It seems sometimes people are insistent to the point that you have to devise a clever yet credible lie to accomplish the purpose. I don't really like lying in this situation but somehow feel that if I don't I will be sacrificing either tact or effectiveness in my response.
2006-11-17 14:39:32 · 7 answers · asked by Seeker 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I ALWAYS choose my own Best Answer and generally consider it thoughtless of others not to do the same. But there are times when it is simply not possible. For instance in this case where every answer is a gem and one cannot be separated from the rest as THE BEST. So accept my apology here as I let this question go to a vote. And know please how much I appreciate every answer I have received here and how helpful you have all been to me. God bless.
2006-11-25 07:43:58 · update #1
An honest but non-specific answer is, "Thank you, but that's not going to work for me." You don't have to explain any more than that. It's concise but not rude. If you're pressed to explain why it won't work, you can say, "It just doesn't" (because it's rude of the other person to press you), or you can say, "I have other plans."
2006-11-17 14:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by azera221 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are being waaaay more courteous than the person that won't take no for an answer. They are being impolite to you, and you are still concerned about not offending them, which seems like a good thing. Saying no to an invitation is way better than lying or saying yes and not showing up. I guess one way to wiggle out is say you might try to drop by, but can't promise.
2006-11-17 22:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by James B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and say no thanks.....at least they will have some semblance of respect for you.
If they persist, stick to your guns and walk away. That alone will show you are serious.....remember, actions speak louder than words.
2006-11-25 20:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by Pat B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ms Manners says you never have to explain yourself, just say that you appreciate the invitation, but will be unable to attend. Period. No excuses, no lies. Know your personal boundaries and stick to them.
2006-11-17 22:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say No. It works for drugs and sometimes sex( just kidding). Practice saying no. It will be a good habit, so that you dont find yourself doing things you dont want to do, just to keep peace.
2006-11-18 00:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by awdstyle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them no thank you. You don't need to give anyone a reason. Don't let them talk you into doing or going somewhere you don't want to go.
2006-11-17 22:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by T L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say NO THANKS. If they ask for a reason, tell them it's personal.
2006-11-17 22:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by Rainfog 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋