ok well i was raped alot when i was younger because my body formed fasy now whenever i get around a guy i am afraid to say no afraid to get hurt. How do i deal with this?
2006-11-17 16:02:34 · 7 answers · asked by Ashley H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You need to get counseling first and foremost. Until you get your issues under control, you should probably stop dating for a while. Or, if that's not an option, you need to only go to public places with guys, and either drive yourself or get a ride from someone you can trust. Even better, go on double dates or group activities. And try to pick non-threatening guys (like nerds, because even nerds need attention, and they are willing to wait for you).
But most of all, seek therapy. It will not be easy, but it will not hurt as much as letting guys do whatever they want with you because you're afraid.
2006-11-17 16:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by nosleepthree 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is always better to say no if that is how you feel. You also might look into taking some self defense classes. As a last resort, there is no better "no" than a swift kick in the nuggets! It's brutal, but it's true! It might also help to just keep yourself out of the situation, don't find yourself alone with a guy, go out with groups of friends instead, that kind of thing.
2006-11-18 00:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by makin_the_same_mistakes 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ok it was NOT YOUR FAULT that those thing happened to you and u need to realize that it is still your body and these guys do not have the right to touch your body let alone have sex with u and if u keep givin ur body out ur goin to go so numb and messed up that u know what real love feels like n e more so i suggest u get some kinda help pray no matter how u feel about god (dont blame him) realize u have nothing to lose if u pray and realize that u need to guard your body and stand your ground! ur friend
2006-11-18 00:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by Navywife09 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear it- get some counsel - and you can call a rape hotline- or even check online- those guys should be on jail- say no- and mean no! If they don't stop leave- or always have a friend w you- and not be alone w a guy- D
2006-11-18 00:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
go and tell him
if he does not accepts u he is not to be ur partner
its u tell as many ppl u can
then look out wether who is ur frnd
2006-11-18 06:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a professional. This is something yahoo answers can't help with.
2006-11-18 00:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by Becca P 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
stand your ground when some boy ask's u u say no and standyour ground!
2006-11-18 00:12:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋