She claims it is his. There is a chance. She is saying she got pregnant on March 30 of this year and that her due date is Dec the 19th is this correct.We have been together for 4 years. She is now dialated to 2.(She called last week and told him)
2006-11-17 17:27:01 · 30 answers · asked by h_m_jcutie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her to move in with you two...
2006-11-17 17:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by Transgénico 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
There are people that get prego on the first try, but it is very very rare. It is only a 32 hour window where people can get pregnant, so chances are if it is his, he was playing the music hard and often. Can you live with this women being a part of your lives for the next 18 years? (DNA testing is in order here)Think long and hard about having to look at the baby and him for the rest of your life before making a commitment.
2006-11-18 01:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four years or 4 seconds...don't walk - run away. Anyone tht doesn't use protection isn't worth it. Don't wait for the birth to leave - leave now. He still cheatd!
There are too many guys out there that will respect you, love you and cherish you to put up with his having a baby with someone else. And yes, its HIS fault - not her's. He knows how to use a condom...and should have. Now, because he didn't...he'll be paying for the rest of his life. Condoms are so much cheaper!!!
Really, don't think about the time you've spent together - think about the time he spent with her - unprotected - and then with you. Not worth it - ever.
2006-11-18 01:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same situation. Although my bf and I were not together as long when it happened, it still hurts. I am willing to share my emotions and my experience with our situation. My bf's child (if it is his) is due on the 6th of Dec. We are pursuing a paternity test that is being paid for by the att. gen's ofc since my bf called and opened a case with them. I have decided to stay in the relationship. It's been a long 8 months. I could use the support, too. You are welcome to contact me.
2006-11-20 08:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by Laverne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand what you are going through. I too just found out my boyfriend of 4 years is expecting a child with someone else. We were having some issues and he made a bad decision. He hasn't decided what he is going to do yet, but I have decided to support any decision that he makes. I love him with all my heart and now the consequences, but am prepared to deal with them. Its so much easier for everyone else to say to leave him, but until its them, they don't understand. If you want to talk, let me know...I understand and its a complicated situation, but one that only you can make the decision on.
2006-11-19 21:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by InShock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do, the damage has been done. I don't think it's easy to deal, however, it's ultimately your choice if you want to keep him or not. If it is really his child, he should be decent enough to support the kid and take the role of fatherhood. However, the child and mom will always be part of him and this is something that you either can or cannot accept. It's your decision whether to stay or walk out.
2006-11-18 06:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but if your boyfriend cheated on you, then he doesn't like you that much. If a guy turely "loves" his woman, then he will respect her from every angel. He buttered his bread, now he needs to eat it. He prolly said sry, etc. but if he really feels that way, then he should not have cheated! In a lot of cases, once it happens, it happens again. I would say that you should move on, b/c your man is going to be responsible for another womans child.
2006-11-18 01:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by steven marton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that its def. something to talk about with your bf. this is a serious issue because it has a lot to do with him being faithful to you or not.
i think that once the baby is born, get a paternity test and find out the truth.
be an adult about the situation and dont act out based on who says what. you need hard evidence to make the right decisions for you. if the baby turns out his. i think that it would be best that you part ways with him. obviously he wasnt true to you and now he has a responsibility to handle. you dont wanna tie yourself up in that situation. if the baby isnt his, then you would be glad that you didnt react in such a rude manner as if you were in high school still.
nevertheless, you think about what's best for you and your sanity.
goodluck!
2006-11-18 01:48:23 · answer #8 · answered by bjperez07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now that is entirely up to you...no one can make this decision for you. Can you live with this???? Can you look at this baby on the weekends if ends up being his...and not take it out on the child????
It is sad that this b/f cheated on you but now the ball is in your court..you decide what you are willing to live with. And remember this baby did not ask to be brought into this world.....and if you stay with your b/f....you cannot take it out in this baby!!!!
My Grandpa cheated on my Grandma during their marriage....a few months after the affair, his mistress called my grandma and told her that she was pregnant...she wanted to tell her first because she thought my grandpa would deny it. Of course my Grandma took it real hard....but she always swore she would never take it out on the child once she decided to stay in the marriage. From the time my aunt was born (Linda) she would come down to stay for the summer. My Grandma took her in as her own...never treating her with disdain! My Grandpa has been dead for 11 years now and My Aunt Linda still comes to see my Grandma and often and her children refer to my Grandma as theirs. My Aunt Linda is now 51 years old has grand-kids of her own and still calls my Grandma "mom"
So...think hard about what you are willing to live with...it can only work if you want it to!
I wish you luck in whatever you choose!!
2006-11-18 01:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds about right. I wouldn't have him put his name on the birth certificate until he knows for sure, but I wouldn't be angry with her, if it is his child he needs to be a stand up guy and take care of the kid. Get a DNA test to make sure.
Remember, this is not your kid so it should be between her and him, don't get in the middle and try to support him if he makes good decisions. This kid and his mother are going to be in your guys life for the rest of his life...so if you cant' handle it get out now.
2006-11-18 01:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run while you can--now in fact, while he is with her having his baby--- I'm serious- she will file a paternity suit and make him pay child support- she will NEVER be out of the picture she will always be the mother of his first born----run and run fast. And oh, by the way, if HE LOVED YOU, there would be no other woman-- once a cheater always a cheater........
2006-11-18 01:30:07 · answer #11 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋