Ok I met this guy about a month ago. He is dating a female friend of mine. I really like him. The first day we met, he spent the night at my house and we shared my bed. (My bed's a queen size.) The next day he even kissed me on the cheek as a joke. About a week ago he did it again and made me kiss him back. No complaints! Well then he tells me that he bought me a 10" speaker for my car. He used the excuse that he wanted to be able to listen to his music, rap, when he rode with me. Then he let me borrow his head unit from his car, since he doesnt have a licence anymore. Thing is... if I'm wrong about his feeling it could be deep **** for me. He was involved with a gang and has even shot at people. The first time we shared a bed he asked me if I was gay... which I told him no. I really dont know what to do since if I really make him mad he could seriously hurt me. What should I do? If he was drunk would it be easier to find out?
2006-11-17 18:02:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
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2006-11-17 18:03:46 · update #1
Thing is I dont know if he is interested. So I really havnt turned him down. I just told him I was straight because I was scared to tell him I'm gay.
2006-11-17 18:08:12 · update #2
I dont know where people got that I was transexual. I'm a guy that dresses like a guy.
2006-11-18 02:37:32 · update #3
I don't think this guy would shoot at you for turning him down. I think he would shoot at you for leading him on. He asked if you're guy and you said no; that should be enough for him.
2006-11-17 18:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by uknowme 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Either he is gay and does not know it or he is just really comfortable with you. Odd he would share a bed with you and not sleep on the couch like most guys would. Does he know that you are gay.?
Dont get him drunk, sober he could get mean if something happen.
Just cause he was/is in a gang does not mean it is a gay bashing gang.
Just be careful about telling him if you think you need to. Straight guys never come out of the closet how come gay guys have to.?
2006-11-17 18:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I would do is echo the sentiment that runs through the majority of the answers - be careful, but the longer that you let this go on for the more potential trouble you are opening yourself up to. No one likes to be lead on and if they have a violent nature then the potential consequences might be even worse. However there is no point in living a lie, as first of all you will do damage to yourself and secondly the truth will out, eventually and then on top of whatever else has happened you'll lose your self respect.
So, be truthful with him and then you can move on. Good luck!
2006-11-17 18:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would have not asked you had it not mattered if you were Gay I get the feeling from what you said he is not Gay .I know a lot of men and people who are cultural kiss on the cheek. I would let him come out to you . Personally I wouldn't hang with someone so dangerous you could end up dead. that would not be so nice.
2006-11-17 18:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by dianehaggart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't misunderstand me, I am not trying to be rude here. What in the wide world of sports are you thinking, becoming involved in any way shape or form with a gang-banger???!!?11!?? I think you have a death wish man. Considering your precarious situation, at this point it seems your most logical choice is to do nothing. If he makes a move on you in a sexual way, are you prepared to follow through? I wish you the best man, tons of good fortune. I hope you don't end up needing it.
2006-11-17 18:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by Rich B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF, str8 guys don't lay in a bed with another guy for first thing, and second they don't kiss other guys. Hey this dude is diggin you, and for the whole gang thing it is funny. I grew up and lived in a rough area full of **** like this, wtf you got to be scared of besides your life. If he wan'ts to kill you, you think he won't do it either way, so what you got to lose. People get so scared of bull ****, can't people be curious, gay, bi, and come from a gang or rough place. You met him, if he didn't like you, you sure wouldn't be asking this question, cuz you would be dead by now, right!!!
2006-11-17 21:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by Just a broke college student 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a lesbianwoman, so I am not bashing you. However, I would like to know why you would want to be with a guy anyway (men, especially straight men, are disgusting), and why would a guy want to be with you with all your queenieness?
Your effeminacy is scaring me and turning him off. He probably had you confused for a real woman...! Up until the point that he realized your true gender. He's a goon. Don't chase after him unless you're into coprophagia! Try to hook up with your female friend and see how that goes. Don't create more guys who are on the down low! STDs are spread that way! Get it all out in the open... with a woman!
2006-11-17 22:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by fieldscharlie 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Yes, even gang members can be gay.
You need to be careful with whom you associate. Maybe you need to decide now to stand up for your security and self, or let him manipulate you through fear. Don't live with fear. That's so pathetic.
Talk calmly, honestly, and work things out while you both are sober.
2006-11-17 18:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're playing a very dangerous game, you should always be true to yourself and not lie to people.
2006-11-17 19:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with the flow if he makes a move then you will have your answer
2006-11-17 18:05:18 · answer #10 · answered by whay i lost my ?s 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋