It's been 8months and I'm still not over my ex..how do you get over someone that you are still so inlove with?

Answer 1

I'm very sorry that this has happened to you. Assuming you have exhausted attempts to reconcile... more people.. than not, have been were you are right now. And I can assure you that you can and will get over this. Love has to be nurtured each and everyday. Yours hasn't been nurtured for 8 months now. What it basically really is... you miss the person... your love is based on the good times you once enjoyed together...and.... loneliness.
You don't really want to be with someone that really doesn't love you back, the way you love them, the way you deserved to be loved back. That would only bring you more pain than you have now. First thing you have to do is admit to yourself that this relationship is over. Next, you have to just accept it. Then, give yourself the time you need to heal. When ready... branch out socially with your friends... family ..network... don't become a hermit. Get back out in the world as soon as you can. Also, stay busy. The busier you are, the less time you have for thinking, reliving things that are gone. And time is a great healer... the more time and distance there is between you and this relationship, you will see that for yourself. Not only will you get over this person, you will love again! And all this will all be a faint memory. Good Luck to you!

Answer 2

Relationships take time to heal, and over time your heart will mend. If you are in love with them, think of it like this, if your ex and you broke up, then there must have been a problem, do you get back with them, talk to them about it. Maybe let your ex know that your still waiting for them, but let me tell you, if they just dont have feelings for you anymore, dont force it. Let it go, in the end, its best for the both of you.

I was in a relationship before, it took me a year to get over my ex. I thought he was my everything but during the time i was mending, i realized what a jerk he was and how much he wasnt worth. After thinking all his flaws make me feel better that hes gone. I also had a notebook where i wrote down all my feelings for him, the goods and the bads. i let out all my anger and emotions onto the notebook. Maybe your just blinded by love, after that phase is over, you'll realize you've wasted eight months of your life when you couldve had someone else that makes you happy. I have a bf now, we've been together for almost 2 years, im realy happy that i'm over my ex. just try to move on, and if you cant, you can do what i did with the notebook. Good luck.

Answer 3

Well if it is true love then you don't. That's what causes the heartbreak with it really. You cannot stop the way you feel no matter what the other person does, the feeling just stays. I am waiting and trying to hang on to some hope and dreams that maybe someday she will be able to be with me again. People think that its stupid but when your heart truly belongs to someone else it is impossible to try to find that with anyone other than the one you love and believe you are meant to be with, as they hold your heart in their hands. Its a cold and lonely hard test of faith.
-NmD!

Answer 4

Its been quite a while, you will probably need more time. The best thing you can do is find somebody that will make you happy. If not that, then you need to find something that will interest you to keep your mind off this person. You simply need something that will get a grip on your mind which will allow you to go about your life smoothly, but not forget about your ex entirely.

Answer 5

Wow, if we knew the answer to that then we all would be rich. I'm trying to survive in the relationship that I'm in at the moment. I want out but unsure how out of fear that it will hurt him to much.

You never get over it, its a loss. Just like any other and you grow to being able to adjust to not having that person in your life.
There is no quick fix it is a process that may take the rest of your life, they will always have a special place in your heart.

Answer 6

There is a reason why you are apart, and you must look at this as a definite break. loving some one will not change the situation, nor will tears , accept that this is where you need to be at this time and make plans, for tomorrow, and then tomorrow work on the next day soon you will find your place

Answer 7

Be patient with yourself and give yourself time to heal. Do things that you like for yourself. Spend some time journaling about it or talking to friends who are good listeners. Read. Read a lot. Read about other people's experiences.

I'm still really angry about my last relationship that lasted over three years. But it's been over for four years. I know that eventually, I'll get over the anger, but I don't know when it'll happen. I just know I need to do what's best for me, and that everyone heals at different rates.

Hope that helps. My best to you. :)

Answer 8

Find a new center of attention for yourself. Sometimes you just need to jump back in to the dating pool and find positive traits of other people that can show you that your ex isn't as great as you once thought.

Answer 9

i've been through that situation..i guess we could never get over them...well i started going out with other guys...somehow i started forgetting him but then all of a sudden he comes back to my thoughts...after a year and a half of breaking up...that'w when i finally decided that he could have been my greatest love ..and luckily after 2 years and a half god help us find a way to be back in each other arms..hope that would happen to you too...*goodluck*

Answer 10

U can't. I've tryied and i kno me and her were never meant 2 be, but my heart still won't listen. so the best advice i can give u is, keep leavin life and try 2 find another if u can.