my mom is married to a man who wants to divorce because he feels she spends to much. do you think this is right?
2006-11-17 16:39:18 · 15 answers · asked by desiree d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he says he has been seeing someone else because of it.
2006-11-17 16:47:10 · update #1
it is her money and she pays for him too
2006-11-18 07:35:49 · update #2
There has to be more to this story, I mean does your mom work. does she pay any of the bills? Is some of this money she has earned? If not, then I feel that yes he does have every right to be angry if she is doing nothing but spending the money espically if they are on some type of budget. It is only fair that she respect the fact that he is working and trying to support a family. If she does work and some of the money is money she earned then she should be able to spend some of it but within reason. I hope that she is not just being selfish and doing nothing. As far as him seeing someone else because of this is a bunch of crap that is just a very sorry excuse for him to use to cheat. He is obviously a loser in that department.
2006-11-17 17:00:20 · answer #1 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband spends alot too, in fact, every penny he makes. No savings account at all, then when bills hit him, he's very difficult to live with. Spending is definately a problem. Maybe your mom needs some councelling if her spending is extravagant. I don't combine my earnings with my husband or share a bank account. Neither of us have access to each others accounts. When he overspends and starts complaining, I find something to do outside or elsewhere and let him sit in his financial grief alone. I have savings, he does not. We make about the same amount of money and he has all these bills, yet I pay all the household bills and still manage to save. It's because he has a problem controlling his urge to spend and it sounds like maybe your mom does as well. As far as should he divorce her? No. I wouldn't divorce my husband because of this. He makes his bed, he lays in it. I don't bail him out. But I love him none the less. Maybe it's more than just about money.
2006-11-18 00:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by backyardbonfire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it's up to him. It's not for us to judge. He may feel he doesn't want her to drag him down financially or constantly work very hard and then have her blow it all. Perhaps she would be willing to go through counseling to save her marriage. And he can arrange different financial arrangements to ensure her spending doesn't get them into trouble. It sounds to me like her actions are undermining the trust in their marriage. And without trust there isn't much of a marriage.
2006-11-18 01:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it her own money? If it is, then no it's right. But if it "his" money that she can't stop spending, then she needs to slow down. Maybe he wants to have a nice retirement for the both of them. Money is one of the top reasons for divorce. Best of luck.
2006-11-18 00:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by 2Bme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's their private business but if she spends too much and it's causing problems then it can be a reason for marital breakdown. Your mom and her husband need to compromise so that each other is satisfied and if that's impossible then they need to divorce.
2006-11-18 00:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by friendly face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats just bull because him seeing someone else is the reason he wants a divorce.
2006-11-18 01:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is that upsetting to him and they haven't been able to resolve it then yes it is. If the money is her own and she isn't obligating him to pay for her spending then she make have a moral ground to stand on. If he however is working his butt off just to have her waste the money he is earning hen it is time to say bye.
2006-11-18 01:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i don't think that's right at all because he should known before they got married that something would happen and they should share the money,i feel really sorry for Ur mom tell her good luck for whatever happens
2006-11-18 00:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by ali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overspending is a symptom of other problems in their relationship.
Relationships, especially between a husband and wife, are very complex. Not just one thing makes them or breaks them. Marriage is always a work in progress...if you don't work, you make no progress.
2006-11-18 00:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I think that he is using that as an excuse to justify cheating on her and wanting out of the marraige.
2006-11-18 01:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by youngpoet_33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋