Is there such a thing as caring too much about someone when you know he appreciates it but you are afraid of caring too much because you're not really in any kind of relationship together and you don't want him to think that you are just after him (even though if that's what he really wanted it wouldn't be such a bad thing) and you really value the friendship you have and are afraid if you care too much you will lose him?
2006-11-17 17:52:48 · 6 answers · asked by Sky 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's going through a really difficult time now and I'm the person he turns to. I want to help him and he has so far accepted my help, but I just need to know if I'm setting myself up to learn that I shouldn't care so much about other people.
2006-11-17 17:59:24 · update #1
This situation is really far more complex than I can come right out and say in public. Thank you in advance to everyone who can offer an answer.
2006-11-17 18:02:26 · update #2
You are overthinking this to the point of obsession.
Just tell the guy how you feel. He probably feels the same.
Good luck!
2006-11-17 17:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello Sky the almost all knowing... Caring too much is a problem. Being a caretaker is unhealthy and will lead to sadness and unhappiness and maybe a few other ness'ess'es (yeah, made that word up) in the future as well. You know the answer when you asked this question I bet!!! So I am going to validate you. Trust your gut not your physical attraction. If you really want to be desired, make him wait and make sure he understands what no means.
Hugs to you and good luck.
jeffrey.
Oh, and one more thing. Play the game of Monopoly with him. Now this brings out true personality traits in a person.
2006-11-18 02:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
like me you are afraid of caring too much for people cause you hate rejection, you hate the fact that perhaps if you give them your all and then you would not receive the same attention your world will crumble, i really dont know how to solve that dilemma except that we should take the chance to get hurt no matter what our decisions are whether we choose to care, whether they appreciate it or not, whether they think they need us or not the point is we took the time to share ourselves, no matter what the outcome might be, we cant always play safe in life
2006-11-18 02:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u care for him so much then u better make sure he knows how u feel abt him....if u r not in a relationship but u personally want one with him then speak it out....if u care for him without getting anything in return or he not commiting a relationship it hurts in the long run....and it hurts bad....u feel stupid and u feel let down....how do i know?? going thru the same right now....caring in friendship is crap....speak out ur feelings to him and see if he wants the same or not....
if u guys do not want the same things then just maintain a casual friendship....DO NOT BECOME GOOD FRIENDS
2006-11-18 01:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by psyched_dude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok..... so you either want to go out or not??? well yes friendship is important and chances are if you go out you will break up and prolly not be best of friends u know??? stay friends or just see where it takes you....good luck
2006-11-18 01:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by Nate the Great 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally confusing.
2006-11-18 02:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋