my best friend is being beat up by her boyfriend. she won't let me do anything. she has been my best friend for14 years. she has small childern and she says that he has hit her in front of them. what do i do?????
2006-11-17 12:40:47 · 14 answers · asked by lisa m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
call the police...offer her a place to stay for her and her kids till she gets back on her feet,.
2006-11-17 12:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by military and veteran advocate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not much you can do I'm sorry to say unless you want him to make you stay away. If you can catch him hitting her and the cops come at the right time, she wouldn't have to file changes to have him jailed but, will she get out then or, stay out?
You see, she is just as guilty by staying there with him. The kids will get hurt one day or she will get seriously hurt, but she's the one that has to act.
As a former cop I was involved with a number of these incidents. The woman always goes back, it's the same thing over and over until one of them gets killed or hurt. Don't you ever read the news. There's at least five of these murder trials going on right now. Man, stabbed five times by spouse, woman beaten to death, etc, etc.
2006-11-17 20:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep a record of every time she says something about it or you notice something. The next time you see bruises on her, take pictures. Keep in close contact. When she is Finally ready, with your help, he will go to jail and stay there for a good long time.
2006-11-17 20:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by RockwallCat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see bruises and know that he was the one who gave them to her, then you are legally obligated to call the police then and there.
If you do not, and something happens (like he kills her or one of the kids) then you might possibly do jail time for not speaking up. Not to mention how awful you will feel because you were silent.
2006-11-17 20:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is let her do her own thing. She will eventually get tired of it. And when she does be there to support her, because she is going to need it.
2006-11-17 20:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sooner or later he is going to hit the kids too. tell her that she could be an accessory to child abuse because she knew he was violent and the courts could take her kids away.
2006-11-17 20:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by george 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REALLY THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT WHICH REALLY SUCKS!!! I'M SURE YOU HAVE TRIED TALKING TO HER ABOUT IT BUT WHAT MORE CAN YOU DO? SHE HAS TO BE THE ONE TO MAKE THE DECISION...IF SHE SHOULD STAY OR GO, IN THE MEANTIME JUST PRAY FOR YOUR FRIEND AND HER CHILDREN...THAT SOMEHOW SOME WAY SHE GETS OUT OF THIS...BUT I MUST SAY TO YOU THAT THE MORE YOU TELL HER TO LEAVE...THE MORE SHE IS GOING TO STAY....B/C SHE HAS PUT IN NO EFFORT TO TRY TO LEAVE....SOMETIMES WE TRY TO HELP PPL AND ALL THEY DO IS PUSH US AWAY, SO THERE FOR YOU HAVE NOTHING TO FEEL GUILTY ABOUT B/C YOU HAVE TRIED...NOW ALL THAT'S LEFT IS FOR YOUR FRIEND TO LEARN AND SHE MUST LEARN THE HARD WAY....SORRY BUT THAT'S LIFE....JUST CONTINUE TO BE THERE FOR HER AND PRAY..
2006-11-17 20:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be her friend she is not going to have to hear anything you have to say. the more you say the more she will want to stAY.
2006-11-17 20:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll not accept the help until she's ready but I'd try to get the kid out...
2006-11-17 20:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use everything you have in your soul to get your friend away from him.
He won't stop.
2006-11-17 20:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by upcomingplayer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋