i am married for 3 years , and i am feeling suffacating .so i wanted to go to london or paris for 1 year, for my higher studies ,as i am a fashion designing student. i want some space. when i try to explain him he says ok ,but he gives comments and he makes me gets scared of going alone.i am not having problem with money, but even though i am not able to do.this time iwant to go any way by next year ,can i?
2006-11-17 14:28:20 · 21 answers · asked by saratvsb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOU MUST GO FOR YOUR CARRIER AND ASSURE HIM THAT YOU CAN LIVE ALONE AND BE FAITHFUL TOWARDS HIM AND WIN THE CONFIDENCE.
2006-11-19 14:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 6 years now, and marriage is about commitment and wanting to be together. Are there times where we do things separately? Sure, I'll go to sporting events with other guys, and she might go out with her female friends for whatever, but at the end of the day we come home and spend time together.
If you feel you have to go away for a year, it is not possible to work on a marriage relationship while you are away for that long a period of time.
There are intimacy issues, that without the spouse present will only lead to dating others and an inevitable separation. Leaving your husband for a year will not help make your marriage stronger.
If you need to study and further your career, that is great, then either you do it there where you live, or the two of you agree to move to Paris.
If you can not come to an agreement on this, then you have other problems, either see a counselor, or a separation for a year will spell the end for your marriage.
2006-11-17 14:54:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Maybe he is insecure and thinks that you be doing some dating over there. I lived Paris for 3 1/2 yrs and its the most interesting city that I've been in. They are very open minded in France and its not hard to find a date. If money is no problem he could come and visit you there. Good luck
2006-11-17 14:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you and him need a break anyway but I do not think you should go just because you want to get away from him because of how he is. What I would do first is to ask yourself Do you want to stay married to him if you say yes then get some counselling and get this cleared first because what will happen you will grow apart and when you get there you will feel relaxed and then you will write him a deer John letter Not cool for you and you will be the bad guy.
2006-11-17 14:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never should have gotten married. Go wherever you wish for whatever excuse you make but one thing for sure is to expect your marriage to be O-v-E-r. If it were truly just for your studies then the both of you could relocate for that time period. That however isn't in your design. Be truthful with yourself and with your husband. He deserves that much and then make a decision. Perhaps you should consider a divorce to free up the strangle hold he has on you.
2006-11-17 14:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not? just bcos he gave some comments and u r having second thought? You have to learn how to think independently my dear. Consider this as giving a break for both of you as well as giving yourself a chance to learn something/pick up something along the way
2006-11-17 14:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by sgbdk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont see why not. Marriage is sometimes very hard and complicating and nobody says it was easy {married also}. I would say go for it since he knows you want to go and he says hes "ok" with it than i think you should go for it and get higher studies I hope this helps.
2006-11-17 15:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in marriage its an equal relationship, their is no me its us, your running away because your feeling suffocated is just an escape, your not facing the real problems in your relationship. Your husband has seen this, and believes that your going is to get away from him, its your nice way of telling him the marriage is over, and he is slowly accepting that fact. he is trying in his own way to get you to think about saving the marriage, not ending it, it does not matter what you tell him, a deliberate separation by choice tells all that the marriage is over
2006-11-17 14:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by redsyoungstud 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband doesnt understand why you want to be away from him for a year. He might think that this is your way of telling him that it is over. If your husband is against you doing this you might have to make a choice him or your space.
2006-11-17 14:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to study further it is OK But I feel You need to check yourself what do you want.You are hiding something from yourself,be cleat and straight,and tell him the truth.The problem will be solved.
2006-11-17 14:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by suchsi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. What is meant to be, is meant to be. If you are supposed to be married to this person forever, a year apart won;t stop that. No kids in the picture, its wide open.
2006-11-17 14:34:33 · answer #11 · answered by Ryan P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋