there are some people that have lots of money but are lousy in bed and tends to put a dent in the marriage. others don't make alot but can rock your world. so what is right
2006-11-17 11:36:23 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The keys to a good marriage are love, honesty and trust. Nothing else. Communication is important, of course, in order to convey them!
If any one of those goes missing, sooner or later the others disappear and the marriage is effectively a goner.
2006-11-17 11:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Althought money is nice, I see alot of very unhappy wealthy people honey, and I agree, you should be sexually compatible, but it's not the sex that is going to make a marriage last either. I've been married almost 18 years. We've had up and downs, twists and turns, tragedy and joys that we've shared over the years and the thing that has kept us together has been a combination of things. The first being love...no matter what, above anything else, I have love in my heart. Not only for my partner, or for my children, or things I like to do...the love of having it all. When you have that, you enjoy or can handle anything that comes your way. Next is laughter....you have to be able to laugh. WE all do foolish things, we all go through experiences that we know, someday, we are going to look back an laugh at...it's why we say "things could always be worse", and then of course, there is realism. Everything you ever dreamed of regarding those fairy tales we were taught to believe....needs to be erased from your mind. I have a feeling that whoever wrote them, never stood in a pile of dirty laundry that was waste high, or did a football field worth of dishes....if you are prepared for the reality aspect of a marriage, your demands and expectations won't be as high. Then, last but not least....you have to want this work. And when I say "want", I mean that this marriage deserves 100% of you all the time, not just when it's convenient for you. You are only going to get out of it, what you put into it. Treat him/her as you want to be treated. Give until you have nothing left and then give some more.
All too often, so many couples find one little problem and they let it fester, before they know it, they are getting divorced over something that could easily be fixed. We often forget why we first fell in love with our partners and over time we fail to realize that sometimes what it took to get him/her, is often the same things needed to keep that person in your life.
2006-11-17 19:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married but I think that there are a lot of factors in a good marriage. Being attracted to each other is important, and having enough money that you're not constantly fighting over budgets, spending, etc. would certainly help, but I think that things like communication, common interests, and in some cases perseverance are important too! Do you agree philosophically (e.g. religion, politics, etc.) and if you don't, can you at least have interesting conversations about your different philosophies without getting defensive? Do you have compatible goals in life? These are much more important than either sex or $!
2006-11-17 19:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by michelmo 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmm, good sex and money are just bonuses in the marriage if that's the case. A person who is open minded can be taught to be better in bed, and there are always better jobs to make more money. Trust, communication, compassion, respect and love are all top components of a good marriage. I know it sounds trite, but it's true. If your criteria for finding someone to spend the rest of your life with are sex and money you are not ready for marriage yet.
2006-11-17 19:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by luvbabysky 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
NONE OF THE ABOVE!!!!
The key to a great marriage is LOVE, and lots of it. Where each partner puts their own feelings, needs and wants aside, and put's their partners and their partners feelings, needs and wants before their own. Love without expecting anything in return, it's called unconditional love.
If you have that as the base for your marriage, your marriage will be strong.
2006-11-17 19:45:47 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
Finances and good sex are only part of a good or successful marriage or relationship...
However, the key is for the two of them to learn to live together and be innovative to keep the relationship from becoming complacent and or boring...
2006-11-17 20:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by cdrc_bkr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty and Communication, doing little things to make you feel loved are features to a good marriage. Sex and money are benefits.
2006-11-17 19:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and good communication are the main things. Great sex is a bonus if it comes naturally, otherwise it can be a learning experience. Money is a necessity, but if you have enough to survive your doing ok. Extra money is bonus and can make some parts of life less stressful.
2006-11-17 19:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by love2utam 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you have to ask you are not mature enough for marriage . Money can buy you sex...Sex can bring you money. Neither can buy you love...That's why Love is the most sought after by the Rich,Famous and Poor.
2006-11-17 20:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by PARIS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
compatibility and a genuine love for each other.. I feel like those are the to most important things in a marriage because we all love ourselves so we should be able to love someone quite like us enough to work hard and make it last...
2006-11-17 19:57:54 · answer #10 · answered by john316tdh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋