do u ever wonder how did i get here. im 20 years old married and have a baby. im happy with my life. and i know im the one that made these decisions and thats why my life is the way it is. but is it wrong to miss my old life? i feel like iv lost myself in the past year. my husband works alot every weekend and mostly nights. so we hardly ever go out. i use to have so many friends but don't anymore cuz i don't have much in common with most 20 year olds. i get so stressed out so easy. and get unhappy some days. and take it out on my hubby. i miss having alot of friends and having fun. (not drinking or datin) just doing stuff. u know? does anyone feel the same way? is it wrong feeling like this?
2006-11-17 11:40:38 · 13 answers · asked by sexymama06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no it's not wrong.... u are young, and have made some decisions, and the consequences is this. but it's ok :). u are happy, and try to be thankful for that. it's hard to see the cup as "half full", but u can do it. it takes time... see the good, the silver lining, in all the little things in ur life, like a baby's smile, ur husband's carress... etc.
next, try to have some "girls night out".. have ur husband baby sit, or get a family member to. let him go out w/ his friends, have a good time. or, try to make some "date nights" just u two alone, dress up , go to a show, or a movie. u can add fun into ur life, just make sure u take care of ur responsibilties.
u are going thru the process of maturing fast.... take a class, exercise, do some activities or hobbies, to feel more Productive and Well Rounded.. don't take ur stress out on ur hubby, communicate and respect each other. good luck~~ ur life sounds wonderful, many people have it worse. always think positively, and u will be fine~~
2006-11-17 11:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 22 with a five year old. I work, go to school, coach soccer, and make sure my family has home-cooked meals at least four times a week. I know exactly how you feel! I can't even remember the last time my husband and I have had the time to go anywhere together, much less a date. I had tons of friends in high school where I grew up. I moved to the city I live in now when my daughter was 2 years old. After three years I still haven't made very many friends. I have met a couple girls who only wanted to party, friendship didn't work out since I am not into that. I love my daughter with all of my heart and couldn't imagine life without her but I do feel kind of lonely at times thinking about the "good old days" the days of no-responsibility or bills.
2006-11-17 11:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel, I guess since you asked if anyone feels this way that you would like for someone to be able to relate, and I can. I am 21 and I have a bf that is 26 that I live with....he has an 8 year old daughter and also works nights 6pm to 6 am shift. I get lonely and bored...so I talked to him about it, I told him that I couldn't handle feeling like this that something was going to have to give. It has changed a little, we go out sometimes now. So if I were you I would definently sit sown and talk to him about how you feel. You are WAY to young to be sitting at home by yourself all the time. The next night off that he has, get a babysitter and tell him that you guys are going to go dance or see a movie or bowl or whatever it is that you enjoy doing....you need it to keep your sanity! And by the way, you will hear for the rest of your life that you are too young for this or that....don't listen, I am sure that you would not give up your husband and baby for nothing...SO don't listen
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2016-10-04 02:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by hobin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's normal, just let someone take the baby one night a week when your husband is out so you can go out with your friends. it will be hard to find something in common, but really you are the same person. then you won't be so stressed out and take it out on your husband.
2006-11-17 11:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by pikachu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're in love and married to that person, and you're complaining. That's a shame. There are some of us who dream about something like that, but instead we are heartbroken, because the love of our lives is in love with some whore. A lot of people like you upset other people by complaining about their life. You got everything, yet you complain, what if you were in our shoes?
2006-11-17 12:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by venus11224 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just stated all the reasons people should not get married while young.
My wife and I were each 28. We've been married 26 years and have six kids. It never would have worked if we'd been younger.
2006-11-17 11:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by Yak Rider 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK lave the baby with someone you trust and then have some time to your self go to a spa
2006-11-17 11:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by Ebony M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got married too young. But the older you get the more things change...get used to it.
2006-11-17 11:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by tac 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you better change your life patterns then before you can say I am 40ish and have missed half my life somehow....think about it.
2006-11-17 11:50:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋