Is this wrong?

Question

I am married, and my wife has been unfaithful, and I have moved on with someone else, but I am still married.

Answer 1

Whether your wife is faithful or not, you're still married. Talk to your wife. If you love this other woman, and don't love your wife anymore, then talk about divorce. If you still have the tiniest feeling for you wife, then talk to her about her problem. Does she want to work on the marriage? Don't ignore the issue, because it will turn around and bite you harder than finding out she was cheating did.

What you're doing with this other woman is wrong, BUT what your wife is doing is wrong too, BUT lack of communication can slow many marriages, just talk. You need to see that the greater problem is between you and your wife, you two need to talk about it. That's the most important thing you can do.

Answer 2

I'm not here to share the opinion of anyone, but t o show you where you can find out about what the Bible --God himself-- has to say about it ...

When a Mate is Unfaithful :
- Infidelity--Its Tragic Consequences
- Is Reconciliation Possible?
- The Option of Divorce
- Meaningful Support
- Why Some Stay Together
- Who Is Responsible?
- Children Do Not Deserve Divorce
- Does God Hate All Divorce?
http://watchtower.org/library/g/1999/4/22/article_01.htm

By looking up all the Scriptures referred to within (they are all direct links to an on-line Bible), you can easily read them & compare them with your own Bible.

Why View Marriage as Sacred?
Love and Respect - Time and Attention - Avoid a Casual View!
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/5/8a/article_01.htm

(These URLS will likely be changed shortly. If & when that occurs, the new URLs can be found by entering a title or subject in http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm Advanced Search, which will find the new URLs for you.)

Answer 3

I agree with the above answers. Tit for tat. Get a divorce. They are all options that we can use when put in this sort of situation. The question though is what is right for you. You've gotten your revenge but do you still love your wife? If you do then get rid of the gal and confess. If you don't love her anymore, it might be a good idea to move on. There are too many horror stories about cheating spouses to take a chance with your willy or life. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Yes, this is wrong, if you have evidence that your wife was unfaithful, then you should have left her and divorced her if you knew you could not reconcile your relationship.
If you are not divorced because you were hoping to get back with your wife, then you are making your new lady is just a lover and you are not giving yourself nor her the respect your new relationship deserves.
You need to divorce your wife if you have no intentions or can not reconcile, there is no shame in that, if my wife cheated I could not reconcile with her, is not in me.

Answer 5

First of all you need the honesty of saying " I have been unfaithful". But don't beat yourself up with quilt , personal and societal, in what is alot of issues. The right thing is to get divorced, never stay in a bad marriage. Everyone has a right to happiness

Answer 6

Based on what you just said on here, you are cheating on her too same as she has cheated on you. Two wrongs do not make a right.

If you both want to see other people the best thing for both of you to do is get a divorce first and then AFTER it is finial, then start dating again.

Answer 7

Although you have moved on there are legal issuses you should be aware of.If you are still married and not legally seperated you could be held accountable for any expences she may acquire.Also if you should come into any money or property she could possible get half of it if you did file for a devorce.Be careful.

Answer 8

If your wife was wrong for being unfaithful and you are now doing the same thing.........Of COURSE you are wrong!

Answer 9

Vinceguy2 is right, the only honorable way out is to get a divorce.

Answer 10

YES it is wrong, my wife has dont the same. Get a divorce.