If you could give one piece of advice?

Question

..to a nineteen year old,almost 20, single mother-to-be? what would it be!

lol,I'm not the one who is pregnant,it's my best friend,i'm trying to be there for her,but i have never been a mother,she needs advice from someone who has been through it all, that is why i asked.

Answer 1

My MOM used to say, "God has a reason for everything". I had a terrible marriage that produced the greatest kid ever, there is nothing in this world to compare to the joy of watching your child discover the world and feeling the heart of unconditional Love. Count your blessings every day and protect your baby by demanding support. Good Luck!

Answer 2

I'm 22 and I have a 3 month old baby. My advice would be. Concentrate on you and the baby. You're priority number 1 now is your baby, not dating or partying. This kid depends on you. You are everything this baby has and needs. So I know you might be scare, worry, but you'll be alright, once you see your baby for the first time, you'll do anything to make him or her happy. Being a single mother is not something to be ashamed of, no. But you have to understand that you'll have to work hard for this little person, cause your baby didn't ask to be here, the baby is your responsability and nobody elses. Motherhood is the greatest thing on the planet. You're lucky. You've been blessed like I have. It doesn't matter how hard it is and it's going to be, every effort will be worth it. And you'll see that there isn't greater love than the love for a child

Answer 3

Jsut take care of yoursefl, and the baby....don't get in a hurry for a man.......he's not needed.....plenty of women have done it on their own... Be strong and have faith.....things will work themselves out....laugh and enjoy every minute of it because they grow up so fast........Tell yourself everyday that you are a mommy, and realize that no matter what, you can do no wrong in their eyes, and and that you love someone that will love you back and that you ARE needed and relied on for protection.....The mother intinct is natural...and your friend will feel it as soon as the baby gets here....It is the most incredible feeling in the world when you hear the baby cry for the first time.....Good Luck!!!!! I know this is more than one piece, but it is so hard to pinpoint one thing about the joys of motherhood.

Answer 4

Don't worry things are going to work out.I'm here and will be and your not alone. And just think when this baby is born and you see it for the fist time and hold that small person in your arms. Then you look into those eyes and feel the greatest love a women can feel be cause your heart will feel like it is going to burst open then you will know you are ready for any thing .because mom's always make it ok!

Answer 5

There is much advice I could give you but since I have to narrow it down to one I'd have to say.... Put your child first. Keep him/her away from other adults and children that do not behave properly. Many adults think it is cute to teach little ones bad behaviors and then they'll be the first to condemn your child when they behave the way they taught them to. Protect your precious little one from people like them. I can't help myself... I'm going to give 2 pieces of advice... Remember that children will behave the way they think they are expected to. If they are told that they are bad or behave badly (or if they overhear you tell other adults that they've been bad) then they will be. I often tell my children when going to a restaurant, reception, any social gathering... that I am very proud of them and I know they are going to show everyone what good manners they have. They haven't dissappointed me once. I receive compliments everywhere I go. Don't get me wrong... they are normal kids that get into trouble just like every other child... they are learning and that is to be expected. However, they do know that they are expected to be on their BEST behavior when in public or around others. If you make that important then you won't be sorry. I promise! I took my nephew to a restaurant with us about a week ago. He is 2 years old (a week younger than my youngest daughter). He kept getting out of his booster seat and tried running around. He yelled several times. He threw his fork and he actually spit food out onto the table. I was SO embarrassed! I realize that he acts that way because he is allowed to at home. I've been there and have seen it first hand. I love him but I promise you I will not take him back to a restaurant. If you want your child to be accepted and liked by others you'll be doing him/her a favor by establishing rules and guidelines from the time they are born. They are so much smarter than most give them credit. Congratulations on your little one and God bless you both!!!

Answer 6

Spend as much time as possible with your child. I know that's hard if you're a single mother having to work, but make a commitment to it.

Answer 7

I've never been a single mother, but I would say "take care of yourself, eat right. Don't be too hard on yourself, Make sure to cherish every moment. and she will do fine.

Answer 8

it's going to be sooooo scary but you will fall in love instantly, it kinda reminded me of the Grinch instead of my heart shrinking 90% i love my child more than i ever knew was possible. but don't forget your still young too so call a parent or friend to babysit every once in a while and have some you-time every now and then

best of luck!!

Answer 9

You will never be able to completely depend on anyone but yourself. Get a good education and take care of yourself and your child without expecting help from anyone else. You 'might' get help from some people, some of the time, but YOU are the only one you can depend on ALL the time.

Answer 10

Find a good kind supportive man who loves you to marry as soon as possible. Maybe that's not feasible, but you did say one piece of advice, just to be safe, have an alternate plan also.