Im 42yrs, got a 30yr old boyfriend. He is crazy about me and treats me like a princess. I love him, and he loves me. The thing is, obviously Im more experienced than him, but Im surprised how little experience he actually has in the bedroom. Im an open, adventurous person and dont know how to suggest being more adventurous. If anything, you would think it would be him trying to talk me into being up for most things, but its the other way around! I think that deep down he's really just a bit shy about stuff and because Im older is waiting for me to take the lead. Im not talking threesomes or swinging here!!!! I just mean sex toys, porn films( which I know he has watched, so he isnt a prude) sex during the day, in my car, in the shower, nothing too heavy that would freak him out. Any suggestions for the ultimate seduction would be cool! Can think of a few myself!!! Just would be good to hear from anyone out there with the same prob. Guys viewpoint welcome(genuine replies)
2006-11-17 10:57:39 · 16 answers · asked by enigma64 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well, start with watching the porn together, it should all p-an out from there
good luck
2006-11-17 11:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by pepzi_bandit 2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello, your obviously an intelligent person to from your question, I know I'm probably stating the obvious here but no two people have the same sexual energy, nor the same sexual motivations in a relationship. So when your really up for some fun he might not be and visa versa. The clever bit is recognising when your both up for it, both in the right mood to take things further.
Anyway, heres something you might not have considered. "ALOT" of men find it a huge turned on! when the woman is being dominant, some men really love that (i.e. role reversal if you like?), it could be your boyfriends secret sexual fantasy to have his very own dominatrix?? could be lots and lots of fun, no! I'm not talking nasty stuff like pain or anything extreme. I'm talking role playing, whats called making a scene? Explorer your power play, yes! with the emphasis on play very much. Make it as fun as possible!! in my opinion I think the more fun and trust you can develop the more he will come out of his shyness (shell).
**You never know you might really love playing at being a powerful dom, you know what does that actually feel like?
**Role playing (the above was just an idea, an example) you could explore many different role's or aspects of your own sexual personality. You could try switching i.e. see what its like if he's the master & your his sub? theres so much you can do, its only limited by your own imagination and willingness to take risks with each other.
Best wishes to you, hope you have a great time!
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2006-11-17 11:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, Girl after my own heart! Honey, you have a golden opportunity to be the "goddess" of intimacy for this youngun'!!! GO FOR IT !!! He's looking at you through youthful eyes thinking you know everything! And you do....so why not show him. YOU make the plans for the evening...you control the way the things flow....you show him how you want to be loved and what is important to a mature woman...you teach him...that's what he wants and will remember the rest of his life. Do I sound like I've been there? YOU BETCHA" !! When you're in your grave this guy will be thinking of you and everything you ever told/taught him about being a man! Show him. Then, you can step back and let him be who he is. The ultimate seduction is inside of his head...I mean the one on his neck, honey!
2006-11-17 11:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and he loves you then you should be able to TALK. So tell him what you want...... or write a letter and leave it for hm to find. Maybe he DOESNT want to do the things you want to do...... I have found that guys DO suggest things if they want to. My ex husband had also watched porn - lots of it, as i found out - in fact he preferred that to me..... he liked watching, not doing! So just cos they watch doesnt mean they are not a prude, it means they are a voyeur and not a doer!
If you suggest things and he turns you down continually, then maybe its time to move on.
2006-11-17 19:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, you probably did the right project in breaking apart with him. I say this because it is sooo major to experience that spark for someone, for the relationship to make it through the cruel spots. the project about being friends, in spite of the actuality that...it is problematic (i have self assurance) for unmarried adult males and unmarried females to be "only friends" because one in all them continually needs better than the different does, and it seems badly. in case you do come to a call now to not be friends, in spite of the actuality that, you may ward off the reason communicate, because this guy needs to hit upon the thanks to address issues clone of a few thing human beings could. even as a lady takes that position of Explainer, she lands up being Dr. Mommy. Deep down, adult males do compared to this. on the exterior, they might experience relieved that they are not being kicked to the lessen, yet they don't love recognizing, after the smoke has cleared, that the lady observed them as weak and ineffective at coping with life. possibly what you may say is a few thing alongside the lines of, "you realize, this entire issues only isn't understanding for me..." not in a tragic, apologetic way yet a mild and breezy way. this can look chilly, yet fairly it is about being alive and believing that this guy has the braveness and personality to be alive, too, and also you're treating him (and your self) like that! advantages and powerful good fortune! :)
2016-11-25 01:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him into ann summers as the things in there are tame, look at the different toys and outfits in there together, remind him toys are not just for the women.
watch a video in bed together and after a while suggest a few things you would like him to try for you, tell him its all new to you (even if it is not, it will put him at ease)
then after a while when he is a little more adventurous, take him into a fetish shop to really open his eyes!
2006-11-17 11:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by zeldieuk2002 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound to me like an older woman that's a control freak. is that why you chose a much younger man, so that you could tell him what to do, and boss him around? or do you prefer the phrase "teach" him the ropes.
older man - younger woman, older woman - younger man, same thing.
do you have children? how are they with the new daddy?
when older people are with younger people it is usually for the control. when younger people are with older people it is usually for the money. but not always on both counts. what kind of background do you have from this mans life experiences. did you always like, for instance, his generations music etc? and he yours?
you say your "man" is inexperienced. i'm sure this did not come as a surprise. he didn't just wake up one day and didn't know what to do.
to sum things up. this sounds like a new relationship. and it sounds like you both have allot of growing up to do.
2006-11-17 11:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should take the lead. Cook him a good meal. Treat him nice. Do his favorite sexual activity then whisper in his ear all the things that you want him to go to you!
2006-11-17 11:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy some sexy lingerie & put on high heels, wait for him to come home from work & he's bound to leap onto you. Help spice up the sex life!
2006-11-17 11:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by BLONDESHELL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is just shy, but don't worry about it, he just needs to come out of his shell, a little bit more time and he'll be fine!
2006-11-17 11:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋