I am sooo scared to tell my mom. I was pregnant before @17years old but I had an abortion. What should I do?
2006-11-17 11:06:21 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I want to keep my baby. The father is saying we are too young and not prepared but I'm keepin it and I going to tell my mother even though she may not be happy that I choose to have it now and that I'm still living in her house.
2006-11-17 11:57:27 · update #1
Get a job, start putting money away in your savings account, and decide how you want to spend it. You didn't get pregnant by yourself.... what about the father? At your age, you should be able to work this out without needing any help from your parents.
Work out the problem, make your decision, take care of it like an adult, and if you decide to keep the baby, then tell your mother she is going to be a grandma. If you decide not to keep the baby, you won't have to tell your mother. Why hurt her unnecessarily?
You know that you need to solve this problem. Use birth control, or wait until you are ready to have a baby, before you have sex again. Right?
Best wishes.
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2006-11-17 11:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand how u feel. When i was young like you and pregnant, I was scared to tell my mom also.That was 13 yrs ago and 4 kids later. I am 30 now and married. But mom didn't take it as bad as i imagined. You should go ahead and tell her. Your older now, what can she do but either give you support or turn her back on you. Raising a child is alot of responsibility but as long as you have support everything will work out. Don't have another abortion, that is not the answer. Keep the baby. Good luck and GOD bless. Don't pay any attention to the ones who were negative....u never know what one is going thru until you walk in their shoes.
2006-11-17 11:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by Allie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you mother really loves you, which I am sure she does, you need to tell her. You are carrying her grandchild. As a mother I would be so devistated if my daughter had an abortion. Or, if my daughter hid a pregnancy from me. It is possible for your mom to be disappointed in your actions, but she loves you and she will love your baby because that baby is a part of you and a part of her. Besides, you are an adult! my husband and I had our first when I was 20, and 2nd when I was 21. I'm 24 now and feel that I am a great mother. Do the right thing. You are the one who has to live it.
2006-11-17 11:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing twice before I married my children's father. I know that it is hard and there will be tears but once you tell her it will be a weight lifted off your shoulders, and she will be there to support you and help you. My children are the best things that have happened to me. They bring so much joy into your life. Don't get an abortion, if you don't want to Keep the baby give it up for adoption, there are so many loving couples out there that will love that baby.
2006-11-17 11:29:14 · answer #4 · answered by angel eyes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, from now on, if you don't plan on getting pregnant again, use birth control AND condoms.... DO you want to keep this baby? If you do, you should tell people that you are pregnant, they will all know eventually.. If you choose not to keep it, then get an abortion, and probly have them tie your tubes too. Unless you are a rape victim, two abortions is a sign that you are not very careful with your body. Three abortions is getting towards dangerous, and you obviously can't be trusted to use BC properly..
2006-11-17 11:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by XX 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think at age 21 you're old enough to decide whether you will keep it or abort it. If you're deciding to keep the baby then you shouldn't be scared and tell your mom that you're pregnant...you're an adult and all you are doing is ask her to be part of your life not care for the child (I hope that's not the case).
Well good luck and I hope everything turns out okay.
2006-11-17 11:16:47 · answer #6 · answered by elektriktourist 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your 21 and are now considered an adult, don't worry about what your Mom thinks..it's you that you should be thinking about; are you ready to have a child ? Do you want this child? Your Mom, I'm sure will be there for you no matter what you decide ,talking to her, though, would probably help you to make the right choice.
2006-11-17 11:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by ArcticKitten 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know/love the dad?(no offense) if you love him and you guys are keeping it then:
A few things.... Your an adult and you should be able to care for yourself..... Your mom shouldn't condemn you but support you in whatever decision you make and what happened in the past is your business..... Most every one has A skeleton or two!!! Believe me I know. Unfortunately been there done that... I was much younger.. Your the one who has to endure the consequences from the decisions you make not moms decisions.....You can get through this but you need your mom!!!! MOMS are supposed to Love you no matter(right?).
2006-11-17 11:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by damifiknow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By 21 you should be mature enough to at least let
your mother know she will be a grandmother.
This should be an excited experience for both of
you regardless of the situation!
2006-11-17 11:24:17 · answer #9 · answered by Amber 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!!! I think your mom will love you and your baby more then ever!
I've heared your supose to wait to go public with your news of pregnancy- just in case. After 3-4 weeks your chances of miscarriage reduce dramatically
2006-11-17 11:13:22 · answer #10 · answered by linsey5130 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋