Is it all right for an unwed adult woman to have a child on her own?

Answer 1

Yes, it is perfectly all right, and many happy children have been brought into this world and lived good childhoods filled with love in a single parent home.

Unfortunately, it is often very hard for the single mother (or the single father) to cope with work and being a single parent.

Worse, old social customs can work against the single parent, and a really sad fact of our (Western, for me) culture is the all too common lack of true community which might support and foster the growth and development of not only single but two parent homes.

Other issues which may arise in choosing may be ones involving your belief systems -- however -- you should not be dictated to by those around you, as is often the wont of many.

Ask yourself -- are you --

Emotionally and financially secure; able and willing; committed, dedicated and loving; and most important, knowing and understanding completely what it is you are setting out to do?

Then take a long hard look at yourself, know and understand your motivation... and determine if this is really what you truly believe is your role in this life.

All you then really need do is satisfy yourself that you know your true self -- and you will have your answer.

Answer 2

Is it all right for an unwed adult woman to have a child on her own? Of course it is right for the woman. But such an act will be totally wrong for the child!

It is quite wrong for a human child, born out of the whim and fancy of another self-centered person (biological mother), to live with that person.

As human babies cannot live on their own at least for the first 8 to 10 yrs there is no justification in the nature or human social culture to allow such a bad thing to happen to an individual.

In the case of baby turtles and such species, which are born free and on their own from the moment after birth, it may be quite right not to consider the way they are born.

Answer 3

I feel a woman has the right to have a child as long as she is able and willing to support and love the child for the rest of its life. I had fraternal twins in 1976 without being married and never had any other children. At that time, however, I had graduated high school in 1974, traveled the US (except Alaska and Hawaii), spent two years in Europe (US Army), had an associates degree and hadn't yet found the perfect man; though, I did find one that would make beautiful babies. Search within yourself. It's the biggest responsibility you will ever have in your entire life. Good Luck to you.

Answer 4

Studies have shown that a child develops better when both parents play a major role in the child's life.
That aside, if the woman can afford it, and won't be a drain on the social safety net, why not?

Answer 5

if an unwed single women wants to take that on by herself then she must really want to be a mom and why shouldnt she ...just because she hasnt found the right person to have a familywith she should not have to sacrifice having a child

Answer 6

Go for it! Just make sure you are financially, physically and mentally prepared for it! Also, keep in mind that whoever you have your child with, might pass on those traits to your child, so I strongly suggest really getting to know the person either way. Also think about, what if you do meet "Mr Right" later on down the road, he might not be so thrilled to enter a relationship where a child is already involved.

Answer 7

Sure as long as you are capable of providing for the child and are ready to do it on your own. Loving a child can make you feel very special and it is worth it. I am a mother of twin girls and they have changed my life so much in the past 4 year good luck to you

Answer 8

Yes , it can be done but it is not the best of ideas or situations..
The best for the child is a complete family...
Married Mother & Father..In a happy marriage...
The child will be branded as "illigetimate" all its live..
This label/brand means little in the lower classes but why
burden your child with this brand and limit his options ?

Answer 9

If you want to, if you have the means to, and if there is a positive male role model around for the child then i approve, and you have my blessing. It's natural to want a child of your own, and unfortunately in this world, a good husband is not always available. Good luck my dear.

Answer 10

There are a few problems:

1) You are depriving the child of a life where both parents are involved - and eventually the child will require and demand it.

2) Doing it on your own is taking a difficult situation, having a child, and making it more difficult, having one alone.

3) If you want to date, you shouldn't have a kid because it repels men (and rightfully so - why should he be expected to assume the additional responsibility of your actions)

4) It is barely practical for a married couple to care for a kid, providing financially as well as investing time and attention.