GUYS ONLY: Here is the situation, you've been with your new girlfriend for 2 weeks, and you guys finally do the deed - and you use all proper protection! Then a day later, your new girlfriend tells you, she has herpes. How would u feel that she told you AFTER u guys had sex already? BUT you guys used condoms?
(yes, this is about me. i was with a guy for 3 years, and i never, ever passed it to him cuz we always used protection. but he knew about it. Unfortunately, with my new man, we were in the heat of the moment and having sex happend, and i didn't wanna kill the mood by telling him! PLEASE HELP!!)
2006-11-17 11:44:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
a lot of people say im immature? i'm 25!
2006-11-17 11:55:47 · update #1
I agree with the others in some ways, That YES i would be incredibly mad, but i would rather be told, than just find out on my own. I do believe that you should have told him before it happend, but if he really cares about you, he will learn to forgive it, and he will go get tested to make sure its alright. Im sorry to hear that your in the problem. Hope it goes well
2006-11-17 14:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the others that say you're too immature not because of your age, but because you're clearly unable to have sex responsibly. As the carrier of an STD you are required as a decent human being to tell your partner. Go ahead, kill the mood, but save his body. I think he'll appreciate you more for it. Herpes sores outside of part of the vagina in direct contact with the condom-covered penis can still very easily transmit herpes virus to your partner, and, if such sores were there, you have pretty much given him herpes.
If I were him I'd be ridiculously pissed. I'd break up with you right away. Sorry love, but that's the way it is.
Take responsibility for your actions; if he breaks up with you, you DEFINITElY deserved it. If he really loves you, he won't break up with you.
2006-11-18 01:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by Owen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like many things sexual it always seems people hit the heat of them moment without proper introductions to what you both like, what kinds of protection to use, what feels good and what doesn't and yes any STI's that are present. ar better to have talked about this well before you ever got to the point of needing a condom.
But what is done is done and who knows how he will react. Only time will tell. And if he;s worried, he should get tested when the time comes for it to actually show up on a test.
2006-11-17 19:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello!! :o) Just turn this around. YOU and your new boyfriend of 2 weeks have sex. HE tells YOU - the next day - that HE has herpes. How would YOU feel?!
Having sex is taking on certain responsibilities. And one of those responsibilities includes being open and HONEST about the RISKS our sexual partner might be taking IF they choose to have sex with US.
Herpes - as you KNOW - is for LIFE.
I'm curious - if you were HIV positive - would you keep THAT 'little secret' to yourself if you were about to have sex?!
Craig
2006-11-18 06:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First what you did to him was a very selfish and immature thing to do. Second, age has nothing at all to do with maturity. Being mature is about how you conduct yourself, having respect for other people and doing the right thing when need be. You are not mature based on this one incident. Now, with that said it would not be fair to judge you solely on this incident. I hope you really are as mature as you think you are.
Terry
2006-11-17 20:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the girl is selfish, needing only physical contentment. if the girl feels someting for the guy, she should not have done the deed at the very least. then she should get treatment for herpes.
2006-11-17 20:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Gerry Z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would kill you, simple, You are selfish women, no matter how old you are. Let him make the choice.
What if I had AIDS but had a condom, would you like to know before hand.
I am glad I am not with you.
2006-11-17 21:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by I'm In Love With Delicious 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simply put...you are too immature to be having sex since you are not responsible enough to notify your sex partner. You are messing with the lives of men who you engage in sexual encounters. You are also subjecting yourself to a very serious lawsuit. What you are doing can be considered a felony in many states also. It's people like you who think you are mature enough to have sex, yet, you fail to view the irresponsible behavior you clearly display.
I suggest you grow up and start taking responsibilities for your actions...BEFORE, NOT AFTER.
2006-11-17 19:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by S H 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I would shoot you like a rabid dog, no offense.
The peoples are saying you are immature because you are a low down dirty s1ut who may have given some poor bastard an incurable std, not because of your age.
2006-11-17 19:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yeah I would be PISSED!!!
But you need to tell him, let him know what you put down, the heat of the moment thing, and see what he says. But he needs to get tested.
2006-11-17 19:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋