Why is it that a woman can take a man's child from him any time she chooses?

Question

By using cheap tactics used by slim ball attorneys, such as restraining orders. A woman only has to make the accusation and in family court the judge has to take her word for it. The restraining order issuance is so badly abused by women that it is common in almost all contested divorces.
And what repercussions does she face because of making false statements and lies? None.
Plus since family court is set up in favor of mom off the bat it becomes costly for men who want to have their children in their lives to fight long court battles that could easily run over the course of the child’s life.
Being that our society tells us that men are bumbling fools who are not capable of raising children, voters shoot down any initiative that would make it mandatory that parents share custody, given both are fit.
So to all you fathers out there, how does it feel knowing that your wife if she chooses could take your children at anytime? What are we going to do about that? I suggest you support any father’s rights group by joining and passing the word to everyone you know about how in today’s world of equal rights there is a grave violation of equality against us fathers.

Answer 1

Actually, the mans statement is fairly accurate if the mother wishes to do such things and the courts do favor such bad attitudes as a precaution.
It also doesn't help that supportive girlfriends and family members will testify for things they weren't even there for wanting to "protect their girlfriend or daughter/sister" and not realize or have a clue they are being used.
If that is what you call friend, you ladies are a very pitiful group to use children as a weapon for your own very low self esteem to feel good about yourself and gain sympathy at the expense of victimizing your own children and the other parent.
Voice of experience, been there.
As a final word, my sons are in their twenties now and though they didn't get any of my mail I sent, all the phone calls that I was hung up on trying to reach them and stayed away physically due to threats of arrest if I even came there to see them in Indiana and while having full visitation rights, they know all they need to know about me for their mother and grandmother taught them everything they needed to know and I deserted them in their mind and in their truth. I have nothing to feel sorry for. I know I did what I could and live in the satisfaction that I did.
As a warning to this and any other person paying child support through your state angency. If the custodial parent moves to another state such as Indiana. She may go to their child support agency and report you delinquent for whatever time she likes to report you for. They don't cross check records within their own system or other states, so one record for the kids say you are up to date and the other says you are $22000.00 plus in the rears with a warrant for your arrest by the time you find out about it.
What happens to mom for doing such a thing...nothing, she obviously made a mistake which takes months to straighten out for the agency's really don't talk to each other state to state. That is also why they don't deliver the real violators of child support. Child support agencies are set up to protect the children and that means protecting the custodial parent at all costs. That is the way it was when I was still paying and all they could do was send me a form letter that the second record was to be destoryed and the charges dropped. No apology. The bitterness stays with you probably for the rest of your life.

Answer 2

They should have wrapped it up. Though really, it's supposedly because the mother is the one who is now burdened. If she keeps the child, then she's the one who is going to be paying for it (physically) the next nine months. Then it's very likely that she's going to be the one who takes care of the child the most after wards, even if she goes back to her job. It's just how things work out. Unfair to the father? Maybe, or even especially if the girl is only keeping the baby to "trap" him. But then again, life isn't fair. And how exactly do you go about it when you have men who actually pressure a woman into having a child, only to wake up a few months later (when it's too late for abortion), realize that if this child born it's the end of their freedom, and then they just pack up and leave?

Answer 3

I understand that you're in a lot of pain right now, and I assume that all these things you mention have happened to you. I'm so sorry.

Please don't turn this into a war of the sexes, though. There are good, decent mothers AND fathers, and sometimes they make poor choices and wind up with partners who can see only their own interests. This is sad, and the saddest thing is how much it hurts the children.

You will find your way. The journey will be difficult, but will offer you tremendous opportunity.

Answer 4

Ok.....I could write a novel on this subject, but I will keep it as short and to the point as possible......I have been a single mother for 12 yrs and my children father has never really been "a good father", but I look at things alot different then most mothers.....I don't force my children to have MY opinion of their dad.....I have allowed them to form theirs.....

Most parents loose focus on the kids when things don't workout and in doing so, they really end up hurting their children. Unless a father or mother is unfit and/or will not take care of the kids, there is no reason to make them pay the price of mom and dad not having a successful relationship......our children love us unconditionally, just as we love them.....

You are very angry about this and with reason, but ask yourself.....is being angry and talking all the mess getting you anywhere? NO!!! So, my advice to you is to try another approach to your ex wife......you two loved each other at one time, so you know her pretty well, right? Talking(not being angry) will get you so much further......even if you are doing everything right......beat her at her own game....she wants you to be angry, and she is winning. And if you aren't doing the right thing..well then, take your head out of your rear and fix things if you want them to be right......THINK ABOUT YOUR KID"S FEELINGS....and no matter what.....always show them that you love them......

My brother has full custody of his kids, so if indeed the ex won't listen......and put the kids before ya'll......know that you have rights as a father regardless of what mom thinks.....but....I would try to talk to her and focus on your kid's feelings and let her know that you two holding grudges for whatever reasons towards each other is only hurting them.....they should be first in both of your minds......I am gonna stop now.....this is a touchy subject to me.....THE KIDS always pay the price and all it takes is for parents to actually care about what they are doing to their kids by using them to get at each other and so many do it......

I hope you loose the anger and find an approach that will make it to where you two can learn to be MOM and DAD.....good luck

Angel

Answer 5

I am not a father but a daughter who was in a situation like that. My mother hated my dad so she tried to keep us from him. As I got older, I relized what my mom was doing. When I turned 12, I called my dad and told him to call his lawyer. A week later, I was living with him. Oh, by the way, all you have to do is dig up dirt on the female and prove it in court and then youhave your kids.

Answer 6

That is just ONE of many double standards against men. Ironically men give women those unequal “rights”, yes men are still in power, men are very protective towards women, and women are just the opposite towards men!
Just a few links:
http://www.eagleforum.org/topics/fathers/
http://www.eagleforum.org/topics/Feminism/index.shtml

Answer 7

It is because a woman has more connection with the child. A man can create a child and go away and never know about it where as a woman can't do that. When a man can bear children we should give him the same rights as the woman.

Answer 8

your still hurt!you want revenge on the mother of your child! WHY?When your no longer seek revenge and see that the only one your hurting is the children .Courts are not there to choose sides ever they look for the most suitable person & stable.Your not it! YOU ARE ANGRY.CALM DOWN AND RELAX.