My husband tells me I am ugly all the time...?

Question

I cry myselfy to sleeep,

I put a real picture of myself on here to get a real reaction... I hate this pc cos it makes my face look masculine

I say i am pretty helen because i am a part time model with kids and my friends say i am pretty, but i do not believe them...you guys who say i am lying, you really hurt me cos you are women... please help a fellow chick....

this is my fc*uking pass[ort pic, it was NOT!!!!!!!!!!1 in a magazine........

i put another pic on, i cant believe girls would be so nasty.........

Answer 1

Helen, have you been drinking again?

Answer 2

You are a very attractive looking woman and I think that your husband is being spiteful. Some men say awful things so they can keep their wives "in line!!!" "Controlled" they take away their self esteem so that the woman will not be "Tempted" to have affairs. Its their low self esteem and their issues. Next time he says that tell him "Whatever" or " Your oppinion is not important ' and see what he says. People ( men or women) who take away another persons self esteem are realy low and are quite pathetic. The fact that you model and people find you attractive means that you are. Don't waste your time and self esteem looking for people to give you compliments when you dont believe them. THe fact that you are modelling is good enough for me that you are attractive and should be good enough for you.

It sounds like you have issues and problems in your relationship that some counselling would help with. Maybe even counselling for him too. And it cant be good for the children to have their mother put down either. Be happy with who you are and ask your self this question " Am I realy hideous" and f you were then that must be the "In Look" at the time but the fact is you are not hideous and you know that. Good luck in sorting things out.

Answer 3

Hey, I feel for you. I suffer from the same exact problem and I just didnt know how to explain it to people but recently I guess you could say I figured myself out and came to this conclusion. I think I'm beautiful, my mother raised me to always believe in myself and know how gorgeous I really am so when i look in the mirror I see someone who could potentially be a model. But what causes me to have such low self esteam is that I am so shy and therefor don't have that many friends nor have i had that many boyfriends. I feel bad because I think that other people think I look bad. It's confusing I know, but girl let me tell you, you are beautiful. And even if you weren't it doesn't matter, because all that looks are good for is finding you a husband/wife, lol. So you're set, just as long as you have a great personality, live it up! Best wishes sister.

Answer 4

Whoever the hell your husband is, I for one hope I NEVER EVER run into that jerk. I've seen your picture, and Helen, honey...you are NOT, I repeat, NOT ugly. I say what you should do with him is kick him to the curb like the piece of trash he is! The next thing you should do is find a man who will treat you with the love and respect you so surely deserve. Any guy would be real lucky to have you as his girlfriend, or as his wife. I know I would. Truth be told, I think you're strikingly beautiful.

Answer 5

Sweetie, you are so pretty, I'm thinking about ditching my guy and going lez and coming to find you!! hehehehe

Listen, if someone is putting you down, it's very likely because they feel badly about themselves. I have a strong feeling that you're a perfectly fine person, and the man you're with knows that, and his favorite game in the universe is "let me see how bad I can make her feel today." Some guys like that game more than football. They're called emotional or mental abusers. You know, the kind of abuse that doesn't leave visible scars, but does the same damage.

Trust me, and that voice inside of you that says he's an idiot and you shouldn't be listening to him. Next time he runs off at the mouth, tune him out and fantasize about the day your are rid of him, feeling good, with a great life and future in front of you. That will happen the day after you leave him. Start planning now.

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Answer 6

Not read the other comments, not really that interested really.

I'm not going to say you're stunning or ugly, the picture looks good but i'm not trying to pull you.

You husband sounds like he's insecure and putting you down to lose your confidence does he not see blokes looking at you when you go out, my girlfriend gets looks all the time. i know it too, it doesn't bother me because i know she's hot and have to expect it.

if you were not special you would not be a model, does he think his children are ugky as there is a look of you in them i'm sure!

Answer 7

You don't seem to be the shy type that you are making out to be!!! Sorry I'm not being horrible, but I do think that you are putting your beautiful picture in here for something else!!! If your husband says that you are ugly, then that is his opinion, what happened to the right of opinion?

Answer 8

first of all if you are a part time model than you must be pretty i have never heard of a model being ugly and getting paid for it .. not on a regular basis.. your husband is using a old trick that abusere use .. take away all your self confidence so you will have to rely solely on him.. don't listen to a word of what he is saying.. you may need to seek help from a clinic that deals in abuse there are all types of abuse physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually yours seems to be emotionally

Answer 9

listen love thats not your passport pic!!!!

you would never be allowed that sort of pic as you mouth is open and it looks like you are putting on lipstick.

you cannot pull an expression in a passport pic-everyone knows that and thats why people are saying its not you!

why do people like you lie?

its very sad that you wont put a real pic of yourself on.

if you are not prepared to do that- then dont ask the question.

Answer 10

I don't know what I would do if my husband told me that I was ugly. I don't blame you for crying yourself to sleep. Have you talked to him about it? Do it when neither of you are emotional so that you can both get the most out of it. I don't know how much it will help because he sounds like a jerk to me.

You also might think about how you might be interpreting some benign remarks of his. Maybe seeing therapist will help you decide how to handle this situation. Good luck!

Answer 11

Helen you are a very beautiful lady as far as i see from ur pic. If ur pic is so nice here i cant imagine how u look like when i see u live. wow god im not joking.
dont think of others.
u r amazing