I have a friend who just turned 17 this month. She's in the 12th grade. She is pregnant and she doesn't know how to tell her mother. She wants to get an abortion because she can't have a baby right now. But in the state of Michigan if you are under the age of 18 then you have to have parental consent. She is so afraid of what her mother might say and she doesn't have that much time because you can only have an abortion up to 24 weeks and she is already at 16 weeks. Please help us! What should we do and how can she explain this to her mother?
2006-11-17 10:28:19 · 14 answers · asked by Remy K 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
she must tell her parents, there is nothing she can do but tell her parents! There was a talk show, I think it was Oprah, and it had this girl on there that got pregnant at an even younger age than your friend. She was facing the same situation and decided to hide her pregnancy and tried to abort her child by starving herself and having her boyfriend walk on her stomach. She ended up delivering in the bathroom before dinner. The girl believes she delivered a stillborn, but just incase it was alive, she stabbed it dead to make sure it wasn't in pain. She and her boyfriend now are serving time.
2006-11-17 10:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please read the whole thing I spoke my opinion in the first part- but the rest is a totally unbias opinion. I'm 18 and have seen various ppl have abortions- it sickens me and I honestly wish you the best.
I might be old fashioned on this one....
If you are "old" enough to perform an adult act like having sex-- you have to grow up and deal with the consequences- like an adult. Which, in you or your friends case is being pregnant. Having a baby shouldn't be something horrible that you have to run from or be able to murder then go about on your day to day life like nothing ever happened... I'm sure if she did get an abortion she'd go have sex again without thinking twice about it.
In my honest opinion- go through with the pregnancy- Give the baby up for adoption so that it can have to chance to live a happy life.
Either way your mom needs to know!
Start off by telling her you need her help and that you understand if she is upset. Any mom will eventually understand and will love you regardless of your mistakes. Hopefully- she will put aside her feelings and help you make a honest, educated decision.
2006-11-17 10:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by linsey5130 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to be the "woman" she was when she got pregnant and tell her mother the truth. if she can be woman enough to get pregnant then why can she not have the strength and w/e else to take care of the baby she created w/ someone??? she shouldn't abort the baby, it's WRONG, ending a helpless child's life for your OWN wrong doings!! she needs to tell her mom soon and deal w/ the things she has set for herself. meaning to give up ALOT of social fun and things like that to concentrate on getting the best possible education she can, while taking good care of her baby, while trying to have money on the table. does is sound hard, those are the consequences of getting pregnant as a teenager. and not to sound even more mean, i hope her mother let's her stay in the house, makes her get a job, makes her have and take care of the baby w/ her help, but not letting her daughter leave grandma as the baby-sitter FULL TIME!
i hope your friend does the right thing, not abort the baby and go on to do big things w/ her child or w/out like maybe opting out for adoption, wish you all the best luck!! ~ lucy
2006-11-17 10:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by littleyoungsupernova 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to worry what her mother will think it is not her body and most of the time parents are a little more understanding then you would think. Her mom is her best option. Also let her know if there is any doubt in her mind about keeping the baby than she should or at least give it to a family who wants children and can't have one. Sometimes family needs some time to accept things but they always come around and help out. good luck to you and her
2006-11-17 10:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you get the school counselor or a doctor involved. They have unfortunately, dealt with this too many times, but they will be a big help with mediation and information. Do it soon though because if you wait to long you may run out of time for the abortion if that is your choice, and taking a chance with the health of the baby if you choose to carry it to full term. Take care hon and good luck,
2006-11-17 10:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay well the RIGHT thing to do is actually tell the mother and go on with the pregnancy....but honestly, if i was in this position, i would do anything to get rid of the "child" so that I wont get in trouble. So if you cant find any way to abort, then look for remidies or have her get punched in the stomach....I know that sounds mean but if its a life or death situation, then do what u have to do.....
2006-11-17 10:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so she wanted unprotected sex but not the baby ... this may sound harsh but your friend knew exactly what she was doing. she could have been forgiven ifor innocence if she was i dont know 13/14 years of age . Now I am not anti-abortion ( or whatever you call them) but through your friends mere irresponsibility stupidity a life will be lost before its born. I think she should keep the baby and stay happy with it. it will make her a better person anyway. her ties with the baby will much stronger after its gone , trust me. oh yeah she should tell her mother too. Can the consequence of telling mummy bet worse than living with the guilt that you have taken a life. a life of what was part of your own body.
2006-11-17 10:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by singing_saagar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God. Does she realize that her baby looks like a human being right now. I just had a 4D ultrasound done of my baby at 19 weeks, and she is so cute.. That is ridiculous and I have to say, Im sorry but that is a little too late to be having an abortion. Sorry.
2006-11-17 10:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go with her when she tells her mother for her mom want jump on her or something but n e ways i think it's good that she is having an abortion because she thinking of the best inerest of the unborn baby because she knows she can't provide for it now SHE IS SMART
2006-11-17 11:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by ~MISS SEXINESS~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kno u prbbly hear this alot but dont have an abortion it kills a baby that could have a great life... tell her mom casually or when there talking and she should have the baby and put it up for adoption if she cant take care of it and maybe even a close family memeber of friend could adopt it but its better then killing a baby that could have a great life infront of it... think about it... what if ur mom had an aborion with u!
2006-11-17 11:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by Marjorie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋