OK, I know there are similar questions, but still. My lover and I are very much in love, and have great pleasure from all kinds of sex, but I never orgasm. It deeply hurts his sense of pride, and because he is a sensitive guy, he really wants to make me feel good. Now he is feeling selfish and bad.
I need help! I worry that maybe we could only do it with the aid of sex toys, which may make him feel useless. I don't want him to continue feeling crappy about himself, and YES, I certainly want to experience orgasm! What should we do?!?
2006-11-17 18:07:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I was a non orgasmic woman for many years.....When I married my husband, he want out one day and bought some toys for me, cause I would never do it on my own.....WOW, it made a world of difference, it changed my life....Talk to your boyfriend about the toys, they are an enhancement and that the toys would never take his place, but are more of a tool to help you....
2006-11-17 18:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know you have probably heard this before but everyone's body is different! Some women have a hard time reaching orgasm from regular intercourse. What about oral? Have you tried that? For most women, being on top is easier to achieve orgasm. Have you tried being on top with your back to him? That's a good one too! Probably a great suggestion for you, the best for both of you maybe would be to go and get Kim Catral's book "The Art of the Female Orgasm" to learn about the female anatomy together. Trust me he will enjoy it! Don't give up! You will get there eventually!
2006-11-18 04:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read in womans health mag that women under 27 usually dont orgasm or reach a climax, but im 25 and do frequently..but had the same prob. We tried the toys, not much help there...tried just the oral sex..didnt work either...then we got into watching rated x movies and role playing...point being is YOU need to find out what turns you on and go with it!! have fun.
2006-11-18 02:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by kittykcat6699 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you use vibrators a lot? Because these can sometimes desensitize your clitoris and prevent orgasm during normal sex. Are you taking any meds that might cause your sex drive to lower? Another thing you could definitely try is to not pay attention to any at all just concentrate on the pleasure at hand.
2006-11-18 05:15:01 · answer #4 · answered by ProudToBeWhite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe take more time with foreplay and leave the toys out of the picture if they make him feel self concious. Alot of orgasm is about the position in which you have intercourse. Try different positions. Stimulate the clotoris during intercourse and always have a lot of fun and play involved.
2006-11-18 02:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by marilee w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me years to orgasm and the best way for me is manual stimulation. Double click your mouse. Your clitoris is the most sensitive part on you and you should use it! Let him go down on you. Experiment with toys (they don't really do anything for me though). And get him involved with the toys and let him watch you masturbate-men love that stuff! I bet he'll feel better about himself if he is involved. And relax, don't try to make this a competition. It will eventually *ahem* come to you.
2006-11-18 02:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by Suga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, so, DON'T suggest using toys to him if you feel it would make him feel worse than he already does. if he can see you get an orgasm off a toy rather than what he does for you, it would only make him feel less manly.
if intercourse doesn't work for you, maybe you can try oral sex, but have him stimulate your nipples as well..the two sensations combined works well, and when you feel you are ready to have an orgasm, get into the actual intercourse. it will please him greatly to know that HE is pleasing you and BOB(battery operated boyfriend) isn't doing all the work!
try stimulant creams and lubricants as well.
2006-11-18 06:14:48 · answer #7 · answered by TaureanAngel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you masterbate and figure out what makes you orgasm, then show him how to do it without letting him know your teaching him. Just put his fingers there and move them in the appropriate manner. Show him exactly where and how long to stimulate your clitoris is. It will definitely help you orgasm and you can blame it on whomever.
2006-11-18 02:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by ms. amused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first thing you should tell ur bf is that its not easy to make a girl climax..First thing u shud do is have a foreplay...later ask him to lick ur pussy lips..finger it and stimulate ur g-spot..One by one ask him to kiss ur neck,earn,breast,stomach,thighs,feets,etc etc..This will make u ON. Ask him to finger until u feel the heat..stop it and ask him to have intercourse now..and slowly and steadly push and pull...As u r already on ON..ur bf too becomes heated ..and u bothe experience orgasm in same time with high end pleasure....
2006-11-18 12:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by Marshal h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't masturbate.
You will NEVER reach orgasm with someone else until you learn to do it yourself.
After that, it takes a lot of time and patience (and coaching) to teach your partner to do it for you.
2006-11-18 02:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋