IM IN LOVE WITH THIS GUY AND HE LOVES ME TOO BUT WE BARE FAR APART.I TALK TO HM ON THE PHONE EVERYDAY AND WHEN I GO BACK WE ARE GOING TO BE TOGETHER.BUT I HAVENT BEEN TOTALLY HONEST WITH HIM.I TOLD HIM IM ONLY SEEING HIM BUT I REALLY GOT BACK WITH MY EX.ME END MYEX DONT DO ANYTHING BUT HOLD HANDS AND HUG.QUESTION IS....IS THAT CHEATING???WELL WHEN I GO BACK I AM GETING MARRIED IN LIKE JAN. OR FEB. BUT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO TELL HIM.I LOVE HIM SO MUCH I CANT TELL HIM IM SCARED HELL LEAVE ME.CAN YALL PLEASE HELP ME AND TELL ME WHAT I SHOULD DO???
2006-11-17 12:30:49 · 12 answers · asked by Jessica A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you should tell him BUT DON'T 4GET TO MENTION THAT NOTHING HAPPENED, if he loves you for you he'll accept that you made mistakes 1. for not being honest with him and keep lying to him and 2. for getting back w/your ex(when you're in a serious relationship with someone i think it is cheating; get this from a girl who's gone thru this before--ish{pretty much the same concept} ) but you have to break off the emotional ties to him he's not your life.oh and if you love him you'llbe completely honest with him, hopefully he'll respect you for tellin ghim this now but if you lie and he catches you in the lie it'll be MUCH worse than it will be now....just remember KARMA
2006-11-17 12:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear girl,
love triangle hurts a lot and badly.
you could postpone the marriage after you stop the relationship with your ex.
give yourself a bit more time before you settle down with the other guy.
marriage is holy and love is holy.
after postponing the marriage, analyse the relationship between you and the other guy and when it is time, you can tell yourself - not him - that you are ready to settle down.
important: if you do not want to postpone the marriage, then you must stop the relationship with your ex asap.
after that, do not tell your other guy about your ex and you because you had commited a sin and the only way is you go to church and repent your sins and pray for your future family's future.
good luck!
mercury of love
2006-11-17 20:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by mercury of love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GROW THE HELL UP!!!
they both would be better off without a cheating little ditz who can't make up her mind and is acting like a simple minded goof!!!
2006-11-17 20:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by KRIS 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to come clean because this secret will eat away at you with time. It IS considered cheating because you said that you "got back" with your ex which implies that you reignited the relationship with your ex.
2006-11-17 20:32:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do the guy a favor, & don't marry him! He desrves to be with someone that will honor her promises & vows. You have broken your promise to be monagamous. Tell the truth, apologize, & let him find someone that will be true to him.
2006-11-17 20:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As what most people say... "one cant serve to masters" .... so think about it.... if you dont like to be guilty doing something with your ex.... try to leave him as soon as possible.. be honest with your feelings...... because if you continue this.... this may give more complications later on in your married life.... good luck and congrats in advance!
2006-11-17 20:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by bugi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be honest with him. and tell him the truth. if u let this fester too much longer then you could be setting yourself up for downfall. relationship-wise. besides that if you love him and he leaves, if its meant to be he will come back. take care and good luck.
2006-11-17 20:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by sherryw_1978 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him what's going on and holding hands and hugging isn't cheating, i do it with guys all the time!
2006-11-17 20:34:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he really loves you, he'll forgive you. But you have to dump that other dude first, and cut off all connections with him.
2006-11-17 20:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
be mature when it comes to love.
2006-11-17 20:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by 120 IQ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋