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2006-11-17 13:46:57 · 30 answers · asked by CiCi 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If they're stable and able to support a child and provide a good environment, why not? How could living with two people who love each other and want to love a child be worse than being farmed out to a foster family just looking for the monthly check?
2006-11-17 13:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by shannonfstewart 3 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Hey Ci CI,
This is an interesting questions. A co worker and I were talking about this just yesterday in an extensive conversation.
Just a quick background, both of us are in Law Enforcement.
She is a married mother of one, and is straight. She is a very intelligent woman who has a very level head on her shoulder.
Anyhow, let's get into the answer, shall we.
Per our conversation, we both agree that homosexual couples should be allowed to adopt, and both agree they would make wonderful parents, here is why.
How many times have you seen on television about a child who has been pulled out of an abusive home. Too many time. Too many time you read in the paper or see on t.v. where a parent has abused their child even to the point of killing them.
This happens on a day to day basis.
What does it matter who the parents are, and what they believe as long as they provide a child with a loving home, and can provide a better life for them then what they would have in the first place.
A home in our definiton is a place where they can feel LOVED, safe, and a place they will always hold in thier heart.
If two men, two women, or man or woman can provide this for a child, does anything else really matter.
We seem to think not. As long as there is a child in the home, and they are taken care of, nothing else should matter.
It is the mentality of this nation, and other nations who have tainted the thought that two men, or two women can raise a child.
Have you ever watched the Satellite station LOGO ? They have series about this topic as a matter of fact, and the stories are really heart warming.
Going back to the news, and not saying this can not or does not happen, but if it did, would you not think that the media would make a huge deal out of it? How many times in the news have you heard them say, A child was removed from a home today from abuse by a homosexual couple. I personally in my neck of the woods have yet to hear of this. Now, I am not that naive to know that it can not happen, and that it may have, but it is not as common or is very rare compared to the other.
I am in no way shape or fashion slandering and stating that heterosexuals can not do the job. Many parents across the nation do a very good job day to day providing and protecting our children.
But when it comes to the arguement, can homosexuals do the job, YES they can. Can they provide a safe and loving home for a child, YES they can.
Will they persuade the child to embrace homsexuality, which is a big concern. Depends on your defintion of embrace. I personally know a homosexual couple who has raised a child. The child is a very birght young man, atheletic, straight A student. His two dads in my opionion has raised the perfect gentlemen. They encourage him to date - and this kid has the ladies all over him. He is the perfect gentlemen, and I have to say this comes from his upbringing.
He understands the concepts of his two fathers, and loves them tremendoudly equally. As growing up, if he did not get the answer he wanted from one, he always went to the other.
This child, well young man let's say embraces the fact of homosexuality to the point he has been exposed to it by his parents, and is straight. He is not a biggot, or predjuice. I think this nulls everyone's fears that homosexual couples would raise their children to be gay. NOT ! You can not force someone to be what they are not, again re-inforcing the theory of genteics, versus learned or chosen behavior.
Anyhow, these are my thoughts and opinions. Good luck on your paper, hope I have helped.
2006-11-18 10:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by Brad B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe we can adopt and/or raise children who are unwanted pregnacies or one way or the other children needing a home atmosphere to grow and nurture in a warm and loving home. Tell you one thing, there are so many neglected right here in our own country and all these religious fanatics raising monies for other countries all over the world..I am living proof that it can be done....I raised 2 girls (already mothers raising their own children) and 2 boys (already grown totally hetrosexual and raising their own families)...I am 51 years old and have been gay since I was 17 years old...In my culture in the old days, I would have been blessed because I would pocess 2 souls, a man soul and a woman soul. Accepted by most ...We are not only saving lives but we can also give them a nice place to live....This world is over populated enough....Don't you consider it as a plus to us gay people? I had a 14 year marriage with my husband until I finally caught him cheating on me with a woman....As the old saying goes "Once a cheater, Always a cheater...I love my children even though they didn't actually come out of my loins, but they are my children because I nurtured them, loved them, gave them a good home, they call me Ma....These religious fanatics should stop spending your taxes for something they are already loosing....As long as you got love to give and a nice home to provide a positive home life, and not depending on welfare from the government it should be allowed...Like I said their are many neglected children out there needing homes.. You cannot judge a person by his cover, but his ability to cross over hardships the government tries to impose I consider it being worth more than anything in the world and would gladly do it again...if I had a mate...Right now girl, I am enjoying my new found freedom and looking...just looking..
2006-11-18 00:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now, there are about 8 and 10 million children who have been raised in a gay or lesbain household. They have turne dout fine. Right now, there are milions of children up for adoption.
Lets looks a commen misconceptions. For one, people think that gaymen will molest there male children. If this was true, wouldn't straight men mlest therre girls. What about a child turing out gay. Well, many children in gay households are straight, and even if they are gay, so what? Its not a curse. Now, what about the child not feeling nioraml. well, what would you pefer, to be in a gay but loving family, or up for adoption, going from abusive forster homes and never having a steddy life.
The truth is that you can be gay and a loving partent. I can see no reason why they should not adopt. Ask any child on fostor care, and I am sure they would love to be adopted, rather by a straight or gay couple.
2006-11-17 21:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by quest 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Of course they should!
Although research is (so far) limited, the findings suggest that children raised by gay parents are just as well-adjusted as other kids. They are not "confused." They are not more likely to be "abused," at least not by their parents; they do face an increased risk of harassment and bullying from intolerant peers, but this is not because of any parental shortcomings.
It is ludicrous for people to assume that, just because one set of parents has opposite genitalia, they are automatically superior to those whose genitals match. Regardless of what parents do in the privacy of their own bedroom, what matters more is that they respond warmly and reliably to the needs of their children while also establishing appropriate and consistent boundaries.
Discriminating against gay parents is not only harmful to their own psychological well-being, it also deprives countless children of the kind of loving, stable homes they require. It makes no sense; it is a policy based on ignorance and insensitivity. It's just as misguided as suggesting that white parents can't raise African American children, or vice versa.
2006-11-18 00:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Give me a reason why they shouldn't? If they have a healthy stable background and can support the child, then yes they should be allowed to adopt. Let's give the kids to good parents, regardless of sexuality.
2006-11-18 01:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by Rageling 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My late partner and thought seriously about this but the legal problems seemed insurmountable at the time. We also had to give consideration to her vile family who threatened to destroy any child we thought to "corrupt" by adoption. We had to let the idea go in the end. I believe we would have made good foster parents.
Good luck with your paper Rose P.
2006-11-17 22:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by rose p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course they should!!! A child needs a stable , loving home where the stress is on educating the child, loving them, and instilling a sense of discipline so that they can become a hard working productive asset to society. Whether the parents are gay or straight is of little significance, I work in a high school and see terrible, apathetic parents everyday. I also see fantastic ones, it all depends on how much they give a damn about turning out responsible, well adjusted adults .
2006-11-17 21:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by CandyCain 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
most Homosexuals make great parents. Both parties are very involved in the child's upbringing. I have friends whose parents were same sex and these people are very well adjusted and really appreciate their parents. Non of the people I know turned out to be gay. I think gayness is in our genes when we are born I don't think anyone can turn us gay. The kids never doubted that they were loved and always had parents at school functions. Lots of kids out there need parents and I don't think sexual preference should be considered as a way to rule out prospective adoptive parents.
2006-11-17 21:54:15 · answer #9 · answered by bramblerock 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
gay ppl are no different than straight ppl outside the bedroom. we all feel the same emotions. we all want and need the same things in life.
there are so many children in the world who live in abusive foster homes with foster parents who care about nothing more than how much money the make every month. if a gay couple is stable, financially and otherwise, i see no reason why gay couples shouldn't be able to adopt. a child doesn't understand gay or straight, but they do understand love.
2006-11-17 21:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by riot grrrl 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋