Is it something to imagine, something to think of with desire or hope, Is not having one indicative of something lacking in yourself?
2006-11-17 16:05:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It is all of these. It is human to envision it, desire it, human to hope for it, to have it and human hate it. It is life to have and to not have. So, at least in both cases having and not having you know your alive.
I am thankful for a fruitful imagination and a good cam helps in the short term.
2006-11-17 16:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by johnatplayct 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's something I have...so I look at it a little differently ....not having one is perhaps no indication of anything about yourself.... I have always been in long term relationships 2 years/7 years/now 20 years because maybe I don't function as well on my own? I don't know...I really wanted the relationships and worked for them..But maybe other people don't place the same importance on them.
2006-11-17 20:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Long-term relationships don't necessarily mean high quality relationships.
The best romantic and sexual relationship I have ever had lasted only 4 months. The longest relationship I have ever had lasted nearly 3 years. But it was by no means the 'best'.
Why would you 'hope' to be in a long-lasting relationship if you were miserable in it?
Romance and high quality relationships are more than just a 'desire'. Romance is a BEHAVIOUR, not just a nice idea like you've implied in your question, Matt.
2006-11-17 18:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by Flashy Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard question. Relationships are the damnedest things. It is hard to live without them. For gay people it is very hard, although I am hoping it gets easier. I suspect that you and most the folks you know have long term relationships that are not romantic or sexual. But I am sure that it is exactly those kinds of relationships (romantic and hopefully sexual) that you are missing. And it is right and good that you desire them. But lacking in yourself? Nah. Keep desiring beautiful.
2006-11-17 16:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course everybody imagines, desires, or hopes for something they don't have. It's something to do to fill the void that a person feels is missing and wants somebody he or she who's in a relationship to fill those up, also imagining to be with someone who you consider perfect and having a melancholy relationship and the desires of having your very own prince charming to save the day could be considered an indictive of wanting for yourself. Hope you understand my answer, English isn't my strongpoint when it come to curriculums.
2006-11-17 17:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by dark&pure? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Humans aren't so simplistic that we can assume fault/lack when we find ourselves without a longterm relationship. There are many factors explaining why a partnership doesn't exist at some given moment.
Think of it this way (like I do): THIS half of the longterm relationship is ready, when conditions are ripe my other half will show up.
Let's do what we oughta' be doing (the things we like and love & executing responsibilities we need to tend to) and the time'll pass faster. I think it's all about faith now . . .
2006-11-18 06:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To have a long term relationship is a good goal. Being honest with yourself and others about this is important. I often feel sorry for the guys that dont have that as a goal, but it does not seem to make them unhappy. There is nothing lacking in you, you just need better advertizing...
2006-11-17 16:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not that there is something lacking in yourself. If you feel something is lacking in yourself, an LTR is not it, its probably something fundamental that is missing that needs tending to first No one looks for someone missing something to them. Perhaps that's too literal. But when it happens its like everything makes sense about yourself, there is bigger purpose to your life and that is pretty freaking great feeling if you are lucky enough to find it.
Life doesn't promise you much, but to find love that makes life seem full of promise is pretty cool.
I wouldn't trade that feeling for anything in the world.
2006-11-17 18:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Langtry 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Matt... I am desperate...will you relocate and let me spoil and worship you....keep you well satisfied and warm in my igloo on the shores of the Arctic Ocean? I need and looking for a long term relationship you gorgeous piece of hunk...I am drooling just thinking of what I can for you......Yummy.....
2006-11-18 11:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. Almost all of us go through phases... phases where we prefer to be alone, and phases where we would like to be in an LTR. LTRs, as in any relationship, require lots and lots and lots of work. They are not easy. They are hard work.
Hang in there, and one day you will find your one(?) true love.
The best of luck to you.
2006-11-17 16:08:42 · answer #10 · answered by yetanothergwm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋