He was a drug dealer (not anymore)... but he told me he used to give her girlfriend like a $1000 dlls every 2 days and he bought her a brand new Expedition, cash. Now that he's out of "business" and works "legally" he doesn't make that much money. He hardly gives me $200 dlls a week to spend. And I just can't get over it! I keep thinking about the Ex-Gf all the time and I GET SO MAD!!!! What should I do??? Therapy?
2006-11-17 12:21:00 · 25 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you a golddigger or his real girlfriend?
2006-11-17 12:23:29 · answer #1 · answered by tofu 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this is an easy one for me. Let's see, he "was" a drug dealer. He "used" to give his girlfriend $1,000 and he "bought" her an Expedition. He did those things in the past, when he could afford them. Things have changed and he no longer has the same kind of money. Don't make yourself seem like a gold digger by comparing the things that he gave someone else to what he is giving to you now. That is a real turn off to a man. The fact that he did those things for his girlfriend then and the fact that he at least gives you something suggests that he is a geneorous hearted man when he is in a position to be. If you really want him to do that stuff for you,here is what you do:
Encourage him everyday of his life to stay straight and then encourage him to start his own business in whatever area he can perform in.If he was businessman once and did well as a drug dealer, tell him he can do it again. Then once he get's back to the financial point where he once was, you will see the rewards because you are a loving and supportive woman not a gold digger. I would be willing to bet that the reason he was so generous to her was because she was so supportive to him and not a ******. Don't ruin what could be a good thing, by being so petty about the man's past. Trust me on this one, your support and respect will get you anything that you want and then some.Try this week, being the opposite, in a positive way, of what he may be accustomed to. Love on him, show him respect and encourage him. If he doesn't so something to show you what that means to him in atangible way my name is not what it is.
2006-11-17 12:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by Willard S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be thankful he isn't dealing drugs anymore. I dated a guy like that who used to brag about the things he'd buy for his ex. When we dated, he was no longer a drug dealer. I used to get jealous, but now I realize how stupid that was. It's dirty money anyway. Who wants stuff bought with dirty money. Get yourself a job sista and buy your own damn ****. Besides, 200 bucks a week is a hell of a lot for any guy to be giving his gf. Are you sure he'd not dabbling in a little part-time drug dealing?
2006-11-17 12:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
all of this is behind him
1 he could have been lying to show you that he used to be a big man
2 he no longer sales drug so where do you expect him to get the money to give you
3 the money he gave her was blood money
my advise is be a good wife and Thank God that he does not go back to the business, but if you pressure him about money he probably end up selling again
so as a good wife you think how lucky you are that he was able to put the business behind him (many people find it hard to do )
and be Thankful
leave the pass behind and move
that is from me ***STOP ACTING LIKE A GREEDY B-I-T--C-H
2006-11-17 12:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that the popular opinion will be they'd be upset. But, it wouldn't at all bother me. I completely trust my husband, and when I say completely, I mean it. Neither one of us avoid either old boyfriend/girlfriends, ex-coworkers of the opposite sex, or actually anybody of the opposite sex. We believe that it shows more strength to have acquantances of the opposite sex and choose within yourself not to violate the relationship, rather than keeping ourselves distant from the opposite sex and not violate only because the opportunity isn't there. I can't see why your sister in law wouldn've given the ex the number because it isn't her place to do so. Whether your sister in law likes you or not, I can't see why she would have any contact with the ex unless they were actually friends. I can't even see why the ex would call your sister in law seeking info, unless they were friends. With them being friends, that's the only way it makes sense. If not, I'd think the sister in law was tryna strike up some trouble. if I were in your boat, I don't think I would make anything of the ex tryna contact him because she just may wanna catch up. She could be married too and would like her and her husband to get together with you and yours. Just because she and your husband were past lovers, doesn't mean she's not satisfied in her current situation. Some people are secure enough in their relationship where they don't view a friendship with the opposite sex as tempting. I certainly wouldn't. I'm sure I'm not the only women in the world who views relationships this way.
2016-05-21 23:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think you should be jealous cuz hes honest man now trying to make a living. I would rather have less money and be with the one I love and care about worth more then any money in the world. I am assuming hes not giving her money no longer so guess shes on her own now.
2006-11-17 12:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by wildrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he did in the past is in the past. What he did and went through made him what he is today, and you didn't marry him for the past but for the future you will have together. I think you might need therapy because that is selfish thinking. Also if you want money that bad go out and get a job of your own.
2006-11-17 12:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by m_maidgrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first place I wouldn't believe him. He's B.S. ing you. There are no Ex drug dealers. I've known drug dealers all my life and there are no Ex dealers, they either are doing it or they're in jail. He's full of it. For some reason he's lying to you, maybe to make him look like a big shot.
I would think seriously about getting rid of him, find someone that's honest.
2006-11-17 12:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow..can't believe you actually took the time to write that question. What do you want him to do? - Go back to hustling just so your pockets can be fat and you can drive a new truck? When your man gets tired of being with a gold diggin hoe, let him know I got some girls here in D.C that will take care of him and his heart.
2006-11-17 12:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you rather he go back to dealing drugs and give you the money? Get over it and be thankful he's got a lagit job . You could be visiting him in Prison, they would also take everything he owns, it was bought with drug money you idiot.
2006-11-17 12:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by MKM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up and stop thinking only of yourself.Why is he giving u money to begin with? Don't u know how to work for yourself? If u get so mad then maybe u need to really think about what type of person u are.From what I see it doesn't look pretty....
2006-11-17 12:35:14 · answer #11 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋