My parents help me get out of an abusive marriage. They saw my that my ex-husband was controlling, abusive and money-minded and gave me support to get out (financial, mental and emotional)
My In-laws did not tell their daughter to get out of her abusive marriage. They saw their daughter getting abused and just tried to talk with her husband. She is now happy and things have worked out.
Whose actions do you think were more correct?
2006-11-17 16:25:15 · 11 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
two different men, two different stories. your parents did the right thing, no one wants to see their child hurt. sometimes it isn't possibble to talk to someone, and sometimes depending on the man he straightens up. can't really compare the two. u should be happy your parents were there for u, and u had a way out of a bad situation. perhaps your in laws daughter didn't have the same kind of man as u did. some people can take critisism and learn from it, some can't.
2006-11-17 16:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your in laws honey...parent must never get involved in their children marriage except advised..married children are adults and can think for themselves.
"My In-laws did not tell their daughter to get out of her abusive marriage. They saw their daughter getting abused and just tried to talk with her husband. She is now happy and things have worked out." - This should be the way...
2006-11-17 16:31:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on where you stand.....
One hand....society says if abusive, get out, etc etc. But that is the word of man.
Other hand, bible and marriage vowels state "till death do u part, sickness and in health". Well being abusivie is a sickness. So one should stay no matter what to help the other through the problems in their life....after all...thats the purpose of a mate.
I myself do not believe in divorce even though I am a product of a divorced family. 37 and still single for this reason as well, as I have yet to find a woman that thinks like I do. To me, you take an oath between you and God....you can't break that oath till the person dies, period.
2006-11-17 16:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you should offer help if you think help is needed, but unfortunately, sometimes the abuse victim is refusing the help they so desperately need. I don't know the situation with your in-laws and their daughter, but maybe talking was all she would allow them to do. Abuse victims are often brainwashed by their abusers into thinking that the abuse is somehow their own fault, which they have somehow brought on themselves, so they are reluctant to get anyone from outside the relationship involved because they feel too ashamed.
2006-11-17 16:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse is abuse you should walk away if he wants to get counseling that is fine if he wants to woo you back that is up to you but you deserve to be free and to be loved by someone who loves you for you and not to control you I am so happy your family did that. Mine did not and they felt a lot of guilt mine was bad I am doing good now but I am so proud of your parents for taking care a lot of women are afraid of what people think or what they will say to have support is best
2006-11-17 16:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents as no one should have to live with an abusive person, and if his parents talked to them what is going on behind closed doors?
2006-11-17 16:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce
2006-11-17 16:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by Sameer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy covers his tracks and actually had all convinced his x-wife, his first wife, was bipolar but we know it was really him. . He drove her nuts and now is doing it to his new wife. Verbal abuse is much worse than physical abuse, because pain of words do not go away.
2013-10-02 12:24:41 · answer #8 · answered by Gerald 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my case its my son being abused and she has taken him from his parents and friends. He doesn't want anything said to upset her because she is aweful to deal with. anytrime their is something she doesn't want my son to attend she causes so much drama for him it isn't worth it.....I want to grab her and pull her hair out but im sitting here helpless.....
2014-12-14 21:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would do anything in my power to protect my children. if you are beating up my daughter, you better bet that i'm gonna be on your porch with a bat. i don't understand people that let their children get hurt at any age.
2006-11-17 16:30:47 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋