learning to use - the all famous - "forgidabowdit" for my past. and turn the page.

I've been thru some tough stuff as well. Know what I've realized. It doesnt matter, because life is soooooo temporary. Search for new experiences - fun outlets - for subconsiously "blowing off steam" while having a blast.

I hope you don't take this lightly - like some regular "two pointing" s.o.b.
2004 - I lost everything. My woman, my car, my home, my smile - know what I did - quit my job - scraped what money I could - took 3 months off and hiked accross Colorado. From Denver to Durango. See that picture by my name. That little blip in with the scenery - Thats me - having the time of my life in the rockies. Sometimes getting over - is giving up,and cutting loose for a while. No commitment - no controversy , No plans - no failure .... only freedom. The only way to live
Contrary to popular belief - Wealth and happiness do not correlate.

good luck

Answer 3

Try praying and thinking positively. Tomorrow morning when you get out of bed tell yourself that you are going to have a good day. Maybe you are attracting all of this negative attention because of the vibes people are getting off of you. Look up when you walk, smile when you catch somebody's eye. You would be amazed how much just walking with confidence will change a persons attitude towards you. When I was reading your question I was picturing you and I saw a guy that walked with his shoulders sagged and his head down not bothering to meet anybody's eyes.
Right now you are feeling so down on yourself and you just KNOW that something bad is going to happen to you today. You just KNOW that when you hand this employer your resume he won't hire you. Change your way of thinking. The next chance you get at a job, KNOW that this employer will hire you. Postive thinking attracts positive things to you, likewise with negative thinking. Just something to ponder. Good luck, God Bless.

Answer 4

EVERYONE has been mean to you? Maybe you were born into a bad area for you where people and things almost seem to conspire to keep you down. Is there another place you wish you lived at? You can have it double checked astrologically with a Location Reading. Go where the aspects are in your favor. And decide to like yourself. Smile, but don't take any more guff, and please bury that word in your vocabulary. People will expect good things from you and reward you accordingly.

Answer 5

you can't see it now, and you might not be able to see it for years, but you can end up better off than before the b.s. my advice is to stop thinking that things are happening to you. they're a projection of your limited understanding. you can control only how you see the world and how you react to negaitvity. blind optimism is bullshit, but you can exploit shitty circumstances to your benefit -- you can increase your patience, resilience, and you'll be able to better empathize with others to help them when they're going through rough times.

also, try to understand that worse things have happened to better people. the fact that you're even competing in the job market in Western society, much less that you no doubt have indoor plumbing, a telephone (probably even a cell), a television, etc., means that you have very little to be concerned about. see the forest from the trees.


i answer from experience. experience worse than what you've described. much worse.

Answer 6

Hey noname,

I feel your pain here, but I have to tell you it's a little ironic when you are complaining about how people treat you and then you fly my country's flag upside down in a blatant show of disrespect to every person in my country. Check yourself. Maybe you need to deal with the way you show respect and disrespect for others before the rest of the world shows more respect to you.

That said, I do hope things turn around for you. Treat others as you would want to be treated. (You can start by flipping my flag over or taking it down and putting your own up proudly!)

Peace!

Answer 7

I......'m sorry? Certainly your pessimism and bad attitude don't contribute and surely you don't put out a vibe of extreme self-pity and quite possibly, hatred for the human race in general...

Look, everyone is persecuted in their lives for one reason or the other. You're not alone and you're not being singled out as much as you think. However, I am terribly sorry for the abuse that you've dealt with in your past.

And FYI, the reason girls don't give you the time of day is because you obviously lack self-confidence. That is something you yourself are going to have to work on.

PS. Why the upside down flag? I'm trying to ignore it, but...

Answer 8

I guess I would feel pretty bad. I have been through alot of what you described and all I can tell you is to keep your head up and don't give up. All of this you are dealing with will pass. Put your faith and life in God's hands. Or just have some faith in yourself to overcome. Either way it will get better. Good luck.

Answer 9

If complete strangers are shunning you there is something wrong with you. There is something your not seeing in yourself, a negative attitude, nastiness or maybe you don't look like you care about yourself. If you don't care no one else wants you around. I suggest that you get yourself a therapist and discuss all of this because by now you have anger in you .

Answer 10

I got a question like this earlier from a teen but I am going to give you the same answer: People are intimidated by you. I agree with what you're saying to me about all of the above. I think you need to look for things of the good accord. I believe you are the best type of person there can ever be because you're living the way life is supposed to be lived but I need you to create balance in your life. I understand that you're doing everything right on earth, and believe me I applaud you with every fiber of my being. Balance is very important for God to measure you and as unimportant as it is, for others of earth to accept you. Add to your spirit something that will balance you out. Your mind and body will be gone one day and expire and disappear but your soul will start a new. Like if you're in a coma, your soul is there but your mind and memory has been erased. Once your brain detaches itself from your body, your spirit is created.
God doesn't see good as we see good because when you think you're doing something you perceive as bad, God will applaud you for it and think of it as justice. What we see as good, God doesn't because we're living for the wrong reasons and start understanding what's going on.
You have to balance everything. You have to start with balance, you're no greater and you're no lesser than any other. You are living in God's way and it may seem boring. People who live in God's way are tormented and when you live in God's way you have and got to experience something. Balance is your variation for your experiences and able God to better embrace you and your people. Embrace yourself and what you go through, which is why God gave you that feeling. Order is like soothing an upset stomach like nausea. With balance you have to go outside of order; balance is out of order and in order.
Take time out to do what you've never done before but never alter who you are just to please someone else. People want to gain from the mistakes you make and take advantage of who you are and where you slack. I can really relate to you because I have always been in your shoes till this day.

Answer 11

You are just a nice person, and people see that as weakness