She doesn't know I know. But she told a friend and that friend told my friend and she told me. Should i be worried? Is that not kinda young???? And her boyfriends kinda shady........
2006-11-17 10:33:12 · 33 answers · asked by love_guilt_n_longing 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it's TOO YOUNG.... pray for her to make wise decisions! it's kinda hard at that age; but, good for YOU!!
2006-11-17 10:36:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absoultley agree!!!!!!!!!
14 is under age and is against the law for a person under 16 to have sex.
I would try and find out directly from the girl how it came to happen and whether the person she had sex with, was older than her or the same age. She might be too afraid or too ashamed to admit to it, but don't blame her as the most important thing is that she is going to be beleived.
If the guy who had sex with her is over the age of 18 for example, then he is a fully mature adult and is responsible for what he did and he will be charged with child-molestation if she wants to report this to the police. This will be considered a crimminal offence and I would try and get the young girl to report it when he might very well do this to another under-aged child.
If the guy was under 16, then he won't be charged with child molestation but he will need to be questioned seriously about what he has done and could be accussed of rape if the girl wants to press any charges.
Either way, this is a really awful thing to be having to hear about and hopefully, there might not be any truth to the allegations, but children usually don't lie about things like this and she must be taken seriously whatever happens. As her friend, I would try and encourage her to tell an adult about it like her parents or someone at school because what happened should not have happened to any child.
Let her know that you know because you were told by other people. Whether her boyfriend is shady or not, if he should not have had sex with her and this is a pretty serious offence he has committed and it is likely that she was forced into it by him and she feels afraid and guilty for what he had done to her.
You are a good friend to her, so do the right thing and get her to report this to another adult because he is in the wrong. She will be frightened of getting him into trouble, but if she doesn't tell an adult, he might do it again to her or another child and if he is 18 or older, will be in very serious trouble indeed as he will be a child abuser.
I have given you the right advice but I just hope you can get to talk to your friend about this so that it can never happen again.
2006-11-17 11:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by Shikira-trudi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't be worried that she had sex, rather you should be worried about why she did it. If her boyfriend is shady then she probably did not do it for the right reasons. However this is apparently information you should not have because she did not tell you directly so you have no way of telling what those reasons were.
2006-11-17 10:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by hydro in va 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 16:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. 14 is too young, but it especially depends on her religion, but I believe in after marriage sex. You never know if she can get pregnant, and if she uses condoms. Tell her to stop while she's ahead. She may not regret it now, but later she will when she might have to take care of her baby singlehandedly, because once the bf sees the baby they dump their gfs because it's too much responsibility for them. Especially if she attendeds high school and college. This could lead to a poor education, because of this she may drop out, and work for minium wage (okay may-be not minium wage, but may-be not the best job) . 0=)
2006-11-17 10:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be worried if nobody has told her what to look out for. If she's 'doing it' uninformed, that only means trouble. Be careful...She'll defend her bf no matter how bad he is. Bring it up some time, like..."Hey, do you know anyone that's had sex? I want to know what it's like"
That should get a conversation started. At least make sure she's using protection.
2006-11-17 10:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to have a face to face with her. You never know it may be a lie. And in my opinion that is to young. But that seems to be what the world is going. But I tell you what IF i ever catch my daughter having sex at 14 i am going to jail
2006-11-17 10:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by Missy_Eye's 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I definitely think you should be concerned she is your daughter and you want her to make good choices. I think you should try to open a dialogue with your daughter and discuss sexual behavior and safe, healthy sexual behavior.
Is she using protection? does she have accurate information about sexual behavior? does she know about her boyfriend's sexual behavior? is this hger first partner?
And the last sentence "her boyfriends kinda shady" what does that mean? You need to talk with your daughter and encourage her to be safe. Do I sense hesitancy on your part? If so, you need to be the adult and get your daughter to open up and talk to you. Hopefully, you have rules and the like in your house.
I firmly believe children want parents who set limits, provide consistency, and stay involved in their lives. Don't sleep on your job she is your daughter and she needs you!
2006-11-17 14:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetness2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First find out if it's a lie or not. Then if it is the truth then confront the shady boyfriend and tell him to back off. If he really likes your friend then he'll cool off for a while.
2006-11-17 10:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by cabooseking 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
one of them could be lying, it's not first hand. I lost my virginity at 15, i dont think anything one of my friends told me would have stopped me. It was too young, but at the end of the day she is her own person. The most you can do is try and reassure her that she doesn't need to do it. That she might regret it. then it has to be her choice.
2006-11-17 10:36:46 · answer #10 · answered by maria h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it could just be a rumor and if you are worried about her then talk to her about it and tell her all of the dangers of it. Sex can be very dangerous because of the diseases. Talk it out and see what she says about it. But like I said, it could just be a rumor.
2006-11-17 10:36:40 · answer #11 · answered by Brianna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋