2006-11-17 15:57:36 · 16 answers · asked by iamagoat 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You may be angry and hurt, but you need to realize that the precise moment in which you're feeling that way is not the climax of your life. Sure, **** happens, but it's truly what makes us all stronger and smarter in the future. Forgiveness is not for the other person, it's for yourself. When you are capable of forgiveness, you are capable of liberating all those feelings of resentment and frustration. Just letting things go can be a great option. Of course, some things are harder t let go than others, but that I leave up to you. To forgive doesn't mean to forget, but it represents your own strength to see life from a bigger perspective, not the tiny detailed one.
Baby, you've got bigger fish to fry. =D
2006-11-17 16:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by Alula 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't you have to calm down first, sit down. watch T.V do something to get your mind off it. Then try to think why you are so angry and why do you feel hurt. Then make excuses for the other person, it could take you days, but don't make it more then three. Don't talk to that person within that time. After a while you thought about it, start off with something light when you talk to that person a good memory a joke, something you shared together. Then you can forgive if you see the need to.
2006-11-17 16:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by kitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let yourself forgive the person, not their actions. We are all human and we all make mistakes. I'm sure even you have made mistakes that you now realize were pretty stupid and you wished you hadn't. Realize others will go through that regret part at some point in time and see that they were wrong. In the meantime if you feel its hard to forgive someone, separate the person from the situation. Forgive the person, you don't have to forgive the situation.
2006-11-17 16:05:30 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Dude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For myself, I acknowledge my feelings then try to look at the most compassionate way to look at the situation. Every person in this world is struggling some way or another. Every one is a conditioned soul, acting and reacting according to their experiences. Some people have been hurt or abused and the only way they know how to act is aggressive or harshly towards others. Praying for them is one thing that helps one release anger. God sees our sincerity to forgive and he helps take away our pain. go to http://www.stephen-knapp.com read e-book Towards World Peace Seeing the Unity Between Us All.
2006-11-17 16:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
say i will not get angery and if you are muslim:
Shake hands and rancor will disappear. Give gifts to each other and love each other and enmity will disappear".
Also Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said:
"A strong person is not the person who throws his adversaries to the ground. A strong person is the one who contains himself when he is angry".
"The recompense for an injury is an injury equal thereto (in degree): but if a person forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward is due from Allah: for (Allah) Loves not those who do wrong." (42:40).
"... [those] who restrain anger and pardon [all] men - for Allah loves those who do good." (Qur'an, 3:134)
you can get some things out of islam and any religion and use it in your own way.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “The strong man is not the one who can throw another down. The strong man is the one who can keep hold of himself when he is angry.” [ Sahîh al-Bukhârî and Sahîh Muslim ]
The Prophet (peace be upon him) advised us not to speak when we are angry. He said: “If one of you gets angry, he should be quiet.” [ Musnad Ahmad ]
The Prophet (peace be upon him) gave us other practical advice. He said: “If one of you gets angry and he is standing, then he should sit down until his anger subsides. If it does not, then he should lie down.” [ Sunan Abî Dâwûd ]
He also said: “Anger is from Satan, and Satan was created from fire. Fire is but extinguished by water, so if one of you gets angry, he should perform wudû'.” [ Sûnan Abî Dâwûd and Musnad Ahmad ]
again use this in your own way. use some of these things and you dont even have to care that some one who is a muslim said this, just use this.
2006-11-17 16:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by laam miim 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For me, forgiving is letting go. Letting go of the power that person has to hurt me. Letting go of that person to what ever fate takes them. I don't forget. I don't say it is ok. I don't necessarily let them stay in my life.
2006-11-17 16:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by Calina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WE MUST, ALWAYS DIFFICULT, BUT IT DOES GET EASIER WITH AGE. MARK 11:23-26 JESUS SAYS WE CAN PRAY FOR ANYTHING AND IF WE BELIEVE WE HAVE IT. BUT FIRST FORGIVE THOSE THAT YOU HAVE A GRUDGE AGAINST SO OUR FATHER IN HEAVEN WILL FORGIVE YOU YOUR SINS. THAT SIMPLE, LOVE YOUR BROTHER AS YOURSELF, SOMETIMES, WHEN LIVES ARE LOST AND THE SICK PEOPLE CONTINUE TO SMILE IT ALL SEEMS FUTILE, BUT IF I CAN SO CAN YOU!
GOD BLESS
2006-11-17 16:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by thewindowman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can take a long time to forgive.
Never forget however, learn from it so you don't get hurt the same way again.
2006-11-17 16:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Gaspode 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We forgive because it relieves us of carrying around the burden of anger, hurt and angst.
2006-11-17 16:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you can't forgive, then your life will be ruined because of that anger that you are keeping inside... so you have to forgive if you want to be happy...
2006-11-17 16:00:03 · answer #10 · answered by Carol 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋