Well my sister is 23 and recently got married but I notice she is sad most of the time and has lost alot of weight..it hurts me to see her that way.. but she says everyday it fights and arguments about stupid stuff.. I tell her to pray about it she tells me they both pray together they are fine for a couple of days and its back to the same thing..I told her to come home but she said she got herself into the marriage so she will try to work it out ..What can I do for her she is my baby sister..I thought marriage was suppose to be happy ..I'M single and she tells me I'm better off that way..
2006-11-17 10:33:24 · 18 answers · asked by sweetlatina1272 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Miss, don't judge all marriages by your sister's. The reason people get married, and STAY married is that most marriages ARE happy. Certainly not perfect, but reasonably happy. Yes, there are horror stories. Yes, some marriages are hell on earth, but most aren't. Without knowing your sister, I've got to say that if she is newly married, and tells you to stay single, her marriage isn't going to last, and probably shouldn't last. I advise you to love your sister, and wish her luck. Don't bad mouth her husband, because that isn't what she needs. Let her decide her future for herself. Heck, they may work things out and grow old together. Now, I don't suggest you ignore bruises etc, but unless you have real concerns for her physical safety, let them figure things out for themselves. It's great that you care about her, and natural that you tend to lay blame for problems on him. Just keep being her big sister, and love her.
2006-11-17 11:02:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep praying for her. Let her know you are there for her, but do not try and pull her away from her husband unless there is abuse going on. If that is the situation please call the police to get involved. But maybe this is simple growing pains that occur in almost every marriage. You can try and make sure your sister and her husband learn how to communicate better with each other. You could make a point to spend more time with them, maybe that would help stop some arguements. I believe you are a loving sister and want the best for your sister, but a husband is for the wife and the wife is for the husband. Make sure you don't cross lines you shouldn't because she is your sister.
2006-11-17 10:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by MeToo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to find happiness outside of the marriage to draw from, so that she can put More happiness INTO the marriage.. same for him. the happier people they are overall, the easier it will be to share it with eachother! if u start depending too much one ONE person to make u happy, u are risking a lot in ur life to become unhappy. she also needs to learn how to be Strong. the funniest thing is, that the more strong, beautiful, confident and independent a woman is, the more attractive she will be to her husband. the more sad, depressed, naggy, or negative she is, the less attractive she will be to her husband.. even if it is his fault.
men are not always right , and most likely than not need extra Boosts from a woman to steer the "right" way. that is why it is so important for a woman to be smart and strong in a relationship.. so that she can help support her Husband to be Smart and Strong Man. they work together as a team. good luck, try to be there for her and encourage her to seek what is Positive, Healthy and Happy in her life... in and out of the marriag.e
2006-11-17 10:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They need to make up their minds and seeif they want a happy marriage. It is good that they pray but they also need to get to know each others personality and ajust to each other and accomadate each others differences. Tell her that must times the marriages that does not have arguments in the early stages leaves room for dishonesty in the long run. Tell Her that if she and her husband really wants a happy marriage they MUST work for it.
2006-11-17 10:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to stay out of it you may cause resentment feelings from the hubby towards you for interfering. Suggest to your sister that she bring the idea of counselling up and see where it goes and also tell her that the 1st year of marriage is be proven to be the hardest tell her to hang in there unless the guy becomes abusive.
2006-11-17 11:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is easy you had said your baby sister and her husband prays together that the fighting will end.Send them to chuch , I don't go to chuch but i do know of alot of people that if they don't go to chuch they are into it and there could be hitting included.When they go to chuch they feel like they can take on the world,there is no jealous or anything.I hope ya can try this and if they do they can get free counciling through the chuch if needed.if you don't i hope and i'll pray also that they can find a way to get through this together.
2006-11-17 10:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by Dawn l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sister has to decide on her own if she wants to stay in this or not. the only thing you can do for her is listen. i have a feeling that he is abusing her and this is the reason for the weight loss and depression. but as i said all you can do is listen and be there for her.if you can get her out of the house and do things with her. go for lunch, to the mall, catch a movie. if she just sits at home all the time, her depression will only get worse.if he begins saying she cant go out, then you go to her house and make her go, and if that means confronting him then you may have too.
2006-11-17 10:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not easy, even when you are in a good one. All you can do for your sister (it sounds like she is in a bad one) is listen to her, be there to give her moral and emotional support. Try not to bad mouth her husband. They may stay together for a long time and if you bad mouth him, it may make your relationship with your sister awkward later. Just let her vent and when/if she does leave him just be her big sister, love her.
2006-11-17 10:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by Amy D.R. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetlati,Big Momma KI thinks that you should tell your sister that God don't put more on us than we can't bare.He sees what she is going through and trust me according to his call he will find away for her to get out of that situation. Whether if he sends her,her destined true love or he will free her from all of that pain she is enduring by removing that man from her life.And tell her it might hurt at first to see things go that way but once she find that right someone she is going to feel great.
2006-11-17 11:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by Big Momma KI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the kind of thing that you can be there for her and be supportive. Now, the situation she has got herself in is something that she needs to figure out for herself and decide on her own. Whatever is going on between her and her new husband has to be taken up between them. Don't steer her in any direction, but just be there for her when she needs you and do whatever she asks of you. She did get herself into her own mess, and why she married him I have no idea....but this is something she needs to deal with on her own but with your love and support.
2006-11-17 10:38:22 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋