I met a separated woman who said she was going to get a divorce, but when it came time a year later, she refused. Said it was him.
I stayed with her anyway, but did not get any closer to her because of this. He is never coming back having been gone for 9 years now.
I spent time with my friends too, because she said it was ok.
3 years later, she gets into relationship with her English teacher in college on her "school days". I was unaware because I trusted her.
WTF? I had to commit but she doesn't?
Was that fair to me?
2006-11-17 13:39:20 · 14 answers · asked by alysonhell 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Obviously not. It was not fair, & you already know that. Move on & find someone that truly cares for & respects you.
2006-11-17 13:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she needs you to commit first to let her know that she wont loose you. Depending on the circumstances of the separation maybe she does not trust men because of that. Assure her that you are not going anywhere unless she wants you too. If that is true.
2006-11-17 13:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never commit to someone that is separated. And don't commit to someone that hasn't been divorced for at least a year. It's called a "rebound" relationship. They never last.
2006-11-17 13:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not fair to you, my friend. It sounds like she was using you for 'convenient companionship'. Best advice, remain friendly, but look elsewhere for a solid commitment. As much as it might be painful to realize, it doesn't sound like you're going to get this girl to be with just you. Good luck!
2006-11-17 13:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by somewherein72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what she did wasn't right, but you should have seen this coming from the beginning. she's still married, for whatever reason and never had any intention of being completely with you. a lesson learned...they never leave their spouse.
2006-11-17 13:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally fair and to be expected. You were with a married woman. She cheated on her first and she cheated on you. She'll cheat with someone else. And she's still married.
SUCKER!
2006-11-17 14:13:58 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't if she don't. She playing you, because you let her. There plenty of good women, it a two way street, keeping looking.
2006-11-17 13:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't right of her to do that to you.
Playing with someone's emotions and such isn't right.
2006-11-17 13:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by trooper_rosebud 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think it's not fair for you why continue to make yourself suffer. be nice to yourself.
2006-11-17 13:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of you already deal in OPEN relationship.
she's choosing other instead of you.
2006-11-17 13:42:47 · answer #10 · answered by peter71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋