why does my life suck?

Question

My girlfriend recently broke up with me, i have like 3 real friends and sometimes they try to avoid me and everyone thinks i suck....

i need someone to cheer me up... please

and dont give me that have hope and pray to god... cause you dont know how long ive had the patience, prayed, hoped, and everything of that sort...

i sometimes have thoughts of doing something ill greatly regret...

Answer 1

Since you started with your lost girlfriend I will do the same.
I will remind you that it is normal to have break-ups when young.
While feeling sad and lonely is no fun for anyone
you might keep in mind that these down and out feelings
are also the motivators to get up to self-inspect
and then to improve ourselves.

So, you are down and out, feeling bad, sad
and want to give up the fight at times,
but you will overcome those thoughts
and think of things to do to improve yourself.

Strange, but one of the first things people do
is to shower longer, and more often,
change toothpaste, get a new toothbrush,
and whiten their teeth by brushing more.

Caring for yourself is the first step
in getting others to care for you.

So, you shower and shave twice a day
and you groom more carefully,
dress neater and better, head to toe.

You will start doing exercises to improve yourself.
Your biceps will swell, your stomach ripple.
You will stand straighter, taller when you walk.
Your posture will improve, and your speech will sharpen.

You might frequent the library and read non-fiction
and self-help books to improve yourself more.
Your self-confidence will improve with your pride in yourself.

Comedy is going to be a key in your finding cheer.
You'll see movies and watch entertainment on TV.
When you meet a girl, you will not be so needy,
so dependent, but will have her seeking you.

You're spending money on YOURSELF.
Again, the message is that you're worth it.

Now, those who work, start working harder,
for work is one place they have order in life,
and one place that they can control their life.

So, what happens when you work more?
You make more money to spend on yourself.
So, what happens when you work harder?
You rise in respect and in position.

There you are, looking better, doing better at work.

You have more time on your hands now
and you have more money to spend.
You might improve yourself other ways too,
such as dance classes, or art classes,
guitar lessons, tennis, golf, chess, etc.

As you feel your friends don't appreciate you,
and you want to avoid being negative in front of them,
you will learn to be by yourself more than ever,
yet you will not be alone, for as you reach out to be better,
you will find new and possibly better friends,
friends who have similar interests to your new ones.

As you make yourself do things you don't want to do
because you think you should do it,
you will gain self-discipline and confidence.

Oh, feeling down is key to rising up.
Losing yourself is a step to finding yourself.
A person who is always happy, content,
will never see a need to change, to grow.

Yes, you come to points where you have to choose.
Do you give up and drug up and numb out?
Or do you decide you are a man who doesn't quit?
You're going to find out who you are, good and bad,
then you're going to find a vision of what you want to be,
develop the steps to reach those goals,
and begin to grow again, as a person.

When you pray to God, don't ask for Him to do it for you,
but ask Him to help you see all you can be.

Read Matthew in the New Testament of the Bible,
fifth chapter, and see how when Jesus says:
Blessed are the poor in spirit - you will understand, and
Blessed are those who mourn - you have been there;
Blessed are the meek - you are getting there now;

Now, once you are down, mourn, & meek
to the point of giving up on everything,
then you are ready to seek righteousness.

Some mistake what is righteousness.
They go shopping, buy clothes and a new car.
they get a new girlfriend, new furniture,
or go get drunk and drugged out.

The only real righteousness is found in Jesus
and his word is there in the verses that follow.

You find mercy, and the first mercy is of yourself,
and again, Jesus will lead you into forgiving yourself.

You will become pure of heart, not pretending,
but just being and feeling who you are, as a child again.

You will become a peacemaker, one who does good.

You will read on in Matthew 5, and see more steps,
for these are NOT a list, but a process to growth.

You will become a true friend, with true friends.
You will become someon who loves, and is loved.
You will be the person you were born to become.
You will make it happen by faith, self-discipline,
and seeking the path always to take.

I am an old man, one who has lived his days,
but you, you are one who has tomorrow.
Be glad you are now motivated to do something,
now, before it is too late. You can do it. Will you?
Go find a King James Version of the Bible.
Go find the man whose footsteps you will follow.
dj of raleigh

Answer 2

I feel the same and look to the future thinking is it just going to be in a constant routine of getting up, going to work or school then coming home then sleep and I'm at the point where I just wish for a more interesting life (obviously wishes can't come true) I try a lot of things to make it less boring and suck less but I just can't break out of it and I just think in a way that we are just repeating an endless cycle till the day we die, now I'm not suicidal at all but I just feel that nothing more in life can interest me. I've never looked back at a moment in my laugh where I was the happiest I have ever been and I escape this through music with some hopes that one day maybe my wishes will come true but I've never felt this bad about my life and a lot of the times sad moments are reminded to me gaining random memories or dreams. My reasons for this come in many different forms and I really don't know what could make it more interesting, I go out but there's still my mind thinking back to me if I'm truly happy or if it's just the drinks mistaking it. I have a good few friends and some think in similar ways to me but I just don't feel that there's much more that can be done to interest me. I think about joining the forces as it seems like one of the only interesting jobs to do in life and from my experiences it seems to me that the only way you'll ever be able to enjoy everything is to have the money which I'd have to work extremely hard for and even then it wouldn't earn enough.

Answer 3

My Life Sucks

Answer 4

I ponder questions like this one often. I find it ironic that we are a generation which has more freedom, more financial assistance, more access to technology, information, health-care and job opportunities than any other generation b4 us. I really think we are spoiled and I believe if we were given the choice we would choose to go back to a period in time like the 50s where we were more innocent and life was more simple... it is not your fault you feel depressed etc, so do I, and I think we are just products of our environment. All we can do is our best, treat others with kindness and respect, look after yourself and those who love you and try to keep a positive attitude, there is always someone else worse off than us... good luck.

Answer 5

Your life doesn't suck...everyone elses' does. You just need perspective to help you see that fact. Your life just hasn't had enough time to get started because you are too impatient - you have not mastered the art of patience yet.

I thought my life sucked until I learned that life sucks for everyone in one way or another - all the way up till the day they die, no matter what age that turns out to be.
Most people's lives that I really take the time to learn about suck even more than mine.

The cool thing was my epiphany that, finally, someone else's life sucks more than mine does! That was when I finally had control. I now make six figures, have a loving wife, three great kids, a nice house and two cars! However, at least twice per year (most years, even more), my life really, really sucks...badly. That is planet Earth, dude. "Welcome". Don't even try to fix that one!

The first thing to do is lose religion until you're really, really ready to commit to it because it doesn't help you, otherwise, it only makes it worse. If you must know, I do not have or support any religion. Do not call me an Atheist, as that is also a religion. Instead, call me Jim, or even "asshole", or much, much worse - i really don't care....and you should get control of yourself. You're here only once and you will die...only once, just like me and eveyone else reading this. Be like me and try to have fun trying to fugire out this f'ed-up puzzle that you never asked to be part of, called "life".

The next thing is to develop a plan to live. Start with answering some important questions like "How long do I want to live?" (I chose 85) "Who do I really WANT to marry?" (My true friend) "DO I EVEN REALLY WANT TO MARRY?" Do I really need a lot of money (Yes, you do - you need only define what "a lot" is). How about prestiege, recognition, autograph-signing,etc., I have always said F--k that noise.

...or just friggin' live, only to die just like the rest of the people who have not provided you with any substantive answers....because they don't really know the answers themselves. Grow a set of balls, figure it out and go with it.

GO HAVE FUN


By the way, you'll learn the true meaning of "real friends" sooner than you think. Notice I have not mentioned your girl-"friend" at all.

Answer 6

Everyday it will hurt less and you like most will be stronger for it. Most of us have been where you are now. I like to think its a right of passage. Your on your way to becoming damaged goods my friend. If you learn anything from this it should be to put you first. Let someone have a piece of you but never all of you and remember words are cheap and proof is in the pudding. What I mean is if she said she loved you she was lying..maybe to you and maybe to herself probably both. Next time and there will be a next time hold yourself together till you see self sacrifice that's how you will know someone loves you. Speaking from experience getting drunk and sleeping with hookers will not make you feel better about who you are. It will only make matters worse. Make a goal for your self tomorrow and make it happen then do it again. On day at a time.

Answer 7

hey bud guess what know exaclty how you feel but maybe you should pay a little more attention with things that are goin around you god may be workin for you-----you just may not be noticing it. yeh it sucks REALLY REALLY bad but it takes time and thats about all there is too it. and whatever your thinkin about now --- later you'll think it wasnt worth it. you'll find somebody else and maybe you try to make some new friends that might take your mind off things try gettin involved in things cuz when u do that u'll meet all sorts of new people just relax and be nice and try not to be shy just get busy with someone trust me it helps alot and KEEP prayin

Answer 8

I more than likely will not have such a long reply like others, and I do know you dont want to heaar about the power of praying. In my defense I was dealing with depression and I have been through what you are dealing with. I am sure everyone has been through it. I am so sorry about you and your girlfriend. God is amazing. I have been depressed again lately and I have had some very ill thoughts towards my self. God will help and talking about it may also help. Praying for you!

Answer 9

First thing, please don't do whatever you and everyone else might regret. Just chill for a minute. You should find someone to talk to about it, like your mom or dad or maybe a sibling. It might not solve things right away but it will help get some of that off your mind. Its not real easy sometimes to make news friends but I think thats what you need right now. and p.s. you don't suck.

Answer 10

well first thing i wanna tell u is no matta how bad anything gets alwaiis no sumthing good is just around the corner so dont do anything stupid!! and im sorry dat ur gf broke up wit u and mayb ur so called "real friends" if they try to avoid i i really dont think that htey would b that good of friends coz they should ALWAIIS b there for u no matta how bad or haow annyoing u can get and even though ur life may suk now u just gotta take a step back and look at some of the good things in life and concentrate on them no matter how bad things are theres alwais gotta b sum good goin on and that is sumthing u should concentrate on. think about all the good times uv had in the past and smile and try and interact with ppl and if they all rekon u suk tell em they dont no **** coz they dont no u and ur problly a really nice guy once ppl get to no u and they just dont no wot there missing out on so just dont worry and SMILE! :) xoxo

Answer 11

First of all, you shouldn't be down yourself. you need to care for yourself. You need to eat 3 times a day. Don't stop just because your girlfriend broke up with You. I'm so sorry of what happened to you. You also need to get over it. The way you can do that is try to forget her and start a new life

. What I mean by that is to love yourself and get yourself a new girlfriend. I hope this helps :)