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My co-worker and I were very close. But, lately she has been putting me down in front of other employees and saying the rudest things when we go out. Her sense of reality and friendship is completely jaded. I can't handle it anymore. How do you act "civil" while working with someone you can no longer stand to be around?

2006-11-17 12:59:48 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Friends

25 answers

Be so nice and pleasant that she won't know what you are up to and will get nervous thinking you are going to get even.

2006-11-17 13:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by dogloverdi 6 · 1 0

Explain to your friend that you two are no longer close.
Tell her how she has changed, how rude she has become. To this point you tolerated it but no more. Explain the friendship has been jaded by her attitude, actions and that you care not to go out any longer. Your ties will be professional only at work and out side of work, she is on her own.

2006-11-17 21:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lore 6 · 0 0

I wouldn't worry to much about it. It just prove that the person that you work with is really immature. You are just their to work and earn your paycheck. I would just ingore her. If she keeps bothering you, then you should talk to your employer about it. If they don't do anything, then I would try contacting someone outside of the work force. I have a number that you can call to call, which you may be able to file Harassment charges on her. Their are plenty of other websites that contain information on filing harassment charges. According to the sites, it may be unlawful what she is doing, depending on what state you live. If you do plan to go over the boss's head, be prepared to be criticesed at work. I hope this helped you. Here is one number that I found that may be able to point you you in the right direction.
(949) 643-8489

2006-11-17 21:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

i'm sorry for you. just continue doing your part of work and responsibilities and if you don't need to deal with her then don't need to speak too much or speak none at all. if you need to deal with her make sure your work are 'protected', don't work verbally, have everything down in black and white to avoid further back stabbing. all you need to do is out shine her in your work and nothing else cause actions speaks louder than words and it will be proven in times to come. no need to change job cause every where are the same. i understood how terrible all these 'politics' can be cause i was there before and was even worst. don't give up and just do what you think is sensible as an adult and don't need to join in to lower your standards as well. they will have their own 'days' although it's not right in front of your eyes.

2006-11-17 22:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by - 5 · 0 0

This is not good, this person has the ability to make you look bad in front of them. You need to be civil and professional in the office and non existant in social settings with this co-worker. Your employers will start to see a pattern with this co-worker, that no matter who she is friends with she insults them in front of them. Wait it out and good luck

2006-11-17 21:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by buxomkity 2 · 0 0

Concentrate on what you have to do. If you pay attention to her all the time then the rest of your day at work will be terrible. Talk to her only if you need to but try to not pay too much attention cause that will just make things worst. Ignore her. Don't show her that you feel bad because of the things she did, because if you do she'll feel great cause that was what she wanted

2006-11-17 21:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You Were close? what happened? Is she gay and likes you? Or has she started hanging around with people like herself?
Keep your head High! Pretend like shes not there..beleive me it works after awhile...and when you have to confront her or be around her just be nice...but if you catch her in the bathroom alone..when noone else is in there confront her and kick her *** if she starts attacking you first.. lol.then walk out of the bathroom like nothing happened...and Im sure theres better jobs! or maybe you both are up for a promotion? and shes trying to make you quit?

2006-11-17 21:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by missamerican_pie007 2 · 0 0

Puhlease this is the work place, you have to put up with it... how would you make your money if u quit or fight? Beat her down after and away from work or be civil and talk it out. Either way don't be a doormat.

2006-11-17 21:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by brit_m 2 · 0 0

i am a boss on my job.
here are the facts. no one should be made to feel uncomfortable in their work place for any reason. if you are uncomfortable to the extent that you say you are take it up with your supervisor. (but you say your co-worker is saying "the rudest things when we go out." this doesn't sound like you are all that upset to me if you are still going out socially together.)

2006-11-17 21:07:58 · answer #9 · answered by KRIS 7 · 1 0

GASP! You work with Jessica TOO! Currently in the same situation, I just politely ignore her. If I have to communicate with her, I do it by email or memo. I have realized, after her doing this to me a second time, that I'm much better off without all her drama and bullsh*t, and just tell myself she did me a favor in showing her true colors. Breathe, sister, Breathe.

2006-11-17 21:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 0 0

Be as pleasant as you can while not being friendly. Do not encourage her but do not go down to her level. If you miss her friendship you can ask her what went wrong. If you don't miss her friendship, no problem!

Always tougher at work but you can do it!

2006-11-17 21:04:41 · answer #11 · answered by Lily 5 · 0 0

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