Will he change?

Question

My son has been getting in trouble lately. He changed schools. He is 16. I am divorced. All has been going quit well, until just recently, he began to get into trouble (skipping classes, smoking funny cigaretes) I have talked to him. I have chastized him. What is my next step. Help

Answer 1

you need to wupp his @ss, no less

Answer 2

At this age its easy to get hooked up with the wrong crowd.Now that his world has changed because of devorce he may not have anyone to talk to about his problems.All the security he felt before about his family is gone and he is very confused right now.Drugs,bad behavior,rebellion are all signs that he is seeking attention.If your son doesn't get this attention from you he will find it in other places that aren't healthy for him or you.Watch for signs of other drugs such as pills or cocain.Notice his sleeping habits and see if they change,if so he may be useing different drugs to get high and then to come down so he can sleep.Talk to his school councilor and see if they will help,they can lead you to many local groups to get help if this is whats going on.Best of luck to you,been down this road before myself.

Answer 3

You should very unsure of how to handle this situation with your son. Do you have consequences for misbehavior, i.e., loss of privileges, rules, and ongoing dialogue about expectations. Also it is important that you are consistent and follow through with consequences and incentives for appropriate behavior. It is important to focus on good behavior and to reward and encourage appropriate behavior. Sit down with your son and determine consequences and incentives and then stick to the plan and provide incentives and consequences as earned.

Also, do you have assistance from his father or other family members who can support you and help provide consequences and incentives.

It is not enough to chastise and talk to your son you have to work to provide incentives for good behavior and appropriate consequences for smoking, skipping classes, and other behaviors.

Also, he might benefit from counseling as he has recently experienced multiple changes and losses in his life and this may be causing the deterioration in his behavior.

Good luck!

Answer 4

when my son was that age, and i was divorced and he was fatherless, he began getting into trouble and hanging out with the wrong kids, he found himself in a delima where they made it mandatory that he do a tour of the county jail where we lived. when the jail inmates learn there is a boy coming through they make it look as bad as they can and sometimes as in the case of my son, scare the boy, give him a glimse of what it would be like to be in there, and most of the time the young man would prefer never to go there. a tour to the local county jail would do it.tough love, making him accountable for his mistakes, and not getting him out of it when he does do wrong, make him suffer the consequences.

Answer 5

Your next step is to become his shadow. Go to school with him in the morning, sit in all his classes, hang around him at recess and lunch, follow him home at the end of the day. I guarantee you, it will only take one day, maximum two, before he is ready to die with embarrassment. When he begs you to stop and asks you what will it take to get you off his back, you say: "Well, the only way I can do that is if I can trust you, and I mean absolutely trust you, to never do the following: (followed by your list of things you want him to cut out).

Answer 6

Changing schools at age 16 is the pits. He misses his old friends, and his old place. You can understand why he is acting out. He is unhappy. Now, he's gotten himself into drugs. You need to get him to counseling and, if there is a father anywhere in the picture, the dad has to talk to him. Also, you need to promise to take him to see his old friends, IF he starts to behave. Tell him he isn't alone. You are there for him and you love him.

Answer 7

See if you can schedule an appointment to visit a juvenile facility or a prison, to let him know that if he don't stop what he is doing then that is where he will end up. Also let him know how you feel. Do research with him on people who don't get educations and the effects of drugs.

Answer 8

Have a man around so he can look up to someone or have some of your guy co workers hang out with him. He probably is emotionally damaged due to because your divorced.

Answer 9

Send him to boot camp.


P.S. Those funny cigaretes are called Blunts, they are used to wrap up drugs like weed. Drugs are bad, maybe get him into a rehab clinic, boot camp.

Answer 10

Maybe it would help for him to get into counseling. Or, you could try to be his friend and let him know that you are there for him.

Or, tough love may work. Try to read some books on parenting teenagers.

Answer 11

It is called punishment , you need to let him know there is going to be someone to answer to when he messes up like this. ground him from the t.v. , phone , and keep adding to it and make the time longer each time he does this. I am sure you know what those funny ciggs. are!