do you think teenage pregnancy is wrong???

Question

okay say they are 13+ and they get preg. planned or accident either way.......there still preg..........anyways if they are very very mature and have a job or a boyfriend with a job that is no more than 1-2 years older and are okay financially and have parents to support them (non-money wise) throughout the pregnancy and postpartum?if they are willing to do anything and everything to raise their baby.what do you think???

omg........do you people even think before you judge.......i am not even a teen! so really YOU need to grow up! quit judging!

Answer 1

worry about your school work for now. worry about getting pregnant when you finish school. why do you kids want to grow up so fast? i wish i had those days back.

Answer 2

I honestly think that it depends on the teenagers involved. I became a mom at 18, my now husband was 20. We graduated highschool, never planned on college anyway and got married. We worked and supported our daughter. We now have two and may be pregnant with our 3rd, I am 25 now. We understood what was involved in raising a baby. Some teenagers don't. There are a lot of people out there that shouldn't be having sex but do. My husband's best friend's girlfriend is only 20, she is the most immature jerk I have ever met. She has a 1 year old daughter from someone else, but she chooses to let her mom raise the baby while she gets to go party and have fun. Then she got pregnant and didn't give our friend a choice and had an abortion because she didn't want to have another baby, I am sorry but if you are not committed to raising a child then you should not have sex. I was prepared and ready. My husband and I make good money, we are not welfare parents and we never were. We made it on our own which most teenagers can't do.

Answer 3

i still think they are going to need $$ from his parents and hers. at 13/14 and 16/17 there is no way to make enough money to support onces self a baby and go to school full time, and take care of a baby full time. it is simple not possible, because the school and work alone is 16 hours a day or more including home work... that does not leave much time for baby or sleep. i think at such a young young age they are going to be hugely dependant on parents... and in every case of a pregnant teen under 17 or 18 i've seen this. they live at home mom or dad watch their grandbaby while kids do school. most kids do not work on top of school and baby... there simply is not enough time... maybe dad would if he cares enough to be part of the child's life. many teen dads walk out. in fact i have never met a teen dad that stayed around or had anything to do with his child... guess i know a lot of dead beats. even if they are willing to do anything and everything they still need help. 13 is still a child themselves. one grows a great deal in the high school years in maturity. even the most mature 13 year old or 14 year old is still developing... the brain is still growing and as much as they might want to do the right thing they will make mistakes. sure young people can be good parents... evuloutinarly speaking they are suppose to, but our society is not set up for people to be paretns under 18. think about it you can't even drive a baby or your self to a doctors appoinment at 13 or even 15. your still dependant on others at htis age. its not so much that teen pregnancy is wrong, its just very very difficult and causes a great deal of problems. it is something that needs to be avoided and put off till a better time in life such as the 20's and 30's when people are done with school, have jobs and homes and have fully matured. i don't think a teenager particularly young ones should ever set out to get pregnant... its simply not fair to a child, or the parents of a pregnant teen. its not in anyones best intrest.

Answer 4

It is IMPOSSIBLE for a pregnancy to be an accident since the choosing to have sex is to choose the consequences that come with having sex and since there are NO birth control methods on the market that are 100% effective pregnancy IS still one of those consequences. It is illegal here in the states for a teen of school age to have a fulltime job and one can not afford to carry a pregnancy to term and raise a child on less than a full time salary along with the benefits from a fulltime job such as health insurance. It still costs money for prenatal checkups as well as the cost of giving brith then they check ups for the baby, the emergency room visits and later on down the road college tuition which in the next 18 years will climb to at the very least 5 times what they are now...nope there is no way a teen can be financially responsible unless they are a trust fund baby and even those don't go as far as they used to. So who is going to wind up supporting this new baby if the parents of the teens (like you said they weren't) don't.....There go my taxes again...

Answer 5

I think it depends..if your talking about 13 y/o then yeah they dont have any reason even having sex...as for maturity they havent even gotten half way through puberty...& probably havent even started learning about sex with in dept detail...i didnt even think about it...i didnt really get into it until i met my boyfriend..all the other times i was pressured & guys still dont listen even after you say no...but i was well over 15 before my first time. & plus 13 y/o's dont have jobs yet unless they are babysitting...which doesnt count as stable income.

If they get pregnant at an older age & KNOW exactly what to do...but i still dont think they should TRY to have a baby younger then 18...i think its more acceptable for at least 16 & up to have a baby as long as they know what they are going to do & take very good care & have support from their families & from the father...if they cant handle having a baby they would need to give it up for adoption or have a (temp) foster parent. etc, etc, etc.

Answer 6

Due to the "tone" of the question, your prego- right?!
This is a life changiing event and I hope that you get the best care possible for all involved.

13 is preteen A CHILD
15 is still a teenager in the eyes of the law A CHILD
17 is a teen ager that can get married with permission in some states, yet way to young to have a child.
18 makes you legal to vote and other things, yet you do not have enough "real Life" adult experience to really be prepared as a parent. Your own body has not finished growoing and won't for another 4 years, so why create another person until you have reached maturity. How can you teach, when you have not learned through college or life what you want your child to know?

Babies are not puppies. Why should the parents of the parents support them? Adults support themselves and their own children. That is the right way to do things.

Best wishes any way.

FYI- when you ask "What do you think?" you ask for all opinions and judgements.

Answer 7

I say NOPE!!!!! Too young to deal with the stress of a baby.......the daddy needs a career not a job, to afford $100 a week in diapers, formula, wipes, plus $1000 a month for a house payment, (Would you really want to bring the baby home to your mothers house.....ummm...thats not a good mother to me.) $500 for bills, $150 for groceries, $300 car payments (if he can drive) I think if a person if ready to play house and make a baby they should really make a budget and try to live by that on the b/f paychecks.

........I think a 13 or even a 16 year old should go to the mall, movies, concerts, have fun while you are 13, be 13! .....once you have a baby, its no longer about you.....its about the baby first always everyday.......I'm 25 and I am just now having a baby and I'm still scared as Hell if I can really do it.

Answer 8

Oh child you had no clue do you? It is wrong because you are not yet grown yourself and having a baby is going to change your life before you even get started. You will be closing the door forever on so very much that you and your child will be forever shortchanged. You cannot possibly get a job to support you and a child at age 13 sorry and no matter how mature you may think that you are, you my dear are a baby yes a baby yourself. I know you don't think so but you are. In 5 years you will be so different from what and who you are right now that you would hardly recognize it. To have a child now is asking for a life of poverty,and hardship and your child is at risk of abuse and neglect and a life of poverty as well. Do not do this to yourself. Wait for the sake of you and any child you might have, don't do it now, wait at least that 5 years I was talking about, and even they it will be too soon. There is so much for you out there please do not stop your life and your future before you even understand what it is you will be giving up forever.

Answer 9

When you said they have"...parents to support them" your case was lost. Mature people don't have children with the intent that someone else, besides the other parent, would assist them.

At 13 they may know how to go through the motions of sex, dating, and working low paying jobs; however, they haven't learned the emotional intelligence needed to make decisions and sustain relationships. Those skills are learned from parents and teachers.

Every person that I know that has taken on responsibility too early, whether it is starting a family, having the household responsibilty placed on them by their parents, having to leave home due to disruption, or getting sent to college too young due to being promoted has had a hard time adjusting as an adult. The problems usually begin when they are in their 30's, when it takes more than guts to handle life issues. People begin to not excuse certain behaviors anymore.

Answer 10

No I do not believe that teenage girls should get pregnant for a few reasons:

1. Most teenage girls cannot assume responsibility for the life of a baby. Neither can most teenage girls financially support a baby on their own.

2. Most teenage girls do not have the emotional maturity to deal with a needy infant.

3. Once a teenage girl becomes pregnant and has a baby, her life is over with. She needs to sacrifice her own interests in place of her baby's interests. Most teenagers cannot place the life of another person ahead of their own life.

4. The welfare issue. it is unfair to penalize society for the mistake of a teenage girl.

5. Marriage. There is a reason marriage exists in our society. If you want to be making babies for a lifetime career, wait until you are 21, then get married, then you can start cranking out babies.

Answer 11

lol. Poor Hope. We as people naturally assume you are a kid posting a question about your life. I personally think when a young girl gets pregnant she is looking for attention she never had growing up. I was neglected too but never in my mind thought of having kids as a way out. I always had the thought of how will I take care of someone else if I can't take care of myself. I think its crazy how some parents will help their kid raise their children. Its crazy in the sense that if you think you are old enough to lay down and make babies you should be able to handle the consequences. Sure they can help a little if the kid is going through school and if 16 maybe a part-time job. Otherwise if 13 I would strongly suggest adoption. I don't think a child that age can mentally handle the responsibilities of caring for a child.