Tree days ago a girl kicked me in the balls for fun in school; she and her girlfriends laughed at me for a long time, filmed me with the phones, then walked away and just left me there on the floor like a dog. I felt so violated and humiliated! It was very embarrassing for me to tell my Mother, but I did, and she said I should get used to it because probably it will not be the last time!!! She was actually smiling!!! I was going to tell her it still hurts, but after that I just lost my words. What do you think about this? Why are girls like that???
2006-11-17 14:16:34 · 16 answers · asked by ytrewq7m 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I am so sorry for you and the insensitive way everyone reacted to you. What should have happened is first, the school authorities should have been informed and your parents should have taken you for medical treatment. The girls should have been disciplined by the school for bullying, not to mention assault and battery. Then a decision would have been made by you and your parents jointly whether to make a complaint to the police. In my opinion, students who would do something like this need to be called before the juvenile authorities together with their parents so that they take it seriously and never do it again. You could have also insisted that they pay your medical expenses for the treatment.
Given that you didn't get that support, I say that the next time you see those girls, you put on your most menacing face and threaten them with all of the above if they ever do it again. Since you still hurt, I do hope that your mother reconsiders and takes some action along these lines now.
2006-11-17 14:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by Latrice T 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Warm hugs
Some girls can be very mean and nasty (so can boys), and what these girls did is illegal, and can be charged for this sort of behaviour, especially since they have filmed their antics.
I am a perplexed when young people are encouraged to talk to their parents, and when they do they get the response you had.
And parents wonder why their children don't talk to them!
As a Youth worker I try to encourage young people to talk to their parents, but sadly I hear of stories how parents devalue their child's, concerns, thoughts and feelings.
When this happens I feel very frustrated and angry for the young person, and can only offer my support.
May I suggest that you talk to your school councillor, (at least you will get some sort of comfort) and report these girls for their abusive behaviour.
You may also like to contact the local Youth centre, they will offer support and will help in talking to school, your parents etc, if you wish them too. They can also set up an Doctors appointment if your still in pain, as these girls may have done some damage. They (Youth workers) can not talk to any one with out your permission.
Do seek some help, as these BULLIES could do much more serious harm to you if not some other person.
I am sorry I can not help much more than this.
Take care and good luck!
2006-11-18 06:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by Georgie 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all - I can't believe your Mother spoke to you that way! She should be supportive.
Second - You need to seek medical help, because being "kicked in the balls" can cause major damage. If your Mother won't take you to a doctor, see the school nurse.
Third - These girls also need to be reported. If you grabbed their breasts wouldn't you get in trouble. There should be no double standard.
2006-11-17 22:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by Marlie S 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
girls maybe like that but women are NOT like that no one hast the rite to touch or kick you there that is just wrong they can be charged with assult for that and i would turn them in to the school and to the cops esp for taping you while doing that its just sick and as for your mom if she was smiling about this and didnt offer to help you out then she doesnt deserve the title mom that is just wrong if anyone did that to my son my as s would be at that school so fast everyones heads would be turning and i also would take my son to the dr to make sure no real dammage was done i would like to have grandkids some day .. rite now i would like to get my hands on your mother and tell her a few things
2006-11-18 14:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by crazyme 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey this is America. You should sue the piss out of the lot of them. They've even recorded proof for you, just make sure the police/ lawyers get ahold of those cell phones before they erase it.
Get some doctor to say you've sustained permanent damage. It's possible. I've heard trauma can sometimes lead to testicular cancer down the road.
Don't get mad - or even. Make a chilling example of them by ruining their and their families lives. Ha-Ha-Ha (supervillian laugh)
2006-11-17 22:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by CSlave 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
That wasn't right.I would only kick a boy in his ''nuts" only in self defense.You shouldn't let your self humiliated and you could tell the director of your school what happened,he will take measures.
2006-11-18 08:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by black_cat 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry you had such a bad experience those girls sound very self centered and rude if you ask me, maybe it would help if talked with your school counselor about your situation.
2006-11-17 22:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by klynna 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
so sorry that this happened...none has right to insult ur body...
make a point next time they try that , that she gonna get that back when u slap right on her pretty face...dont take this s**t ..beware..can lead to problems...& for ur momz reaction..that wasnt really nice of her to smile at the incidence...well could be she was a bit embaressed to be talking bout those kinda of thing..but still she needs to mature up...& stand by her son...well reading wat u wrote is sure sad...
just tc..& save urself frm any of such indecent assualts...giv a tight slap & that should teach the girls...ask wat if u pinched her boobz for that..she will sure get the point...make urself loud & clear once for all..with a stare that means no good if ur insulted that way..dont let any take u for granted...
take care, all should be ok hugs
2006-11-18 00:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by chcuda9 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
How about you return the favor and cuunt punch'em next time you see them.
Actually you should date them. Unlubricated anal sex is the best revenge you could get. They won't forget THAT for a while.
2006-11-18 00:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Latrice T has the proper advice for you. I would, however, talk to your father next time if I were you. Maybe HE has some compassion. Good luck!
2006-11-17 22:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by Albatross 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋